Paula Heller Garland Quotes & Sayings

You must have been the best mother in the world.
Have prayed seventeen times a day ... just for me.
Been the strongest woman on earth.
Had a direct connection to God.
Have been hand-picked to parent a daughter like me.
Know how much I miss you everyday.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you.
You are woven into every thought, dream and ambition I possess ...
Happy Mother's Day, mom.
I miss you and love you ... — Paula Heller Garland

If someone in my life could grow with confrontation and feedback, why would I choose to refrain? — Paula Heller Garland

I may not always like at times, but life is a beautiful blend of joy, tragedy and dreams. If not for one, I could not have the other. — Paula Heller Garland

Ironically, most of my growth has come through struggle. — Paula Heller Garland

What would you change about yourself if you could change anything? — Paula Heller Garland

When you are used to being hurt, you will push people away - even those who really love you. Stop. Embrace love. It will change you. — Paula Heller Garland

Don't beg a man to keep you. If he isn't sure you are the right one make the decision for yourself. You deserve better than maybe. — Paula Heller Garland

Often after arguing about differing opinions, I hear people say, "let's agree to disagree." I look forward to a time, so open-minded I'll hear people say, "I'm right and you can be, too — Paula Heller Garland

In order to change it is important to know who you are, what you believe, and how you became that person. Only then can we live more comfortably in the present and cease unconscious reactions that result in undesired outcomes. — Paula Heller Garland

One of the most important lessons I've recently learned? I have to move forward without that apology. Waiting on it has bound me to an anchor that is pulling me under. What would make the other person apologize for hurting me when they're far too selfish to notice they have? — Paula Heller Garland

I call my it "the Book of Paula" or BoP for short. Those are my own opinions, based on experience. — Paula Heller Garland

Change doesn't happen all at one. It's a gradual wearing away of the unconsciousness. — Paula Heller Garland

Is there anything you have been putting off until another day? How about today? — Paula Heller Garland

Enjoy the music in your earbuds in your own head. Dancing and singing because you enjoy the tune so much you can't contain yourself doesn't amuse others in Starbucks. — Paula Heller Garland

So often I speak of "out of the box thinking" and living a "conscious life"; however, not regularly do I meet someone who lives such a life. What an inspiration (and challenge) to see someone who really lives in the now, who looks forward and dares to stop when thoughts turn to pain from the past! — Paula Heller Garland

Hurting the person who hurt you won't heal your pain. Let them go. Karma will deal with them you don't have to write the script for the universe. — Paula Heller Garland

The moment I felt my life return was when I took a breath and said to him, No thank you. Were I as perfect as you are demanding, life would be rather boring. — Paula Heller Garland

All of the years I spent trying to be someone you could be proud of would have been better spent being proud of myself for who I already was. — Paula Heller Garland

The longer you fight to be right the less time you'll have to be happy. — Paula Heller Garland

God put me on earth for a few specific reasons. Being your mom was the most important and I I thank Him everyday for the opportunity and gift. — Paula Heller Garland

People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way
at least initially. — Paula Heller Garland

I had to ask myself why I'm continuing to engage in behavior I knew hurt. What was my payoff? Did it confirm my belief I was not enough? Did I think I needed to suffer? Did I think I could save him? Why not save myself instead? What a miserable realization that I knew all of this yet failed to take action. — Paula Heller Garland

You can't sweep something broken into a bag and call it whole. It takes repair. — Paula Heller Garland

I'm amazed how my soul is served the messages I need to be fed at exactly the time I'm in need. When I'm open. — Paula Heller Garland

One event will not identify the person I become. — Paula Heller Garland

Don't forget to pause and nourish yourself a bit along the way. When you're born to help others sometimes you forget to help yourself. — Paula Heller Garland

In order to grow a relationship each person must be willing to expose their weaknesses, not just their strengths. — Paula Heller Garland

What if you let go of your excuses? — Paula Heller Garland

The truth, for me, is I do accept everyone.
I believe people are going to be who they are going to be. Moreover, I strongly disagree that it is my place in life to judge who they are. Or to attempt to mold them into whom I believe they should become. — Paula Heller Garland

Back then I recall yelling ugly things like, "Don't do it"! at the happy couple. Yes, that was me. Obnoxious jilted girl, party of one. — Paula Heller Garland

The stuff I read about codependency in the 90's really mucked me up. Don't get me wrong, I needed it then, no doubt. And I don't regret learning to take care of myself and be independent. Maybe I just overlearned it. I went from a meek care-taker to being an independent, shout it from the roof tops, woman who needed no one. — Paula Heller Garland

One of the most positive things that has come of that communication is I have been able to see how much I have grown. When I listened to them tell me things they saw in me back then I was amazed. I didn't see those things then. Not at all. And I can see them today. — Paula Heller Garland

I don't know the perfect thing to say when a person is hurting but I do know the last thing they want to hear are reasons they shouldn't be hurting. — Paula Heller Garland

Life became more aligned when I started taking some of the advice I'd been dishing out to my friends. — Paula Heller Garland

The burden of my anxiety is not my child's. — Paula Heller Garland

And my heart is breaking
My heart is lying on the floor in a pool of tears
I keep asking the same questions only to have them unanswered — Paula Heller Garland

Taking a break from digging into your own issues doesn't make you unauthentic. It makes you sane. — Paula Heller Garland

I lit the candles and said out loud, "what am I waiting on? Someone to sell them in a garage sale for a quarter after I die?" And it was beautiful. And the smell was even more incredible than I remembered. — Paula Heller Garland

The love was so passionate. Neither were happy with anyone else. But when a time came that they were able to be together, too much had been left unsaid. Too much time had passed and too much hurt filled their hearts. — Paula Heller Garland

As I was standing in my kitchen cooking yesterday, a quiet task that causes my mind to begin reminiscing (similar to washing dishes, cleaning the bathrooms and mowing), I reached for the kitchen scissors and off I went. Kitchen scissors. Who knew there were special scissors to cut food items? Mom did. — Paula Heller Garland

None of this interpersonal work will matter if you don't use the things you learn. — Paula Heller Garland

When we see others cry it is difficult, not because of feeling their pain, but your own. — Paula Heller Garland

Bringing the workbook to publication also meant an ending. An ending of many days and hours of interaction with Tyrone. I knew the day would bring that ending when we began but as it crept closer I felt the weight of hesitation as much as the excitement of relief. I found myself with thoughts like, "it will never be the same again as it is now" and "I am not sure I want this interaction to end". I love that man dearly and will forever be changed from knowing him. Handing our diligent work over to Kendall-Hunt for publication was as if I was handing the entirety of the relationship over. — Paula Heller Garland

Late that night we were both still thinking about the events as they unfolded. He suggested a drive back to the water to bring some closure. As we stood in the water I felt so thankful to have been with a friend capable of hearing and expressing emotion. — Paula Heller Garland