Ryan O Connell Quotes & Sayings

As far as I can tell, there are three guarantees in life: death, taxes, and someone deciding they don't love you anymore. — Ryan O'Connell

That was an important thing for me to realize. It's perhaps the best lesson I could have ever taught myself. Getting it would eventually be the one thing that released me from my neuroses and let me be truly happy.
I'm not special. — Ryan O'Connell

I want to know you. You seem like someone worth knowing. Every day I feel like I'm surrounded by people with hard edges and sour faces but I get the sense that you're different. Too often people seem to think that they have the answers to everything. Their faces are trapped in permascowls and they can't be bothered with anything besides their own narcissism. You aren't like that. You still ask questions. You're still looking for the answers. — Ryan O'Connell

Because only when you discover that you know nothing can you really start to learn something. — Ryan O'Connell

We need stressful days in order to be happy. We need days when we get zero sleep and are working tirelessly on a deadline. Because if we didn't, the lazy days wouldn't feel good ... We need to always be working towards something in order to feel useful and have a sense of purpose. — Ryan O'Connell

Sometimes the worst kind of love teaches you the best lessons. — Ryan O'Connell

Transitioning to adulthood is hard enough. Having your friends judge your progress doesn't make it any easier. — Ryan O'Connell

You can only really grow when you start being honest with yourself about who you are in the first place. — Ryan O'Connell

My mother is my lifeline and I love her a scary amount, but sometimes when I talk to her, I can't help but feel like it's going at the pace of a Sofia Coppola movie. — Ryan O'Connell

You'll always care about your first love. That doesn't make you crazy, it just makes you human. When relationships end, it's not so cut and dry. You carry everyone you've ever loved into every relationship thereafter. — Ryan O'Connell

You will fall in love with your friends. Deep, passionate love. You will create a second family with them, a kind of tribe that makes you feel less vulnerable. Sometimes our families can't love us all the time. Sometimes we're born into families who don't know how to love us properly. They do as much as they can but the rest is up to our friends. They can love you all the time, without judgement. At least the good ones can. — Ryan O'Connell

I fall in love with ideas and fantasies rather than whole beings and then I sit here and wonder why I'm still alone. It's because I don't fucking pay attention. I'm too busy thinking about tomorrow that today falls through the cracks. — Ryan O'Connell

People owe us nothing: they can blow through our lives, make us feel hopeful and loved, and then disappear with no explanation or apology. — Ryan O'Connell

We've created a dating culture in which we never say what we really feel. — Ryan O'Connell

I think the reason why twentysomethings are so fixated on age is because we feel a pressure to be a certain way at 23, at 25, at 29. There are all of these invisible deadlines with our careers and with love and drinking and drugs. I can't do coke at 25. I need to be in a LTR at 27. I can't vomit from drinking at 26. I just can't! We feel so much guilt for essentially acting our age and making mistakes. We're obsessed with this idea of being domesticated and having our shit together. It's kind of sad actually because I don't think we ever fully get a chance to enjoy our youth. We're so concerned about doing things "the right way" that we lose any sense of pleasure in doing things the wrong way. Youth may be truly wasted on the young. — Ryan O'Connell

My generation is the first to be in charge of their image. We call the shots and tell you how to feel about our lives. It doesn't matter if what we are projecting is phony. If someone believes it, that makes it true. — Ryan O'Connell

In your twenties, you expect to accumulate a graveyard's worth of failed romances. But what you don't count on is having to bury so many treasured friendships alongside them. — Ryan O'Connell

But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you're not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are. — Ryan O'Connell

You will fall in love with someone for one night and one night only. They'll come to you when you need them and be gone in the morning when you don't. At first, this will make you feel empty and you'll try to convince yourself that you could've loved this person for longer than a night, but you can't. Some people are just meant to make cameo appearances, some are destined to be a pithy footnote. That's okay though. Not every person we love has to stick around. Sometimes it's better to leave while you're still ahead. Sometimes it's better to leave before you get unloved. — Ryan O'Connell

Joel Tippie, as well as Amy Ryan and Barb Fitzsimmons, for making these books so gorgeous Every. Single. Time. The amazing Brenna Franzitta, Josh Weiss, Mark Rifkin, Valerie Shea, Christine Cox, and Joan Giurdanella, for taking such good care of my words. Lauren Flower, Alison Lisnow, Sandee Roston, Diane Naughton, Colleen O'Connell, Aubry Parks-Fried, Margot Wood, Patty Rosati, Molly Thomas, Megan Sugrue, Onalee Smith, and Brett Rachlin, for all your marketing and publicity efforts, which are far too substantial to name. — Veronica Roth