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...whenever i dehumanize another, I necessarily dehumanize all that is human---including myself. — The Arbinger Institute
...no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party begins to consider how he might be wrong. — The Arbinger Institute
Am I as vigilant in demanding the eradication of my own bigotry as I am in demanding the eradication of theirs? — The Arbinger Institute
Because if you are the mess, you can clean it. Improvement doesn't depend on others. — The Arbinger Institute
the way we can know if we've betrayed ourselves is by whether we are still desiring to be helpful. — The Arbinger Institute
Self-betrayal" 1. An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of "self-betrayal." 2. When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal. 3. When I see the world in a self-justifying way, my view of reality becomes distorted. 4. So - when I betray myself, I enter the box. — The Arbinger Institute
If you see people of a particular race or culture as objects, your view of them is racist, whatever your color or lack of color or you power or lack of power. — The Arbinger Institute
That I am responsible for how I have been feeling, not only for what I have been doing. — The Arbinger Institute
When you begin to see others as people,' Ben told me, 'issues related to race, ethnicity, religion, and so on begin to look and feel different. You end up seeing people who have hopes, dreams, fears, and even justifications that resemble your own. — The Arbinger Institute
Because most who are trying to put an end to injustice only think of the injustices they believe they themselves have suffered. Which means that they are concerned not really with injustice but with themselves. They hide their focus on themselves behind the righteousness of their outward cause. — The Arbinger Institute
In every moment...we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects. They either count like we do or they don't. — The Arbinger Institute
always remember that it is progress, not perfection, you should be looking for. — The Arbinger Institute
If we have deep problems, it's because we are failing at the deepest part of the solution. And when we fail at this deepest level, we invite our own failure. — The Arbinger Institute
But like many who are lonely, I was more preoccupied with others than were those who lived to socialize...Everyone I hated was always with me, even when I was alone. They had to be, for I had to remember what and why I hated in order to remind myself to stay away from them. — The Arbinger Institute
The more sure I am that I'm right, the more likely I will actually be mistaken. My need to be right makes it more likely that I will be wrong! Likewise, the more sure I am that I am mistreated, the more likely I am to miss ways that I am mistreating others myself. My need for justification obscures the truth. — The Arbinger Institute
As painful as it is to receive contempt from another, it is more debilitating by far to be filled with contempt for another. — The Arbinger Institute
There is a question I have learned to ask myself when I am feeling bothered about others: am I holding myself to the same standard I am demanding of them? — The Arbinger Institute
Whenever we are in the box, we have a need that is met by others' poor behavior. And so our boxes encourage more poor behavior in others, even if that behavior makes our lives more difficult. — The Arbinger Institute
My disability was my justification! It was my excuse for failing to engage with the world. — The Arbinger Institute
People whose hearts are at war toward others can't consider others' objections and challenges enough to be able to find a way through them. — The Arbinger Institute
Most problems in life are not solved merely by correction. — The Arbinger Institute
A solution to the inner war solves the outer war as well. — The Arbinger Institute
Have you ever been in a conflict with someone who thought he was wrong. If you are not wrong, then you will be willing to consider how you might be mistaken. — The Arbinger Institute
...when I betray myself, others' faults become immediately inflated in my heart and mind. I begin to 'horribilize' others. That is, I begin to make them out to be worse than they really are. And I do this because the worse they are, the more justified I feel. — The Arbinger Institute
Self-deception is like this. It blinds us to the true causes of problems, and once we're blind, all the "solutions" we can think of will actually make matters worse. Whether at work or at home, self-deception obscures the truth about ourselves, corrupts our view of others and our circumstances, and inhibits our ability to make wise and helpful decisions. — The Arbinger Institute
In the way we regard our children, our spouses, neighbors, colleagues, and strangers, we choose to see others either as people like ourselves or as objects.They either count like we do or they don't. In the former case we regard them as we regard ourselves, we say our hearts are at peace toward them. In the latter case, since we systematically view them as inferior, we say our hearts are at war. — The Arbinger Institute
So if we are going to find lasting solutions to difficult conflicts or external wars we find ourselves in, we first need to find our way out of the internal wars that are poisoning our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes toward others. If we can't put an end to the violence within us, there is no hope for putting an end to the violence without. — The Arbinger Institute
Most wars between individuals are of the 'cold' rather than the 'hot' variety---lingering resentment, for example, grudges long held, resources clutched rather than shared, help not offered. These are the acts of war that most threaten our homes and workplaces. — The Arbinger Institute
But none of that is possible," he continued, "if my heart is at war. A heart at war needs enemies to justify its warring. It needs enemies and mistreatment more than it wants peace. — The Arbinger Institute