Laura Dave Quotes & Sayings

We only really remember things for five years. After that, what we remember, what's actually etched in our brain is our memory of the thing, not the thing itself. And five years after that, what's left is our memory of the memory. — Laura Dave

Growing up is never idyllic, is it? Or it'd be called something else. — Laura Dave

She has learned, over time, that the way someone laughs often mirrors who they are. How they are. — Laura Dave

Maybe this only had to be as big as I let it be. So why was I letting it be everything? — Laura Dave

Why people travel far from home-far from where they started. There was, of course, the obvious reason:escape. Escape from the monotony of every day. SO many of us chasing what we wished our everyday existence could be instead. But there was a less obvious and perhaps more important reason. Somewhere, often right in the middle of a trip, you got to believe this was your everyday life. You got to believe you were never going home again. — Laura Dave

There are words and there are feelings and somewhere between where the two meet is the truth — Laura Dave

If looks could kill, I might have killed him. — Laura Dave

it is an amazing thing to be with someone who really sees you. — Laura Dave

What happened the day I met your father,' she said, 'is that I learned you ave to choose. For better or for worse. You have to choose what your life is going to look like. — Laura Dave

That is love, baby girl. Working hard when we don't feel like it. — Laura Dave

only knows that the important part is to decide to stay. Again and again. And, on the days you can't, to resist deciding anything else. — Laura Dave

We have to figure out how to let go, and forgive. This is our job — Laura Dave

Saw me. And it seemed like he was going to do the right thing. But then slowly, evenly, he shook his head. "Your father is welcome to stay on and help run the vineyard. He knows that we would love to have him. He knows that was our preference." I stared at him in disbelief. "Wow, just when I thought you might understand. — Laura Dave

In physics: It's called simultaneity. In music: rhythm. In your life: epic failure. — Laura Dave

car. I headed down CA-116 - the winding road — Laura Dave

Josh had told me a long time ago that he had this theory that an entire relationship was based on what occurred over the course of the first five minutes you know each other. That everything that came after those first minutes was just details being filled in. Meaning: you already knew how deep the love was, how instinctually you felt about someone.
What happened in their first five minutes?
Time stopped. — Laura Dave

This wasn't because he liked me, I was sure. It had more to do with him banking on what we of wedding age had all become witnesses to - how during these wedding weekends, single women, feeling a little lonely, maybe, or just feeling a little too far from being the bride, found themselves loosening their own rules, opting to be more flexible, more quickly. — Laura Dave

She tries to figure out how to say it so he hears her. — Laura Dave

You think if you don't talk about it, you can just pretend everything is all right? Everything is not all right. Not with us, not with your parents, not with anything today. And if you let yourself go anywhere real with it, you have to acknowledge it. — Laura Dave

Belief isn't supposed to make sense, at least not all the time. In that, it finds its power. It gets to creep up on you and carry you forward. Until you can carry yourself again. — Laura Dave

People screw up, you know. You shouldn't hold it against them. You shouldn't expect everyone to know everything you're thinking about or not getting from them. It doesn't mean they don't love you. They screw up. -Bobby — Laura Dave

We loved each other in the same difficult, unusable way where you took turns doing it, instead of ever managing to do it at the same time. — Laura Dave

Most of the time a person wants something more than anything else. You can tell because at the end of the day that's what they're willing to fight for" -Dan — Laura Dave

I looked at Finn, tempted to explain what had just happened, Bobby moving toward him, though I kept my mouth shut, in favor of trusting what I had learned this weekend, in the face of everything falling apart, and maybe coming together in a greater way than I could have hoped for. You couldn't always work so hard to fix it. Even if things didn't always go the way they should, sometimes they went exactly where they needed to" -Georgia — Laura Dave

Finn and Bobby are fighting over the wrong thing. But at least they're fighting." "And how is that good?" "Because that's the only way to get somewhere better." He shrugged. "If you fight, you work it out. If you don't fight, you move into your own corners, and nothing gets decided there. — Laura Dave

Wasn't that the gift of a home? You looked at it the same way, but then when you needed it to, it showed you all over again the many ways you'd been during the time you had been living there. The many ways it brought you back to yourself. The many ways it still brought you back to yourself. — Laura Dave

But Eve - ow whoever comes after Eve - cant save him from eventually doing the hard work that comes after that. The work he has never wanted to do, that she spent the better part of her life trying to protect him from having to do. To jump beyond the impasses, the stuck places, to go deeper with someone. You can do the work to honor what you created, or you don't. But if you don't, you get to the same point with the next person, don't you? You get to the same point, the same questioning, until you push through it. Until you are brave enough to not expect anyone else to see in you what you can't see in yourself. — Laura Dave

That's the brutality of a breakup, isn't it? The people leaving think they did everything possible, the people left behind think what is possible hasn't even been tested yet. — Laura Dave

Even now, after Nick had caused me pain, the truth was I didn't want to cause him any. Wasn't that love, after all? — Laura Dave

Why does it take fear to move you? Why does it take chaos to make us understand exactly what we need to do? — Laura Dave

From vine to finish. A single grape the start of it, this unlabeled bottle right here in my hand the end of it, the eight hundred grapes inside. — Laura Dave

Fate suggests no agency. Synchronization is all about agency. It involves all systems running in a state where different parts of the system are almost, if not precisely, ready. — Laura Dave

A small, inexplicable part of me was scared, right from the start - of counting on someone, of trusting that he'd always be there for me - as much it was exactly what another part of me wanted. — Laura Dave

Beauty won't protect you. Not in the end. What will is the one thing you can't plan for. The one thing you can't save for or search for or even find. It has to find you and decide to stay. Time. More of it. More of it to try and make things right. — Laura Dave

Love doesn't leave you. Not all at once. It creeps back in, making you think it can be another way, that it can still be another way, and you have to remind yourself of the reasons that it probably won't be. — Laura Dave

I'm not sure we get to choose when or where we find what we're looking for. — Laura Dave

I just think people forget what it feels like to really be in love, you know? Like when that's the only thing in the world that matters. I just don't want to decide it's not that important. — Laura Dave

More than one thing is never true. People love to say the opposite, love to talk about inner conflict, nuances, levels of complication. But if this last year has taught her anything, it has taught her that people are clearer on what they want than they admit to themselves. They want something, or they don't. They decide to keep working at a relationship or they give up. They love someone or they love someone else. And if they love someone else, it is often the idea that they love most, especially when they haven't learned enough to figure out that this new person probably won't save them either. — Laura Dave

I didn't know yet that you can always find that perfect moment right before everything shatters. — Laura Dave

These things ... they are who you are. They brought you here. To this day. You didn't give me a chance to understand that ever the unattractive parts of you, the messy parts, were something I could accept. — Laura Dave

I couldn't help but wonder if that was what love was
believing that someone was going to come through, in the end, and that it would still count — Laura Dave

I stopped paying attention to her. I stopped doing the things that someone does for the person he loves. Because I was tired. Because other things always seemed to matter a little bit more." He — Laura Dave

It seemed to me that the universe was tricky that way-as soon as you didn't need something as badly, as soon as you hold onto the hope of it less tightly, you get a second shot at it. — Laura Dave

There is a moment in every relationship when you see the whole thing. The question is when does the moment come? Is it the first time you see the person and instinctively know that things between you are going to work out, or fail? Or is it a moment toward the end, however you get there, when you realize that there is something behind this persons eyes that you were never able to touch, no matter how hard you tried? — Laura Dave

What I'm trying to say is that it will be okay between you and Nate. Because you both want that. Because you both want that more than anything. It sounds simple, but I'm learning that the problems start when you want different things — Laura Dave

Maybe that was just childhood? You hurry up, pick the opposite path, try to make childhood end. Then, as an adult, you have no idea why you were running away. What, exactly, you needed so desperately to get away from. — Laura Dave

It's weird to live somewhere where you can't see the stars. — Laura Dave

Going to find what he was looking for there. Would you feel better if I told you I had some great photography opportunities — Laura Dave

You have something you want to do. Something you like to do. Something you're good at. Why don't we start with that? Why don't you let that be the entire plan for now? — Laura Dave

You have to grow about eight hundred grapes to get just one bottle of wine. If that isn't an argument to finish the bottle, I don't know what is. - Anonymous — Laura Dave

You can't finish the things you weren't supposed to start. — Laura Dave

Knew each other in that honest, unmitigated way that people get to know you who meet you when you're still young. Before all the rest of it. Before it becomes both easier and harder to know yourself. — Laura Dave

The part where you need to choose among the choices that are there, and not the ones that aren't there anymore. At least not how you need them to be. You're still stuck on some imaginary idea you have of how it could have been. You need to think about how it is now. And how you want it to be. — Laura Dave

People don't break up because someone's family is a little ... messy. If that were the case, no one would ever get married. — Laura Dave

It's harder to appreciate what you don't have to look hard to find. — Laura Dave

If you're not careful, you run out of time. — Laura Dave

Why could we say more to each other when it counted less? — Laura Dave

There are different ways to be confused about how someone's disappointed you. Some lie about the future because they wanted to forget the past. But some will lie about the past because they think it will give you both a future. — Laura Dave

Sometimes you don't know it. What you have been waiting your whole life for. You don't know until it is happening. — Laura Dave