Kimberly Giles Quotes & Sayings

Life is not out to get you, even though it feels that way sometimes. You are totally safe every step of the way (at least you have the option of seeing life that way if you want to). Life is about learning to walk the tightrope, find your balance, and trust God, life and yourself in the process. And you can do this, because there is really nothing to fear. When you get this concept it is going to change everything. — Kimberly Giles

Most people think that once they lose the weight or make more money they will finally feel good about them themselves, but they are usually disappointed when they get there to find they don't feel better. This happens because real self-worth can't be earned. Real self-worth comes from understanding the truth about who you are and understanding that your value is infinite and absolute no matter what. This is the only way to peace. — Kimberly Giles

Real forgiveness is about fundamentally changing the way you see a situation. It is about clearing away the fog of fear and seeing the situation and the people involved accurately. It means acknowledging that there is really nothing to forgive because you are bulletproof and can't be diminished anyway. It means seeing this experience as a lesson, embracing what it is here to teach you, and choosing to be more loving toward yourself and others. — Kimberly Giles

The world needs people who have survived mistakes, tragedies, and trials to help the rest of us through. Where would we be if Victor Frankl had never experienced what he did during the war? He wouldn't have used his experiences to benefit millions of people around the world.
The world needs you to let go of self-pity and shame regarding your life experiences, too. The world needs you to use the things you have learned for good. Stop letting your past mistakes define you and affect your value. Let go of separation and victimhood and find meaning in what you have been through. — Kimberly Giles

Be a good person, do good things, learn, and love other people, but do these things because you love yourself, God, life and people, not because you fear going to hell if you don't. Keep the commandments (or whatever tenets you believe) because you want to be happy. Do it for you. God and the universe will unconditionally love you no matter which path you choose. You can learn whatever lessons you choose for yourself. If you want to learn things the hard way and experience fear, guilt and shame that is okay. But nothing you do (or don't do) can separate you from love. — Kimberly Giles

When a person feels appreciated for their infinite and absolute value, you can then communicate about any issue and you will have their cooperation and respect. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: You can choose to see your journey as a classroom without the fear of failure. Or you can choose to live in fear and see it as a test. It's up to you. — Kimberly Giles

All bad behavior is really a request for love, attention, or validation. — Kimberly Giles

And an attitude of trust and seeing your personal trials as a perfect part of your process of becoming will always serve you, especially since the only other option is fear, bitterness, and anger, and those emotions don't serve you at all. — Kimberly Giles

You can experience this moment in fear, focused on yourself, or you can experience it in trust and love. It's up to you. BUT (and this is a big but), if you don't consciously choose to experience this moment in trust and love, your subconscious mind will choose for you, and it will probably choose fear, since fear is probably your autopilot. (This is a key principle so I am repeating it often on purpose.) — Kimberly Giles

The first step on the path to fearlessness is to embrace two critical principles of truth that are the opposites of the two core fears (the fear of failure and the fear of loss). If you practice trusting these two truths you can eliminate fear in any situation. The first is to trust that your value isn't on the line because life is a classroom, not a test. The second is to trust that your journey is the perfect classroom journey for you; that anything you lose, you are meant to lose; and that each experience serves you no matter what happens. — Kimberly Giles

Wasn't him who thought he was worthless; it was that little demon on this shoulder. The little demon was a smart one, though. It used all the horrible things that were said to him over the years against him. But he could override it. He had the power to say Thank you for your input but I'm not going there anymore. I know my real value! — Kimberly Giles

Even though life is difficult as times, you must understand that these challenges are not here to beat you, defeat you, or squash you like a bug. Life is not against you (even though it feels that way sometimes). Every single experience is in your life to serve your process of growth and learning. Every situation you experience serves that purpose and is ultimately for your good. — Kimberly Giles

I own the responsibility for determining my own value. I do not expect anyone else to make me feel valued and important. That must come from inside me. Once I know my value is set and absolute, I can accept love and validation from others, and believe it. — Kimberly Giles

Fear causes problems in your life because it fogs the lens through which you see yourself and your world. — Kimberly Giles

I say this because all religions, accurately understood, will take away your fear of not being enough. I believe there is a way to understand the tenets of your religion, right now, that will take away your fear and make you feel loved and safe. The problem is that no matter what you believe or to which religion you belong, there are two ways you can experience your beliefs. There is a fear way you can experience your religion, and a love way to experience it. All religions can be experienced both ways. All life philosophies can be experienced both ways too.
If you search your personal books of scripture, you will find both ideas equally represented. There will be verses or sections that validate a fear-based view of God and there will be some that validate a love-based view of God. Don't be confused by this. Both ideas had to be represented for you to have free agency. Anything less than equal representation of each idea would take away your freedom to choose. — Kimberly Giles

It is important you understand how fear affects you and how it drives human behavior so you can start to see situations and people accurately and respond more appropriately. When someone is behaving badly, attacking you, or being defensive, critical, or judgmental, it is not really about you. Fear is the real reason people behave badly. Their fears make them selfish, defensive, mean, and grouchy. Every time someone is behaving badly, step back and ask yourself, "What is this person afraid of? What fear inside me is driving my reaction to their attack? What am I afraid of?"
When you can accurately see the fear behind their behavior, and yours, you will see the situation for what it really is. — Kimberly Giles

You cannot be diminished by what other people think of you. Your value is infinite and absolute. It does not change. What other people think of you is irrelevant. — Kimberly Giles

Remember every mistreatment experience shows up to give you the opportunity to learn love at a deeper level. You don't need to defend yourself because you cannot be diminished. You must understand that defensiveness doesn't protect you. It actually makes you feel more vulnerable and unsafe. In protecting yourself you are embracing the idea that you can be hurt and this will only create more fear in your life. If you embrace fear and judgment you are choosing to live in fear and judgment.
If you choose to let go of the need to protect and defend yourself and put down your defenses because you understand you cannot be hurt - you will actually feel safer. When you choose to feel bulletproof, infinite and absolute all the time, no defense is ever necessary. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: You are the one responsible for your self-esteem. You are the one who must choose to value yourself accurately.- — Kimberly Giles

I officially give myself permission to be a work in progress. I do not have to be perfect to have absolute value. I am a student in the classroom of life and I am right on track in my personal process of becoming. — Kimberly Giles

To create more happiness and success in your life, you must change your policy about the nature of life and officially choose to see it as a classroom not a test. — Kimberly Giles

You are a divine, irreplaceable, one-of-a-kind soul, and there is no other achievement, title, or role that is more meaningful than that. Your qualities and attributes and how you treat other people are the only thing about who you are that really matters. — Kimberly Giles

Encouragement is the most effective way to change someone's behavior. When you see the best in them you encourage them to become that and they will want to live up to your high opinion of them. — Kimberly Giles

If you do good things only because you fear punishment or rejection if you don't, does it really count? Think about it. Are they real choices or are you being held hostage? — Kimberly Giles

There are two forces in the universe: fear and love. Trust is part of love because it makes you feel safe, and it is only in this state that you are capable of love. — Kimberly Giles

Remember, if you don't consciously choose trust and love, you are unconsciously choosing fear. — Kimberly Giles

F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. If you step back and clean off your lens, you will see that nothing fear says is accurate. — Kimberly Giles

If life is a classroom then you're still in the learning process part. In the learning process part, if you make a mistake you can just erase it and try again. In a classroom your mistakes deserve course correction and education, not punishment. Here the goal is to teach you how to behave better, not to fail or get rid of you. In a classroom, you can be a work in progress, and that's okay.
In a classroom, you are free to make mistakes in order to learn, because mistakes are part of learning. There are still consequences to every choice, but in a classroom you can't fail, because your value isn't on the line. If life is a classroom, you have the same value no matter how much you struggle, how many mistakes you make or how you perform. If life is a classroom you are safe. — Kimberly Giles

At this very moment you are probably basing your value on how other people value you, even though most of the time, you don't even know what these people really think. You are assuming what they think based on behavior you interpreted. In truth, most people don't think about you at all. They are too focused on their own stuff. And if they do think about you, they probably don't think what you think they think. You are most likely projecting your own fears of not being good enough onto them. What you think they think tells you more about your own opinion of yourself than theirs. — Kimberly Giles

Most people spend the majority of their lives in fear, focused on themselves, casting everyone around them as bad guys. They almost can't help it, because it happens subconsciously and they don't know any other way to be. When you understand that most human behavior is driven by fear, you will understand why people hurt or offend you. You will understand it isn't about you at all. Their bad behavior is caused by their fear of failure and loss. — Kimberly Giles

If you don't consciously choose trust and love in each moment, your subconscious policies will choose for you, and they usually choose fear. — Kimberly Giles

Failures, mistakes, and difficulties are just locations on your journey through life. They have nothing to do with who you are. — Kimberly Giles

The reason you might not be creating the life you want is that you are making most of your decisions unconsciously, and most of your subconscious policies (programs and rules) are fear-based and inaccurate. These inaccurate policies are sabotaging your success, because they don't want the very things you think you consciously want. — Kimberly Giles

Every day is a grand adventure into the great unknown and you cannot know what lies around the next corner. So, standing in this place, with the unknown before you, you have only two choices: you can live in trust (believing you are safe and that good things are coming) or you can live in fear (scared of the future and focused on you). Your choice will not change what's around that next corner, it will be what it's meant to be, but it will have a big impact on the way you feel today. Do you want to experience today in fear, focused on yourself? Or do you want to experience trust and focus on love? It's up to you. — Kimberly Giles

You are afraid you aren't good enough, when your value is infinite and absolute and not on the line. You are afraid of loss and not getting the life you wanted, when your journey is always the perfect classroom journey for you. In reality there is no failure and there is no loss (except the losses you are meant to experience so that you can grow). — Kimberly Giles

You are an irreplaceable, one-of-a-kind, amazing being. There will never be another you and this fact alone makes you infinitely and absolutely valuable. Having absolute value means you cannot be diminished by anything or anyone. You are bulletproof and nothing can change your value. — Kimberly Giles

If you spend your energy condemning and judging the people who mistreat you it puts you in a condemning and judging mindset, which subconsciously makes you feel condemned and judged too. The more judgmental you are, the worse your self-esteem will be. — Kimberly Giles

Your happiness does not depend on your situation or your results; it depends on how you choose to think about yourself, your situation, and your results. — Kimberly Giles

Fear has to be the opposite of God because it is the opposite of love. Fear is selfish, needy and focused on you. It makes no sense for God to want you in fear about Him or your life.
It comes down to this: either God wants you to live in fear of Him, always afraid you aren't good enough and focused on yourself, or He wants you to live in love, knowing you are safe, and focused on loving other people. Which feels more accurate to you? — Kimberly Giles

You will have the ability to see other people accurately as divine, amazing, irreplaceable, human beings in the process, just like you. You will have the ability to forgive them and live in wisdom and compassion. You can do this because all of these qualities are in you. In fact, they are who you really are. — Kimberly Giles

You might be unsure about the true nature of God (or the life force in the universe) even if you have well defined religious beliefs. I say this because you might have been taught two conflicting ideas about God. You might have been consciously told God was love, but at the same time been subconsciously taught He might condemn you if you aren't good enough. These two ideas don't mesh and they cause a great deal of confusion for most people. — Kimberly Giles

Start watching out for any thoughts or feelings that are immature, angry, inaccurate, selfish, weak, scared, dramatic, or in any way based in fear. In those moments, start to practice consciously choosing love for yourself and others instead. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: Your value does not come from what you look like, what you experience, or what you do. It comes from your love and the fact that you are a divine, irreplaceable child of God. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: A fear-based philosophy about life (seeing life as a testing center) can prevent you from seeing yourself and situations accurately.- A fear of failing skews your perspective and distracts you from learning and loving. — Kimberly Giles

Author C. S. Lewis wrote a beautiful and accurate definition of humility: "Humility is not thinking less of yourself ... it is thinking of yourself less." "It is about feeling safe so you can focus on other people. It is not about being in fear and seeing yourself as worthless! — Kimberly Giles

Most bad behavior is about that person's core fears about themselves; it is rarely about you. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: Choose to trust these two critical truths that are the opposites of the two core fears: 1) Your value is infinite and absolute because life is a classroom. 2) Every experience is your perfect classroom journey. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: Your life is a perfect and divine process of learning and growth. You are safe in this process because the objective is for your good. Every situation in your life is there to serve you in some way. — Kimberly Giles

I am an amazing, irreplaceable, infinitely valuable child of God. My value comes from that fact alone. My value is absolute. This means nothing I do, nothing anyone thinks about me, and no situation, mistake, or experience can change it. My value is not affected by what I look like, how much money I make, or what I do. My value was set by God and does not change. Mistakes I make and difficult situations I experience are just locations on my journey. — Kimberly Giles

Claritypoint: No one can see your value unless you believe it first. — Kimberly Giles

This is the bottom line, you have no absolute proof of God's existence, and therefore no real proof of His true nature, this being the case, you get to choose how you want to experience God.
This is not only your right, but is an essential part of your free agency. You get to choose how you want to experience everything in your life. So, you could choose to see God (the higher power in the universe) as the pure essence of perfect love if you want to. You have this power to see God as your safest place. — Kimberly Giles

When a baby chick hatches, it often struggles for a long, long time, and you can get impatient watching the little guy struggle. You might be tempted to help him out and break a little bit of the shell away and make it easier for him to escape, but if you do, he will die. You will rob him of a process specifically designed to make him strong. It is only through this struggle that he can gain the strength to survive his life. It is crucial (if you love him) that you let him struggle his way out of this challenge on his own.
Your life works the same way. The challenges you currently face are there to help you become stronger and smarter too. They are probably forcing you to learn and grow. If you were rescued from this situation, it might rob you of a process you need to become the person you are meant to be. — Kimberly Giles

No one can repair your self-esteem for you. Your spouse cannot fix it. Your parents cannot fix it. Your boss cannot fix it. No amount of success or beauty enhancements can fix it. You have to fix it by changing the way you see yourself. You have to choose to see yourself accurately, to see life as a classroom, and commit to the policy that you have the same value no matter how you perform. It is time to claim the power to do this and not let anyone take your self-esteem from you again. — Kimberly Giles

The universe uses every experience you have to help you grow and learn. No experience is wasted. Every choice you make and everything that happens to you because of other people's choices become your perfect lessons. As you learn to trust this truth, you will experience less fear and more peace. — Kimberly Giles

The most significant way you can edify another person is to see them accurately as the same as you, listen to them, and honor their right to their own thoughts and feelings. — Kimberly Giles

Your life will always be the perfect classroom journey for you and every experience that shows up in your journey is here to serve you. There is meaning and purpose behind everything that happens. There are no accidents which means your suffering through difficulties is never for nothing. Your life matters and everything you experience matters. Your trials are there to help you become a better person and trusting this is truth will take some of the sting out of them. Suffering becomes more bearable if it at least counts for something. — Kimberly Giles

The universe will never force a mindset on you. You have complete free agency to choose fear and suffer unnecessarily if you want to. — Kimberly Giles