Gay Hendricks Quotes & Sayings

All human unhappiness comes from not facing reality squarely, exactly as it is. - BUDDHA — Gay Hendricks

I checked my messages before I started driving. I had three. The first was from Verizon, letting me know I could save more money by spending more money. — Gay Hendricks

The quick ticket to ecstasy is to catch yourself feeling in a very low state of mind
depressed, stupid, hateful
and to love yourself for feeling that way. When you do that you can experience a rocket ride right to the top. Love does not take time; it's possible to transform depression into ecstasy in a flash. But please do not accept my word for it. Try it as an experiment next time you are feeling low.
Something else to consider is that we will always be in the process of remembering how to love ourselves, then forgetting, then remembering again. It does not seem to be our destiny to be any one way all the time. So let's get used to being pendulums and enjoy the ride. — Gay Hendricks

Most couples have not had hundreds of arguments; they've had the same argument hundreds of times. — Gay Hendricks

The beauty of the human mind is that any decision that is made can be unmade. — Gay Hendricks

The highest goal of spirituality is Self-realization, but what does that mean? It means to feel your Self as a living reality in this moment, and there is always only this moment. (10) — Gay Hendricks

I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same. — Gay Hendricks

This is why if you corrected only this one problem and did nothing else, you would make major improvements in your mental, emotional, and physical functioning. We will use correct diaphragmatic breathing as the jumping-off place for all the activities that follow. If — Gay Hendricks

What do I most love to do? (I love it so much I can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored.) — Gay Hendricks

Fear is excitement without the breath. Here's what this intriguing statement means: the very same mechanisms that produce excitement also produce fear, and any fear can be transformed into excitement by breathing fully with it. — Gay Hendricks

Life is fullest when we are most true to ourselves. — Gay Hendricks

The goal in life is not to attain some imaginary ideal; it is to find and fully use our own gifts. — Gay Hendricks

In my life I've discovered that if I cling to the notion that something's not possible, I'm arguing in favor of limitation. And if I argue for my limitations, I get to keep them. — Gay Hendricks

For every in-breath there is an out-breath, and as these two currents meet in the nose, a fine microclimate is set up. — Gay Hendricks

Life is at its best when
love, money, and creativity
are growing in harmony. — Gay Hendricks

One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple does not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid of making a creative breakthrough. — Gay Hendricks

The main reason intuition is so important is this: It is a clear sign that you are connecting with your inner spiritual guidance system. Intuition is a direct signal from your deepest self that you are navigating from your true center. — Gay Hendricks

There's no such thing as a minor lapse of awareness. You're either present with what is
right here, right now
or you're someplace else. — Gay Hendricks

No one ever went to prison because of bad grammar, but the prisons are full of people who are there because of emotional illiteracy. — Gay Hendricks

May I be mindful both making and keeping commitments that they be springboards to liberation, instead of suffering, for all sentient beings. — Gay Hendricks

May answers come to me by easeful attraction rather than stressful pursuit, and may all beings benefit from these inquiries. — Gay Hendricks

One of the hallmarks of an evolved person is the ability to tell the truth with no fear of punishment or expectation of reward — Gay Hendricks

Are you willing to increase the amount of time every day that you feel good inside? — Gay Hendricks

If you want to create vital, long-lasting love, you must become a master of verbal & nonverbal appreciation — Gay Hendricks

I want to make a commitment to you, to create a passionate, creative lifelong relationship with you. Is this what you want? — Gay Hendricks

Our species in general had grown accustomed to pain and adversity through millennia of struggle ... we were only recently evolving the ability to let ourselves feel good and have things go well for any significant period of time. — Gay Hendricks

A successful life is an authentic life. Happiness and creativity rest on a foundation of transparency to yourself and others. Knowing your own heart and speaking clearly to others keep you on the path. — Gay Hendricks

Arguments are often like melodramas - they have a predictable beginning, middle, and end. — Gay Hendricks

Frequently the whole book would boil down to a single breathing practice, with an entire philosophy wrapped around it. Sometimes, maddeningly, a book would spend two hundred pages promoting the spiritual value of a particular style of breathing, only to say at the end that it could not be taught in a book. — Gay Hendricks

Like my body - I may not control the expiration date, but I can certainly influence the quality of the shelf life. — Gay Hendricks

Wherever I go, may I learn and love as much as I can in every moment. Wherever I am, may I be open to inspiration and truth. — Gay Hendricks

Nobody knows but you what it is that's sacred to you as far as what you want to manifest in your life. You need to do it by your own chosen standards. Your life does not need to look like anybody else's life. It's a commitment that you're making to a magnificent life measured by your own chosen standards. — Gay Hendricks

Are you willing to take the Big Leap to your ultimate level of success in love, money, and creative contribution? — Gay Hendricks

Pausing even for lunch, they turned the car around and headed — Gay Hendricks

We keep ourselves so tied up in regretting the past and fearing the future that we don't have any energy left to figure out who we are and what we want to create right now. — Gay Hendricks

Genuine love is between two people who know they are already complete. Genuine love is based on a new paradigm in which both partners are committed to the celebration of each other and their loved ones. — Gay Hendricks

Behind every communication problem is a sweaty ten-minute conversation that you don't want to have. — Gay Hendricks

At times like this, I am grateful I somehow learned to value self-discovery over blind obedience to authority. The Buddha himself said we shouldn't believe his words without question - we must discover the truth for ourselves. "Be a lamp unto yourself," he counseled his disciples. "Find your own way to liberation. — Gay Hendricks

Many of you are gripped by the loony idea that your intentions are different from the results you create. It simplifies life enormously the moment you accept that the results you create are your unconscious intentions made visibly manifest. — Gay Hendricks

True independence is not based on fear. It contains within it an ability to be close to others, coupled with a choice to be free and autonomous. — Gay Hendricks

The best attitude to take toward back talk is to reach out and embrace it with love, compassion, and understanding. No need to criticize it for its shortcomings or to waste time in recriminations. Just give a loving nod and a hug to any back talk you get, and move on to the joyful creation of your fulfilled life. — Gay Hendricks

It is not love that is to blame. But each of us has resistance to the very love we desire. We also have resistance to the space and independence we need. So we go back and forth, not letting ourselves have one or the other. It all boils down to this: Are you willing to have your relationships be a pathway to fully revealing yourself and your potential? If you answer is Yes, real intimacy can be yours on a daily basis. — Gay Hendricks

We humans have a long and wonderful history of transcending our beliefs about what's possible. — Gay Hendricks

Welcome the back talk, because it's completely natural and normal. It's actually a sign that the new idea you've planted in your mind is taking root. — Gay Hendricks

the less breath you feed your fear, the bigger your fear gets. — Gay Hendricks

The better we get, the better we want to be. — Gay Hendricks

According to one medical researcher, poor breathing plays a role in more than 75 percent of the ills people bring to their doctors. In most cases, poor diaphragmatic breathing is the culprit. On — Gay Hendricks

Many healings of other physical troubles have occurred in my clients after they started to integrate breathing practices into their lives. There is a simple but encompassing reason that may explain this. The human body is designed to discharge 70% of its toxins through breathing. Only a small percentage of toxins are discharged through sweat, defecation and urination. If your breathing is not operating at peak efficiency, you are not ridding yourself of toxins properly. — Gay Hendricks

The only relevant question is whether you will let it be possible for you. — Gay Hendricks

As we free our breath through diaphragmatic breathing, we relax our emotions and let go our body tensions. — Gay Hendricks

You never know when it is going to happen, when you will experience a moment that dramatically transforms your life. When you look back, often years later, you may see how a brief conversation or an insight you read somewhere, changed the entire course of your life. — Gay Hendricks

The heart of the matter is that there is nothing the matter with our hearts. It is not love that is to blame. But each of us has resistance to the very love we desire ... — Gay Hendricks

Wherever your path takes you, may all your deathbed wishes come true, and may you celebrate each and every one of them many long years before your final breath. — Gay Hendricks

Rule Number One is this: If you're open to learning, you get your life-lessons delivered as gently as the tickle of a feather. But if you're defensive, if you stubbornly persist in being right instead of learning the lesson at hand, if you stop paying attention to the tickles, the nudges, the clues - boom! Sledgehammer. — Gay Hendricks

The major problems with feelings is that we tend to ignore them, hide them, or let them linger longer than they need to. Conscious breathing can become a most useful ally in learning to handle emotions. There — Gay Hendricks

You are the absolute creator of what happens to you. This means now. [ ... ] There is awesome power in knowing this fact. As long as there is even one tiny part of you that thinks the world is doing it to you, the world is going to do it to you. When you know 100% that you create it, you will start influencing the world around you in a much bigger and more positive way. — Gay Hendricks

I accept relationship as my primary teacher about myself, other people, and the mysteries of the universe. — Gay Hendricks

Hoping a situation will change keeps you at a distance from your true feelings-sadness, anger, fear. Each of these feelings is best appreciated up close. Feel them deeply, and they will cease to bother you. Hope they'll go away, and they'll bother you all day. — Gay Hendricks

The joy of the journey itself is not only a key goal, it is the goal. The outcomes of the journey, whatever they are, will always be in the zone of the unknown. While you're getting to where you're going, though, you will have the opportunity to enjoy the greatest show on earth, the moment-by-moment process of consciousness itself. — Gay Hendricks

Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed out inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old, familiar zone where we feel secure. — Gay Hendricks