David Schnarch Quotes & Sayings

You don't think your way to a new way of living. You live your way to a new way of thinking. — David Schnarch

Our mistakes and regrets are not barriers to becoming who we can be; they are a necessary ingredient. — David Schnarch

For most of Western civilization low sexual desire has been considered a goal rather than a problem. — David Schnarch

Wanting creates the space in which our highest aspirations come into being. — David Schnarch

We tell ourselves that intimacy (and marriage) takes two people who are willing to work at it-but, unfortunately, we rarely have the slightest inkling of our "job" assignments in this project. — David Schnarch

A solid sense of self develops from confronting yourself, challenging yourself to do what's right, and earning your own self-respect. — David Schnarch

If you can't regulate your own emotional temperature, you'll regulate everyone around you to keep yourself comfortable. — David Schnarch