Menninger Quotes & Sayings

Once asked what action he would recommend if a person were to feel a nervous breakdown coming on: Lock up your house, go across the railroad tracks, and find someone in need and do something for him. — Karl A. Menninger

The Criteria of Emotional Maturity: The ability to deal constructively with reality The capacity to adapt to change A relative freedom from symptoms that are produced by tensions and anxieties The capacity to find more satisfaction in giving than receiving The capacity to relate to other people in a consistent manner with mutual satisfaction and helpfulness The capacity to sublimate, to direct one's instinctive hostile energy into creative and constructive outlets The capacity to love. — William C. Menninger

In positive terms, we can state that psychological maturity entails finding greater satisfaction in giving than in receiving; having a capacity to form satisfying and permanent loyalties; being primarily a creative, contributing person; having learned to profit from experience; having a freedom from fear (anxiety) with a resulting true serenity and not a pseudo absence of tension; and accepting and making the most of unchangeable reality when it confronts one. — William C. Menninger

It was his optimism that Freud bequeathed to America and it was the optimism of our youthfulness, our freedom from the sterner, sadder tradition of Europe which enabled us to seize his gift. — Karl A. Menninger

TO THOSE WHO WOULD USE INTELLIGENCE IN THE BATTLE AGAINST DEATH - TO STRENGTHEN THE WILL TO LIVE AGAINST THE WISH TO DIE, AND TO REPLACE WITH LOVE THE BLIND COMPULSION TO GIVE HOSTAGES TO HATRED AS THE PRICE OF LIVING. — Karl A. Menninger

To "know thyself" must mean to know the malignancy of one's own instincts and to know, as well, one's power to deflect it. — Karl A. Menninger

A fellow must know where he wants to go, if he is going to get anywhere. It is so easy just to drift along. Some people go through school as if they thought they were doing their families a favor. On a job, they work along in a humdrum way, interested only in their salary check. They don't have a goal. When anyone crosses them up, they take their marbles and walk out. The people who go places and do things make the most of every situation. They are ready for the next thing that comes along on the road to their goal. They know what they want and are willing to go an extra mile. — William C. Menninger

Neurotic means he is not as sensible as I am, and psychotic means he's even worse than my brother-in-law. — Karl A. Menninger

Police are not all bad guys. Nobody is all bad guys. — Karl A. Menninger

What the teacher is, is more important than what he teaches. — Karl A. Menninger

People repeat in adult life emotions they experience in childhood. Many of the people whom I spent the last 30 or 40 years treating at so much per minute wouldn't have needed any treatment at all if they had had the right care as children. — Karl A. Menninger

Love is a medicine for the sickness of the world; a prescription often given, too rarely taken ... — Karl A. Menninger

Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out. — Karl A. Menninger

Is it hard for the reader to believe that suicides are sometimes committed to forestall the committing of murder? There is no doubt of it. Nor is there any doubt that murder is sometimes committed to avert suicide. — Karl A. Menninger

Therefore, and Donahue was loath to admit it, the only explanation for the position of Kennedy's exit wound was that the shot had not come from the right rear but from the left rear, from a second gunman located somewhere over the President's left shoulder. — Bonar Menninger

Love cures people, both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it. — Karl A. Menninger

It is just as important, perhaps more important, for the teacher to have the benefit of personal counseling when he needs it as it is for the student. — William C. Menninger

It is hard for a free fish to understand what is happening to a hooked one. — Karl A. Menninger

Set up as an ideal the facing of reality as honestly and as cheerfully as possible. — Karl A. Menninger

Six essential qualities that are the key to success: Sincerity, personal integrity, humility, courtesy, wisdom, charity. — William C. Menninger

Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. — Karl A. Menninger

Unrest of spirit is a mark of life. — Karl A. Menninger

Hope is a necessity for normal life and the major weapon against the suicide impulse. — Karl A. Menninger

Hope is an adventure, a going forward, a confident search for a rewarding life. — Karl A. Menninger

We need criminals to identify ourselves with, to secretly envy and to stoutly punish. They do for us the forbidden, illegal things we wish to do. — Karl A. Menninger

The voice of the intelligence is drowned out by the roar of fear. It is ignored by the voice of desire. It is contradicted by the voice of shame. It is biased by hate and extinguished by anger. Most of all it is silenced by ignorance. — Karl A. Menninger

Attitudes are much more important than facts. — Karl A. Menninger

We have come to see that just as the child must learn to love wisely, so he must learn to hate expeditiously, to turn destructive tendencies away from himself toward enemies that actually threaten him rather than toward the friendly and the defenseless, the more usual victims of destructive energy. — Karl A. Menninger

Mental health problems do not affect three or four out of every five persons, but one out of one. — Karl A. Menninger

The adjuration to be "normal" seems shockingly repellent to me; I see neither hope nor comfort in sinking to that low level. I think it is ignorance that makes people think of abnormality only with horror and allows them to remain undismayed at the proximity of "normal" to average and mediocre. For surely anyone who achieves anything is, essentially, abnormal. — Karl A. Menninger

One does not fall in love; one grows into love, and love grows in him. — Karl A. Menninger

It is difficult to give children a sense of security unless you have it yourself. If you have it, they catch it from you. — William C. Menninger

One of the most untruthful things possible, you know, is a collection of facts, because they can be made to appear so many different ways. — Karl A. Menninger

Self love is not opposed to the love of other people. You cannot really love yourself and do yourself a favor without doing other people a favor, and vice versa. — Karl A. Menninger

The amount of satisfaction you get from life depends largely on your own ingenuity, self-sufficiency, and resourcefulness. People who wait around for life to supply their satisfaction usually find boredom instead. — William C. Menninger

Our lives are shaped by those who love us as well as those who refuse to love us ... — Karl A. Menninger

Hate can only flourish where love is absent. — William C. Menninger

Homeopathy is wholly capable of satisfying the therapeutic demands of this age better than any other system or school of medicine. — Charles Frederick Menninger

What's done to children, they will do to society. — Karl A. Menninger

Psychoanalysis has changed American psychology from a diagnostic to a therapeutic science, not because so many patients are cured by the psychoanalytic technique, but because of the new understanding of psychiatric patients it has given us, and the new and different concept of illness and health. — Karl A. Menninger

Like the devout theologian seeing the Devil lurking everywhere, Menninger, the devout Freudian, sees aggression. — Thomas Szasz

Fears are educated into us," Dr. Karl Menninger once wrote, "and they can, if we wish, be educated out. — Alan Loy McGinnis

The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward, and we want to sit in their radius. — Karl A. Menninger