Mcmillan Quotes & Sayings

You have to have an objective, a goal, some thought process, some strategy in your mind for whatever you do. Otherwise it's a waste of time. — Stuart McMillan

love
is giving everything too easily
then staying to try and claw it back — Andrew McMillan

Good parents have children who do terrible things and vice-versa. — Terry McMillan

They learned the hard way that you can't save nobody who ain't interested in being saved. — Terry McMillan

I just believe that young people need to be able to learn how to write in their own voice. Just like a musician, you pride yourself on having your own distinct sound. — Terry McMillan

I pray for my mother. That if she can't ever recover what she's lost or what she's losing, that she not feel like she's lost. I pray that we make her feel necessary and valued as long as possible. That she comes to know comfort, even if I can't provide it myself. — Terry McMillan

I had a sense that my mother was struggling, when I was a kid, working twelve hour days, making $12,000 a year with two kids in a trailer park. — Cecily McMillan

Today, if you pay a[n US] dollar for a pound of apples in the supermarketm only about six cents covers the farmwork used to get it there; ( ... ) — Tracie McMillan

When you ask for patience, what you get is a line at the bank. In other words, life gives you the people, places, and situations that are going to allow you to once and for all develop what it is you need. — Tracy McMillan

I hope one day I can come into a training camp and not say someone is out for the season. — Nate McMillan

It's time to write dangerous music. It's time to take risks. It's time to wear your heart on your sleeve, and sing about the things that actually matter to you. It's time to bury the shackles of religious expectation and stop trying to put new clothes on the dead. — John Mark McMillan

For 200 years we've been conquering nature. Now we're beating it to death. — Tom McMillan

Let me put it this way: when I read, I learned the world was not as small as my house. And that everybody in my home town was not representative of the way people in the world were raised. And that was what saved me. — Terry McMillan

I'd Better Not--

A man leaned over to a man in a pub
And said in a voice
'I used to be thirty seven but now I'm fifty one'.
And that's how the years go.
In handfuls.
Like somebody is almost at the end of a bag of crisps
And they tip the bag up
And it's as though they're drinking crisps.
That's how the years go. — Ian McMillan

If somebody is acting maladjusted - which means not happy to be at Rikers - the protocol, as I understand it and have been told by COs unofficially or officially, is to pepper spray that individual to sedate them. — Cecily McMillan

[About sex]: If we're not intentional about pursuing God's best for our marriages, and grasping the tremendous role intimacy plays in that relationship, what was intended to be deeply enjoyed - a passionate, life-giving love affair... alight with laughter, fiercely protected, and drenched in freedom - becomes a stuffy, awkward thing to be endured. — Joy McMillan

I'd crack up without my music. It's the best company you can have, really. It don't say 'no' or 'maybe,' or ask no questions. — Terry McMillan

At least be a nice lesbian or you're going to give the rest a bad rap. — Terry McMillan

Caring - about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity. — Tracy McMillan

There is no such thing as 'getting' a guy, house and kids. There is only surrendering to them. — Tracy McMillan

Parents can ruin children, and sometimes that's a learned behavior. Sometimes you can't blame your parents for it, sometimes you can. I think to me, that's what the whole paradox is, is people that have children that don't even know how to raise them. — Terry McMillan

I talk to women for a living. It's pretty much what I do with my day. — Tracy McMillan

I take what people feel and think, especially when it's different from, very seriously, and I find it liberating. — Terry McMillan

My town was all-white and shut down Section 8 housing because they didn't want black people to move into the town. And I thought that was wrong - duh. — Cecily McMillan

No matter what other plans are out there, this is the best plan. — Tom McMillan

It doesn't honor God to pretend everything is OK. That's the beauty of Jesus that so many people miss. The beauty is that he died on the cross for our sins, but also that he existed the way we exist. — John Mark McMillan

I don't let negative criticism, for the most part, bother me. — Terry McMillan

Being a lifetime wife and mother has afforded me the luxury of having multiple and even simultaneous careers: I've been a chauffeur. A chef. An interior decorator. A landscape architect, as well as a gardener. I've been a painter. A furniture restorer. A personal shopper. A veterinarian's assistant and sometimes the veterinarian. I've been an accountant, a banker and on occasion, a broker. I've been a beautician. A map. A psychic. Santa Claus. The Tooth Fairy. The T.V. Guide. A movie reviewer. An angel. God. A nurse and a nursemaid. A psychiatrist and psychologist. Evangelist. For a long time I have felt like I inadvertently got my master's in How To Take Care of Everybody Except Yourself and then a Ph.D. in How to Pretend Like You Don't Mind. But I do mind. — Terry McMillan

I would like to start a discussion about ending solitary confinement. I'd like to start a discussion about the removal of MO wings - an "MO" is a "Mental Observation" inmate - from Rikers Island, to be set up in mental health institutions. You can't put people in jail for having mental disorders. — Cecily McMillan

Look, as my mama always said, 'One monkey don't stop no show. — Terry McMillan

We get divorce, we get conned, someone we love dies, or we can't find anybody to love us or somebody breaks our heart and we realize this fairy tale ain't fair. So we suffer. — Terry McMillan

Money does not guarantee happiness or peace of mind, it can take your mind off things, distract you, but it can't replace the generic stuff a person needs! — Terry McMillan

I'm not an angry woman. I'm not bitter. — Terry McMillan

I think the big turning moment was when I joined the student political action club and started studying nonviolent civil disobedience in response to the Iraq War. The first anti-Bush protest in Atlanta was the first protest that I'd ever been to, and I helped organize the school walkout when I was a junior. It was a really solidifying moment. — Cecily McMillan

I felt like there wasn't a political discourse. I felt like there was just one set of values, and any one set of values was wrong; that there should at least be room for conversation. — Cecily McMillan

they say we're losing centimetres
every year; as if we were
a beach that's losing
ground with every salt advance

the night is overcast
but why not try, at least,
to touch the things our orbits
cannot hold, while there's time
while we can. — Andrew McMillan

Holy hell! Bryan "Mac" McMillan kissed her. Then grinned. And then winked. — Julie Ann Walker

Writing is the only place I can be myself and not feel judged. — Terry McMillan

he looks the way
silence looks before it's broken — Andrew McMillan

Women blame men for their own singlehood. — Tracy McMillan

I also discovered that you can get used to a man , much like you do a household pet! — Terry McMillan

What's universal is the texture of our relationships. It's evolving. Times are changing with the women's movement. Men's roles are being redefined and, in some ways, they're confused. — Terry McMillan

I think of 'crazy' as what happens when we love the other person more than we love ourselves. — Tracy McMillan

You can't trick The Universe - it's like Santa Claus that way. — Tracy McMillan

Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships. — Tracy McMillan

Putting my words piece online was an important part of my plan to help women learn how to love themselves and have a better life. — Tracy McMillan

since it's obvious that not having this baby — Terry McMillan

We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life. — Tracy McMillan

I can be all pissed off at the oppression of the state, but what does that really mean? Well, it's the tacit consent of a public. — Cecily McMillan

I used to get a lot of letters from prisoners. It used to get on my nerves. Especially family members. Everybody's innocent. — Terry McMillan

It now seems obvious that the way we're raised has a major impact on what kind of person we turn out to be, but so does who we love. — Terry McMillan

If you jump to conclusions, you make terrible landings. — Terry McMillan

Pay attention to the things that agitate you. It will tell you a lot about yourself. — Terry McMillan

All of us, consciously or unconsciously, set out to have the best possible love life. Valentine's Day simply shines a light on the degree to which that didn't - or hasn't yet - materialized. — Tracy McMillan

He encouraged me to take one more deep puff and hold it in, so I did, and the smoke traveled down on top of my esophagus and then did a U-turn up into where my brain was supposed to be. At first it felt like fireworks, and then I began to feel like I was floating down a stream. I liked it. And I took another puff and studied my ass off. The next morning, however, I would fail my very first Spanish exam, because I would not remember how to conjugate anything except Abraham. — Terry McMillan

When Friedrich Nietzsche mocked Immanuel Kant for having "discovered a moral faculty in man", he inadvertently resolved Kant's dilemma of being unable to identify what exactly constituted his "moral law" for fear of offending against a charge of empiricism from the likes of David Hume. — Joseph B.H. McMillan

Jail is just another micro-society. It just happens that here, the problems are far more out in the open, we don't live with the facades of lies that democracy or capitalism creates for us. — Cecily McMillan

One of the beautiful things about men is that they're very in the moment. That's why they don't want to have an argument about what happened six months ago. — Tracy McMillan

Don't sabotage your own greatness by succumbing to failure! — Terry McMillan

Men cheat. They lie. They love porn. The don't respect you and don't care if they hurt you. It's the fucking breaks. Women divorce 'em 'cause we can't tame 'em or train 'em or control 'em like we do household pets. End of story. — Terry McMillan

You told me I was making you crazy last night," he reminds me, drawing me out of my thoughts, back to a present I'm uncertain of.
"You are, Chris."
"Well, you are making me crazy, too."
"Is this supposed to be making me feel better? — Lisa Renee Jones

I been saying it for years: church is full of sneaky men posing as honest souls, and they are perpetuators our here looking for women just like you, with giant holes in your hearts, and they can smell when you got a good job and when you lonely as hell. — Terry McMillan

I want to push the fast-forward button until I get back to happy. — Terry McMillan

My mama taught me that anything worth doing in life should be a little scary. — Terry McMillan

For what is religion if not a great mystery? It is nothing if not a series of clues, a key to unlocking the greatest secrets of the universe. The careful detective will spend as much time pondering the spiritual mysteries as he does on whatever singular problem has crossed his path on any given day. Guide to the Criminal and Commonplace, M. C. Wheaton — Rachel McMillan

Look guys, I am your worst nightmare. I'm a woman with a badge, a gun, and PMS. Are you really sure you want to piss me off any more tonight? — K.V. McMillan

The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You're just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won't. Once the initial high wears off, you'll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.
Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something
it's about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession
a free-agent penis
and for us, it's the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland. — Tracy McMillan

For five years I didn't think it was possible to be this happy.
But then he forgot all those promises he made. He forgot why he loved me. He simply stopped loving me.

And this is how he did it:
He stopped talking to me unless I spoke to him.
He stopped holding my hand.
He stopped kissing me good night.
He stopped kissing me good morning.
He stopped kissing me.
He stopped smiling at me.
He stopped laughing.
He stopped bathing and showering with me.
He stopped wanting me.
He started swearing at me.
He started lying to me.
He started cheating on me.
He hurt me.
And then he told me he was in love with another woman and wanted a divorce.
Oh, I forgot. He said he was sorry.

I wanted to blow his fucking brains out. — Terry McMillan

It's sad to think that we've gotten to this that we actually have to think about how to go about finding a man. But what's even sadder is that some men make you feel guilty for looking. — Terry McMillan

Finally

a day will come when
woken by the xylophone
of sunthroughblinds
you'll realise

that the beach was not the place
where horses tore the sand
to ribbon

that the scent of him has lifted
from the last of the sheets
that he isn't coming back

that it hasn't rained
but the birds are pretending that it has
so they can sing — Andrew McMillan

Everything works out in the end. if it hasn't worked out yet, then it's not the end. — Tracy McMillan

Folks want to glow, to leave their worries and dead skin behind. — Terry McMillan

Somehow, married or single, we'd rather anesthetize ourselves with love substitutes than go for the real thing, because let's face it: The real thing is pretty scary. — Tracy McMillan

Sometime between when the Summer of Love ended and the Summer of Sam began, America became a nation of cynics about love. — Tracy McMillan

Every encounter ids there to know who we are-nothing is wasted. — Tracy McMillan

I think every woman has this point in her life where she's like, 'I have a great job, great outfits and great friends, but something's missing.' — Tracy McMillan

The thing is, relationships never work out ... until they do. You learn a lot from relationships that don't work out. — Tracy McMillan

People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being. — Tracy McMillan

I'm a blunt person, not mean-spirited. I come from a place of love, but I'm interested in being real. — Tracy McMillan

Fears are like chains that lock you right in the place where you are most vulnerable. — Jean-Louis McMillan

I wrote MARCH FARM because I fell in love with the farms of Bethlehem when I moved here in 2000. I became passionate about preserving farms for many reasons: to secure the open spaces vital for wildlife habitat, to support my community by maintaining its rural beauty, and to honor a way of life that has deep roots in our cultural psyche. — Nancy McMillan

And you can drop the uninterested shtick right now, Mr. McMillan." That sounded a little like Marilyn Monroe saying Mr. President, didn't it? Yes, it did. And, booyah! "I know you want to. — Julie Ann Walker

If grace is an ocean, we're all sinking. — John Mark McMillan

I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married. — Tracy McMillan

I think in short order all of us need to act like we are citizens with not only rights, but also duties. — Cecily McMillan

People act on the outside the way they feel on the inside. — Tracy McMillan

For every year past the age of 27, you need to take another step toward commitment somewhere in your life. Instead of freelancing, you get a staff job. Instead of renting, you buy. Fine, instead of couch-surfing, you rent. — Tracy McMillan

Every human being I know craves love and affection. — Terry McMillan

Always listen to the parent who doesn't like who you love. They can smell a mistake. Of course, you don't find this out until you realize that the person you fell in love with is different from the person you married. Some men are good at fooling you. — Terry McMillan

Being in a relationship is a hard, painful slog at least once a week, maybe more often - especially if you have a lot of defenses to let down, or if your parents didn't know how to love you very well. — Tracy McMillan

Okay, so I lied about my age. Everybody does. — Terry McMillan

I think that by telling the truth and by attempting to be a good citizen, somehow I've ended up playing with fire. And that's really scary. — Cecily McMillan

The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them. — Tracy McMillan

Loving myself exactly where I am is the only way to get where I'm going — Tracy McMillan

I became a better person because of the time I spent with him, knowing him. I never got a chance to tell him that. — Terry McMillan

What I do know is sometimes we love the wrong people and sometimes we marry them. — Terry McMillan

I sit on my bed and think about Nader McMillan and wonder what I'm going to do. Ignore him. Stand up to him. Avoid him. Be "tough." I think of the stuff Dad has said over the years. How he finally gave up suggesting things. Why are you asking me this? I never figured out what to do about my own bullies. How am I supposed to know what to do with yours? — A.S. King

I don't trust white critics' judgment about most things that deal with black life, particularly when a black person is the creator. — Terry McMillan

The best rush in the world is getting something at 80 percent off. — Terry McMillan

You promised me you would never cheat on me, that you'd love me forever and we would never get a divorce." "I still love you, and I hate that I cheated on you, and I wish we'd never gotten divorced. — Terry McMillan