Haden Quotes & Sayings

If you strive to become a good human being with the qualities of generosity, humility and having reverence for life ... just maybe you'll become a great musician. — Charlie Haden

Children from like 8 and even up to the college age - Spider-Man appeals to a fairly broad demographic but, like I said, a mean age probably of 12 is a good mark - they process information so quickly and it's not because of attention deficit or short attention span. — Thomas Haden Church

Brim is hope. Brim is love. — Bree Despain

Cows are a lot smarter across the board than bulls. — Thomas Haden Church

When I landed in L.A. in early '89, William Morris decided to take me on to see if I could get any jobs. I was cast in a TV movie called Protected Surf, and made $30,000 in four weeks, and I decided I needed to take acting seriously, because I had never made that much money in a year, much less four weeks. That's when I decided I thought I could make a career out of it. — Thomas Haden Church

Linguistics is our best tool for bringing about social change and SF is our best tool for testing such changes before they are implemented in the real world, therefore the conjunction of the two is desirable and should be useful. — Suzette Haden Elgin

We are men, and human words are all we have: even the Word of God is composed actually of the words of men." (HUNTING THE DIVINE FOX, by Robert Farrar Capon, — Suzette Haden Elgin

Everytime a lawyer writes something, he is not writing for posterity, he is writing something so that endless others of his craft can make a living out of trying to figure out what he said. Course perhaps he really haden't said anything, that's what makes it so hard to explain. — Will Rogers

I just called to tell you good night. Get some sleep, Theia. Tomorrow is a big day."
"I would sleep much better if you were here." As soon as the words spilled out of my mouth,I wanted to die of embarrassment. Haden and I were close, but we hadn't gotten that close yet.
"I mean ... it's just that when you're near I'm not as agitated. Not that I want to sleep with you." I needed to stop talking - I was making it worse.
"You don't?" He was teasing now. "Now you've hurt my male pride. — Gwen Hayes

Villains with a conscience have this sad realization of who they are, and the monster they've become - there's a sense of regret. So at the end of these movies there's a dramatic resonance that really stays with the audience. — Thomas Haden Church

I love knowing that I'm not better than any other person on the planet. — Thomas Haden Church

But all actors go through the process, it's hit and miss, you have achievement and failure. — Thomas Haden Church

I would just turn into a giant pair of lips. "Oh God! There he is! It's Lip-Man!" — Thomas Haden Church

James Cotton is a real blues guy, and he played with Muddy Waters, and it surprised me that they would want me to make a record with them, that he called me to do this record. I'd never done anything like that before. But I love blues, so I was very happy. — Charlie Haden

I just see myself as a human being that's concerned about life. — Charlie Haden

I believe in singularity in relationships because you've got to have trust on both sides. — Thomas Haden Church

The title of the movie is open to interpretation. — Thomas Haden Church

Waiting is for cowards. — Bree Despain

My very own goth Mr. Darcy. Jane Austen would be so proud. — Gwen Hayes

We're here to bring beauty to the world and make a difference in this planet. That's what art forms are about. — Charlie Haden

I just try to play music from my heart and bring as much beauty as I can to as many people as I can. Just give them other alternatives, especially people who aren't exposed to creative music. — Charlie Haden

But I'm a citizen of Texas and try to spend most of my time there. — Thomas Haden Church

I like to keep my private stuff pretty vague. — Thomas Haden Church

It's one of those scenarios where no, I never imagined that I'd be directed in a love scene - not even a love scene because it's kind of a hard-core sex scene because it's kind of just purely played for this carnal venting. — Thomas Haden Church

No longer were there "doctors" of anthropology and physics and literature to offend the real doctors and confuse the public; they had put a stop to that, as they had put a stop to so many things that were unseemly and inappropriate. — Suzette Haden Elgin

But I certainly know a lot of people that existed at that level and are always kind of pining for more, always thinking that the next big break, the next opportunity, the big role are just around the corner of the next audition. — Thomas Haden Church

He walked backwards a few more steps and brought Brittany's hand to his lips without taking his eyes off me.
My hand tingled where he kissed her.
And the bastard knew it. — Gwen Hayes

I think life is really hard sometimes. It's not easy to wake up every day and go through what you go through. But the beautiful moments that you share with people that you love, or even experience alone, are worth all of the pain and sorrow. Those moments should be cherished, and I think that's what music is all about-to remind people of the beautiful moments that are in everybody's life — Charlie Haden

I want them to come away with discovering the music inside them. And not thinking about themselves as jazz musicians, but thinking about themselves as good human beings, striving to be a great person and maybe they'll become a great musician. — Charlie Haden

As long as there are musicians who have a passion for spontaneity, for creating something that's never been before, the art form of jazz will flourish. — Charlie Haden

Some tracks are with quartet and some tracks are with synthesizer. — Charlie Haden

If you behave like a doormat, expect to be stepped on and don't complain about it. — Suzette Haden Elgin

I just sit down at the piano and rattle it off. — Charlie Haden

I would say 95% of the time, because you just can't remember your lines if you're drinking alcohol. I would say about 95% of the time it was grape juice or this fake wine, which was horrible. — Thomas Haden Church

The whole underlying theme for the new music ... is to communicate honest, human values, and in doing that to try to improve the quality of life. — Charlie Haden

Ornette Coleman wasn't sure whether he was going to continue with Charlie Haden-Charlie had some personal problems. I said "You've got to be kidding! There's no one on the globe who will be able to accompany you" and no one ever did. [Scott LaFaro] was playing atonally and certainly Ornette was not an atonal player. Jimmy Garrison was a tonal player. He wasn't even polytonal or atonal. — Paul Bley

He was using me. When he cast me in Sideways I was nothing but a vessel. — Thomas Haden Church

I kind of have a rededication in my life now to acting because I'm very fond of being in this movie. — Thomas Haden Church

He smiled. I was unprepared for my reaction to the most potent weapon Haden had in his arsenal - a real smile, one that reached his eyes.
One genuine emotion was enough to unravel my life from the security of everything I'd ever known.
For seventeen years, I'd tried to live Father's way. Each step measured, my words carefully chosen. In his fortress of fears, I grew up - but not strong. I yearned to replace the hole in his heart left by my mother, so my life never belonged to me. My own heart was my weakest muscle, never exercised, never even flexed.
Suddenly, I understood that it still miraculously worked. And it was full. So full it felt like rays of sunshine were bursting through my chest, poking out of me in radiant splendor. Haden spellbound me and life changed to Technicolor. In his smile, I felt the bindings that tethered my spirit rip away. — Gwen Hayes

'The Conversation' was a movie I saw probably for the first time in the early 2000s. I immediately loved the piano and just how simple it is. — Petra Haden

My will is pushed on only by the small grey hellcat who nips at my heels. — Bree Despain

I hate it when women fight aging with plastic surgery or fashion choices. There's this arrogant youth worship in our society. — Thomas Haden Church

I enjoy doing press for something that I like, and I think the movie is very fun and charming and clever. — Thomas Haden Church

Nazareth wasted no time in anything she did, and years of experience with her brood of nine had given her a firm way of bustling another person along that was impressive even to a professional nurse who did professional person-bustling. — Suzette Haden Elgin

I mean, there Persephone was, minding her own business, picking flowers, when all of a sudden Hades bursts out of the ground in a flaming chariot and grabs her. I mean, you can't just go around grabbing people. That's not okay." I narrow my eyes, challenging him. "What kind of person does that?"
Haden glowers right back at me. "Maybe he didn't see any other options at the moment. — Bree Despain

Creative Arts raise a person to another level of consciousness as if you could imagine life before words. — Charlie Haden

Old film-noir movies. There's something comforting about watching black-and-white movies, and hearing this kind of music just puts me in a fantasy world. It's a really great escape for me. — Petra Haden

I invested, and I protected myself, so I enjoy that freedom. — Thomas Haden Church

Chris (Anderson) is risking his life with every chord, that's how much it means to him. He has such a reverence for beauty, he plays like an angel. — Charlie Haden

I have a healthy sense of vanity. I like to look good for myself, which is what a lot of women say. I want to stay fit. — Thomas Haden Church

You have to see your unimportance before you can see your importance and your significance to the world. — Charlie Haden

But at the same time, if the right thing came along, I would do it in a second. — Thomas Haden Church

Between Clive Owen winning at the Golden Globes and the British Academy announcing its nominations, of which Sideways received only one, I'm feeling pretty humbled these days. — Thomas Haden Church

He is so efficient. He seems to be playing smarter, more confidently. I think they have given him more responsibility. He's very, very accurate and doesn't make many mistakes. The statistics show he has three interceptions, but in reality it's only one. The others were deflected passes by receivers who should have caught balls. — Pat Haden

Theia: "We're very high up here, aren't we?"
Haden: "Well, you certainly are. Theia, I need you to wake up."
Theia: "Did you know that I have never seen a penis?"
He laughed again. "When you wake up, you are going to hate yourself. — Gwen Hayes

Failure isn't defeating; failure is motivating. Failure provides a healthy dose of perspective, makes us more tolerant and patient, and makes us realize we're a lot like the people around us. When you realize you aren't so different or special after all, it's a lot easier to be happy with the people around you - and with yourself. — Jeff Haden

I don't want my hair to be ridiculous. But in Texas I do wear a hat a lot, so I probably have hat-head more than I'm aware of. — Thomas Haden Church

If you are truly fearless as a performer, than you don't fear kids or dogs. — Thomas Haden Church

Any tendency to design for design's sake, to create a pattern within which the owner must live according to rules set by the designer, is headed for frustration, if not disaster. — Thomas Haden Church

...wary as any burnt child with an unfamiliar fire to contend with. — Suzette Haden Elgin

He wished he could show her the memory of the very first time
he'd laid eyes upon her. A random moment, his window to her
world, and yet it
had pierced his excuse for a soul as if it were destiny. As if she
were his destiny. A thousand times he'd looked through the realms,
but one
glimpse had forever changed their paths. — Gwen Hayes

This is what happens when the discourse of publishing, defined and driven by spoken and written language, is talked about in exactly the same vocabulary and syntax as any widgetmaking industry. Books are reformulated as 'product' - like screwdrivers or flea-bombs or soap - and the majority of writers are perceived as typists with bad attitudes. — Suzette Haden Elgin

I've been an admirer of Helen Mirren for a long time. As I get older, I find myself admiring older women who have poise and elegance. — Thomas Haden Church

Before music there was silence and the duet format allows you to build from the silence in a very special way. — Charlie Haden

The bass line is the anchor for me. I started with the bass, and either doubled that and then added the harmonies, or sometimes added my own harmonies that I've always wanted to sing on the song. And then it just went on from there - singing violin parts and trumpet parts and just trying to emulate the sounds of the instruments. — Petra Haden

It's true that I never want to hurt you. But I can't promise you that I never would -Haden — Gwen Hayes

One that always stings is "Grow up." And it stings most when you have the suspicion that it is justified, that you have just done somethingchildish and you got nailed for it. It's probably been said to me a few times. — Thomas Haden Church

Their lives have been largely defined by failure and you would think the prospect of marriage, which is supposed to be bountiful and hopeful, it's just really another kind of tangential thing in his life. — Thomas Haden Church

First principle: there's no such thing as reality. We make it up by perceiving stimuli from the environment - external or internal - and making statements about it. Everybody perceives stuff, everybody makes up statements about it, everybody - so far as we can tell - agrees enough to get by, so that when I say 'Hand me the coffee' you know what to hand me. And that's reality. Second principle; people get used to a certain kind of reality and come to expect it, and if what they perceive doesn't fit the set of statements everybody's agreed to, either the culture has to go through a kind of fit until it adjusts...or they just blank it out. — Suzette Haden Elgin

A Grandmother is a safe haven. — Suzette Haden Elgin

But I think once the word gets out that the movie is funny - funny is transcendent - it will traverse all demographic barriers if people embrace it as a funny movie. — Thomas Haden Church

That's what I love about those old movies - the music is like a constant companion. Even in scenes that aren't particularly dramatic, like a woman checking her watch, you hear the music as a comment on that action. — Petra Haden

Well, first I tried just telling her the truth. That if you kiss her, you'll die. She started crying hysterically."
"Oh, good thinking," I say, lifting the cup of hot chocolate to my mouth. Why hadn't I thought of that right off?
"Yeeeah, turns out not so much. I thought that might have worked since, you know, she's supposedly in love with you, but then being a total psychopath and all, she started blubbering, 'I'd rather have one perfect passionate kiss with Haden and lose him forever, than to have never kissed him at all.'"
I almost choke on a sip of hot chocolate. It burns my throat. — Bree Despain

I learned at a very young age that music teaches you about life. When you're in the midst of improvisation, there is no yesterday and no tomorrow - there is just the moment that you are in. In that beautiful moment, you experience your true insignificance to the rest of the universe. It is then, and only then, that you can experience your true significance. — Charlie Haden

Confederation Day every blessed year on December 12. — Suzette Haden Elgin

When we first started playing we did a lot of rehearsing. We used to write out everything. In fact, that's the way everybody rehearses: we play the tunes and improvise. — Charlie Haden

She's not merely my cat. She's my friend. She's my family. — Bree Despain

I told my students the other day in class, which is about the spirituality and creativity as much as it is about music. I said, 'If you're walking down the street and you see a baby carriage, and there's a baby in the carriage; you look down and your eyes meet the eyes of the baby. The baby looks at you: That's the kind of moment you're in when you're playing. — Charlie Haden

And Edward was staring at me curiously, that same, familiar edge of frustation even more distinct now in his black eyes.
I stared back, surprised, expecting him to look quickly away. But instead he continued to gaze with probing intensity into my eyes. There was no question of me looking away. My hands started to shake.
"Mr. Cullen?" the teacher called, seeking the answer to a question that I haden't heard.
"The Krebs Circle," Edward answered, seeming relucant as he turned to look at Mr. Banner.
I looked down at my book as soon as his eyes released me, trying to find my place. Cowardly as ever, I shifted my hair over my right shoulder to hide my face. I couldn't believe the rush of emotion pulsing through me - just because he'd happened to look at me for the first time in a half-dozen weeks. I couldn't allow him to have this level of influence over me. It was pathetic. More than pathetic, it was unhealthy. — Stephenie Meyer

Of course I can keep secrets. It's the people I tell them to who can't keep them. — Anthony Haden-Guest

I certainly was an actor and then I drifted more towards writing and directing. — Thomas Haden Church

Of course, anybody's who's 26 years old will probably say, "Of course the old guy would say that." But wait until you're 45 or 46 years old. See how you feel about it then. — Thomas Haden Church

Do you think it's easy for me? No, I don't remember you. I don't remember holding you or talking to you or falling in love with you - but I walk around with a giant hole in my heart all the time. I feel your absence every second of the day. It aches and nothing soothes it. Losing you is bad enough, but I don't even get the comfort of remembering that I had you once.
-Haden — Gwen Hayes

And there have certainly been movies I wanted to be in and milestones I wanted to surpass that did not happen. — Thomas Haden Church

When I moved to L.A. in 1989, the very first thing I did was this horrific pilot called To Protect And Surf. — Thomas Haden Church

To some extent I could identify with that because I kind of just made my money and got out. — Thomas Haden Church

I'm not so proud to think that anything is unworthy, and I don't think I was that way 10 years ago. — Thomas Haden Church

There's like a special group of people that come from different parts of the planet to study with me. It's nice. I just gave a workshop in Boston at the New England Conservatory, which was really nice. — Charlie Haden

I love going to the feed store and drinking coffee and talking about how much rain we need. — Thomas Haden Church

I don't understand." Except, truthfully, I just didn't want to understand.
Pain shadowed across his face. "Darkness lives in me, Theia. Inside of me. Like a sickness. And right next to it, intertwined with it, are my feelings for you. If I act on one, I'll act on the other. The darkness in me wants you the way a black hole eats stars. I dream of tasting you, devouring you." His eyes darkened terribly.
"Haden, stop trying to frighten me."
He carried on as if he hadn't heard me. "This isn't a crush; it's an obsession. You are never not in my thoughts. Your scent carries across a room and paralyzes me with longing. I don't want to hold your hand. Part of me wants to set you on fire and hold you while the flame consumes us both, to eat your heart so I know that only I possess it entirely. Are you scared now? Does your human mind comprehend the danger at last? I'm not like you. I'm not human, not completely anyway. — Gwen Hayes

The two men sat there together, in the kind of silence that's not empty because it has the thoughts of two longtime friends to fill it. — Suzette Haden Elgin

I always told the people at Cal Arts that if they wanted me to do Jazz studies, first of all, there couldn't be a big band within 500 miles and that I could do what I wanted to do. And they said I could. — Charlie Haden

Whatever you do, don't do anything that might make Brimstone mad. — Bree Despain

The bass, no matter what kind of music you're playing, it just enhances the sound and makes everything sound more beautiful and full. When the bass stops, the bottom kind of drops out of everything. — Charlie Haden

I wish I finished music school, because then I feel like I could talk more about the dissonant notes. — Petra Haden

As an actor I kind of do. I started out doing voice overs in the mid 80s when I was in grad school. — Thomas Haden Church

Look at the Native American culture. They revere the elders. — Thomas Haden Church

It was her favorite cup, emerald-green china with a rim of silver, and sturdy enough to drink from half awake without worrying that she'd crush it, the last unbroken one of a set used for company meals when she was still in Granny School. She despised the cups her mother and grandmother chose to start their days with, delicate white porcelain with the Brightwater Crest on the side, big enough to hold maybe three good swallows, and so frail they felt like eggshells in your hand. She could face those later in the day if need be, but not before breakfast, and at no time did she admire them. — Suzette Haden Elgin

I've got a collection of songs that I've had, I keep adding to and they're all great American composers. I wanted to showcase American composers and I've done that on a lot of my records and played things by American composers that I really respect. — Charlie Haden

It used to be that creative music was most of the music that you heard back in the '30s and '40s, and now it's like 3 percent. So, its kind of a struggle getttin' it out there. — Charlie Haden