Grotjahns Quotes & Sayings

Shame is paralyzing and debilitating. It invites us not to be heard, at least not in an authentic way. Acting courageously when shame enters the picture requires extraordinary courage because people will do anything to escape from shame or from the possibility that shame will be evoked. It is just too difficult to go there. Even for people who will walk in to the fires of transformation to face fear.

Men and women tend to manage shame differently. Generally, men have less tolerance for shame, perhaps because they are shamed almost from birth for half their humanity. The so called feminine part of themselves including anything vulnerable or seen as weak. Men often sit with shame for only a nanosecond before flipping it into something more masculine or therefore tolerable like anger or rage or a need to dominate devalue or control. — Harriet Lerner

You have to have a strong sense of self in this business - otherwise they're going to spit you out. — Charlene Tilton

I punched my buddy in the nose after lunch, now I'm in trouble cause the dean saw the punch. — Bobby Vee

As I've gotten older and grown more independent, I think for myself, and that's how it should be. — Michelle Kwan

I am for the small man who has not forgotten, for the man who loves his beer and his women and his sunlight — Charles Bukowski

It was never assumed in the United States that the citizen of a free country has a right to do whatever he pleases; on the contrary, social obligations were there imposed upon him more various than anywhere else. — Alexis De Tocqueville

During the night, angels stared down through the stars into Jacob's world. They watched him sleep. They commented on the way his body folded on the bed. They liked this man. They drew their wings over him and stood guard by his soul. — Noah Benshea

I think I told my parents I wanted to be a writer, just so they'd kind of think I had some direction in life. It made it easier to pick out classes at college, like, 'Oh, this is writing classes, that's what I'm doing.' — Kyle Kinane

First of all, it's a blast. Just fun; it's a good environment to play. And Jayne and I have a great time together because we're somewhat familiar with each other; that's a fun and comfortable place to start at when building our relationship. Everyone's incredible and they're good at what they do. — Kendra Kassebaum

Why, after all, must everyone like music? That they are missing something is just the lover's opinion. — Ned Rorem

My dirty little secret is I don't drive at all, though I have my license and I renew it every five years. I'm phobic. I keep worrying if I drive, I'll end up killing someone. I hoped that by writing about a car crash, I might understand and heal this phobia, but I didn't! I'm still phobic. — Caroline Leavitt

Hindsight's a wonderful thing," Klara said. "If we all had it there would be no history to write about. — Kate Atkinson

I imagine that existential dread probably ought to get a devil. A devil of post-colonial angst. A devil of complicated grief. — Alan Moore