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Until recently, the question was 'Why can't a woman be more like a man?' It should have been changed to 'Why can't both sexes be more like the best parts of each other?' Instead, the pendulum swung to the 1960s feminist lapel button Adam Was a First Draft. True enough. So are we all. — Warren Farrell
Survey 2001: Men who never married, never had a child, worked full time and were college educated earn only 85% of what women with the same criteria earn. — Warren Farrell
I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner. — Warren Farrell
When men in relationships have more money, we say they have the power. When women in relationships have more money, we say they are being used. — Warren Farrell
Men have the influence and power in business and politics. It is the mother who can make the child's bedtime earlier, take away desserts or ground the child. — Warren Farrell
When I lose my larger sense of supporting people to be their best, I lessen my contact with the God inside me. — Warren Farrell
But when feminists suggest that God might be a She without suggesting that the Devil might also be female, they must be opposed. — Warren Farrell
All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work
and therefore as dads. — Warren Farrell
In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls. — Warren Farrell
Once boys' and men's challenges are clear, the question 'why now' quickly becomes 'why didn't we see this sooner?' The answer? Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable. — Warren Farrell
Women's vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men's confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women. — Warren Farrell
A person working 45 hours per week averages 44% more income than someone working 40 hours per week. That's 44% more income for 13% more time. — Warren Farrell
[This is] the basis of the Innocent Woman Defense the Innocent Woman Principle:;: Women are believed when they say they are innocent of violence and most easily doubted when they say they are guilty of violence. — Warren Farrell
When a government requires a man to support a child he was tricked into creating, that government subsidizes fraud. No. It is worse than that: It subsidizes the woman using a man's body for 18-21 years without his consent. — Warren Farrell
Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness. — Warren Farrell
Both sexes allow men dentists inside our mouths, but, well, have you ever let a man who is a dental hygienist inside your mouth? The man must earn his way to our private places in a way not required of a woman
he must become the doctor or the dentist, or forget it. — Warren Farrell
The Myth of Male Power dealt much more with the political issues, the legal issues, sexual harassment, date rape, women who kill, and those issues were very much more interfaced with the agendas of feminism. — Warren Farrell
It is ironic that a movement that made its reputation championing the irrelevance of biological differences when those differences were to most women's disadvantage immediately returned to biological determinism when those differences were to the most women's advantage. — Warren Farrell
We always look at the 'Fortune 500,' and we say, men in power, but we don't look at the glass cellar as opposed to the glass ceiling and say, men also are the homeless, men are also the ones that are the garbage collectors. Men are also the ones dying in construction sites that aren't properly supervised for safety hazards. — Warren Farrell
Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive. — Warren Farrell
Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another's needs creates empathy. — Warren Farrell
Programs like WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. — Warren Farrell
When divorces meant marriage no longer provided security for a lifetime, women adjusted by focusing on careers as empowerment. But when the sacrifice of a career met the sacrifices in a career, the fantasy of a career became the reality of trade-offs. Women developed career ambivalence. — Warren Farrell
In 1969, nationwide, female professors who had never been married and never published earned 145% of their counterpart male colleagues. — Warren Farrell
Men have not stacked the decks against women. — Warren Farrell
People who work 44 hours per week make 50 percent more than people who work 34 hours a week. — Warren Farrell
All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose. — Warren Farrell
[With respect to child custody] a woman has no right to a unilateral choice that affects the rest of a man's life any more than a man would have the right to a unilateral choice that affects the rest of a woman's life. — Warren Farrell
There is what might be called a Catch-22 of hazardous occupations: The more hazardous the job, the more men; the more men, the less we care about making the job safer. The Catch-22 of hazardous occupations creates a 'glass cellar' which few women wish to enter. Women are alienated not just out of the fear of being hurt on the job, but by an atmosphere that can make a hazardous job more hazardous than it needs to be. — Warren Farrell
We have entered 'The Era of the Three-Option Woman and the No-Option Man. — Warren Farrell
So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny. — Warren Farrell
Somehow, women's romance novels are not titled He Stopped When I Said "No". They are, though, titled Sweet Savage Love, in which the woman rejects the hand of her gentler lover who saves her from the rapist and marries the man who repeatedly and savagely rapes her. It is this "marry the rapist" theme that not only turned Sweet Savage Love into a best-seller but also into one of women's most enduring romance novels. — Warren Farrell
Our focus on discrimination against women during the past 30 years has blinded us to opportunities for women. — Warren Farrell
If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life. — Warren Farrell
Those who call me an opportunist are following the old rule: If you can't attack the data, attack the person. — Warren Farrell
If women had to promise to provide for a man for a lifetime before he removed his veil and showed her his smile, would we think of this as a system of female privilege? — Warren Farrell
Without children, men have more liberty to earn less - that is, they are free to pursue more fulfilling and less lucrative careers, like writing or art or teaching social studies. — Warren Farrell
Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship. — Warren Farrell
When women criticized men, I called it 'insight' ... When men criticized women, I called it 'sexism' and 'backlash.' — Warren Farrell
Now, since I'm a husband and father, discrimination against women isn't just political, it's personal. — Warren Farrell
The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it. — Warren Farrell
It is important that a woman's "noes" be respected and her "yeses" be respected. — Warren Farrell
We take men's obligation to earn money, and when they do it well, we blame them for having power and being oppressors. And when they don't do it all, women just don't marry men who are reading 'I'm Okay, You're Okay' in the unemployment line. — Warren Farrell
Black men, Indian men, and gay men have all have something in common: They do not provide an economic security blanket for women. — Warren Farrell
Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men. — Warren Farrell
Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day. — Warren Farrell
During the years I was on the board of directors of the National Organization for Women [chapter] in New York City, the most resistant audiences I ever faced in the process of doing corporate workshops on equality in the workplace were not male executives they were the wives of male executives. As long as her income came from her husband, she was not feeling generous when affirmative action let another woman have a head start vying for her husband's (her) income. — Warren Farrell
And with the rape, I was showing why the rape statistics are exaggerated, and saying that date rape was much more complex than the way feminists had portrayed it, as men oppressing women. — Warren Farrell
I am often asked why men don't get as worked up as they might about women particularly poor women having to use their bodies as prostitutes. Because most men unconsciously experience themselves as prostitutes every day the miner, the firefighter, the construction worker, the logger, the soldier, the meatpacker these men are prostitutes in the direct sense: they sacrifice their bodies for money and for their families. — Warren Farrell
In our society, the sound of men complaining is like nails on a chalkboard. — Warren Farrell
Nobody really believes in equality anyway. — Warren Farrell
Circumcision in the United States is routinely performed without anesthesia, though anesthesia reduces the infant's stress and prevents infection and blood clots. — Warren Farrell
I found that women entrepreneurs earn 50% less than their male counterparts. — Warren Farrell
When we suggest that men are at the top because men discriminate, we miss the point. Men are at the top of the work hierarchy because work has been primarily men's responsibility. — Warren Farrell
For blacks in our society, victimization may be a true issue. But it isn't a true issue for women. Neither men nor women are victimized. The true issue, that I try to point out, is that both sexes suffer restricted roles. — Warren Farrell
When we look at the pay of men and women who do work equal hours, two discoveries are quite astonishing:
When women and men work less than 40 hours a week, the women earn more than the men;
When men and women work more than 40, the men earn more than the women. — Warren Farrell
One danger of a man succeeding is that it teaches his wife and daughter not to worry about success. — Warren Farrell
The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts. — Warren Farrell
Our children are better served by speaking not of visitation versus custody, but of parent time. — Warren Farrell
I started to get very well recognized in the early seventies as the only man in the United States who had been elected three times to the board of NOW in New York City. — Warren Farrell
A man's primary fantasy is access to a variety of attractive women without the fear of rejection. — Warren Farrell
Solutions: ( ... ) Seek an understanding of the other sex's best intent. — Warren Farrell
For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object. — Warren Farrell
Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash. — Warren Farrell
Men are likely to be quite generous, especially financially. — Warren Farrell
One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive. — Warren Farrell
Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard. — Warren Farrell
People who get higher pay are more willing to relocate
especially to undesirable locations at the company's behest ... A corporate secretary may change companies in the same town; a corporate executive is more likely to change towns with the same company. A talented corporate secretary sees an invitation to relocate as an invitation; a future corporate executive sees an invitation to relocate as an opportunity
and an obligation. — Warren Farrell
In brief, our genetic heritage is at odds with our genetic future. For the first time in human history, the qualities it takes to survive as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love. — Warren Farrell
In the past quarter century, we exposed biases against other races and called it racism, and we exposed biases against women and called it sexism. Biases against men we call humor. — Warren Farrell
Sexual harassment legislation feels unfair to men because if they sued over an ethnic joke, or over a woman discussing pornography or asking them out, they'd be laughed out of the company. — Warren Farrell
By the 1970s, the American woman was being called 'liberated' or 'superwoman' while the American man was being called 'baby killer' if he fought in Vietnam, 'traitor' if he protested, or 'apathetic' if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on. — Warren Farrell
So one of my core themes in The Myth of Male Power - that history's controlling force was not patriarchy, but survival - is still ignored. Instead, the leading universities' women's studies and "gender studies" courses still emanate from the Marxist and Civil Rights model of oppressor vs. oppressed. We'll see in this book exactly why the dichotomy of oppressor/oppressed is both inaccurate and, more important, undermines love and women's empowerment. In virtually every leading university this leads to a demonizing of men and masculinity that distorts the very essence of traditional masculinity - being socialized to be a hero by being willing to sacrifice oneself in war or in work. The possibility that being socialized to be disposable is not genuine power is, to this day, either considered radical, heretical, or, most frequently, not considered. — Warren Farrell
Men are fair, and they have learned not to personalize anger - they can disagree with you and argue to the bone, but afterward they still consider you a nice person with whom the underlying human relationship need not be altered. — Warren Farrell
The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts - especially once he has to provide for children. — Warren Farrell
Male-female fusion does not create women's rights. It creates a fusion of rights. — Warren Farrell
Hazing is both testing and training to subordinate self to the team. — Warren Farrell
Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him. — Warren Farrell
If we hold the married man accountable for finances gone legally awry, then the married woman should be held accountable for children who go awry. — Warren Farrell
I don't think there's anything that is a greater area of discrimination against women today than the fact that nowhere in the world is there a female role model in team sports that more than half of a general audience would recognize. — Warren Farrell
Framework, ( ... ) addiction to female beauty and sex; deprivation of the beautiful woman and sex with her until the man guarantees economic security in return; ( ... — Warren Farrell
If a man belittles a woman, it could become a lawsuit. If women belittle men, it's a Hallmark card. — Warren Farrell
Women are the only 'oppressed' group that is able to buy most of the $10 billion worth of cosmetics each year; the only oppressed group that spends more on high fashion, brand-name clothing than its oppressors; the only oppressed group that watches more TV. — Warren Farrell
Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest. — Warren Farrell
Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds. — Warren Farrell
Crime, especially crime involving money, reflects the gap between the expectation to provide and the ability to provide ... If we really want men to commit crime as infrequently as women, we can start by not expecting men to provide for women more than we expect women to provide for men. — Warren Farrell
Men don't oppress women any more than women oppress men. — Warren Farrell
Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn't get all its oil from OPEC. — Warren Farrell
You could make a case that women addicted men to their sexuality and then withdrew their sexuality until we provided them with a source of income. — Warren Farrell
Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men's powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us
which is really just love for ourselves. — Warren Farrell
Although a government study found that men's health was much worse than women's health or the health of any minority group, headlines around the country read: 'Minorities Face Large Health Care Gap.' They did not say: 'Men Face Large Health Care Gap.' Why? Because we associate the sacrifice of men's lives with the saving of the rest of us, and this association leads us to carry in our unconscious an incentive not to care about men living longer. — Warren Farrell
Companies like I.B.M. have offered women scholarships to study engineering for years, and women engineers routinely get higher starting salaries than men. — Warren Farrell
Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement. — Warren Farrell
Men may be way behind in creating choices for themselves, but have actually been quiet supporters of the choices women want for themselves. — Warren Farrell
Divorces led to bodies of men (called legislatures) protecting women collectively as other men (called husbands) failed to protect women individually. — Warren Farrell
A shared choice movement sees the fetus as the genes of a woman and the genes of a man; the flesh of the woman, the flesh of the man; the bone of a woman, the bone of a man; the responsibility of a woman, the responsibility of a man; the rights of a woman, the rights of a man. It desires a transition to equality. — Warren Farrell
In Stage I, divorces were not allowed, so men's [sexual] affairs did not put women's economic security in jeopardy; in Stage II, affairs could lead to divorce, so men's affairs did place women's economic security in jeopardy. We did not want political leaders who would be role models for behavior that would put women's economic security in jeopardy. — Warren Farrell