Portia De Rossi Quotes & Sayings

I try to be feminine, yet intellectual and smart at the same time. You don't see enough of that. — Portia De Rossi

It's always fun to play the innocent, no matter what you're doing. If you feel like you're doing the right thing, you can get away with a lot comedically. I had definitely missed not having a conscience. — Portia De Rossi

When it's quiet in my head like this, that's when the voice doesn't need to tell me how pathetic I am. I know it in the deepest part of me. When it's quiet like this, that's when I truly hate myself. — Portia De Rossi

Reality TV now doesn't feel reality TV when it started. The line between reality and fiction is blurred. So many of these people are phony or shallow, in their own right. If you've ever watched any of The Real Housewives, or those types of shows, they're all performing. Even though they're real people, they're performing. — Portia De Rossi

I have a very, very healthy relationship with food in that I eat whatever I want, whenever I want. I never restrict quantities or types of food. — Portia De Rossi

True nobility isn't about being better than anyone else; it's about being better than you used to be. — Portia De Rossi

I really never stopped thinking about Ellen, because I just haven't felt that kind of energy with anyone in my life. — Portia De Rossi

I didn't understand that playing roles in any relationship is false and will inevitably lead to the relationship's collapse. No one can be any one thing all the time. — Portia De Rossi

And dieting, I discovered, was another form of disordered eating, just as anorexia and bulimia similarly disrupt the natural order of eating. "Ordered" eating is the practice of eating when you are hungry and ceasing to eat when your brain sends the signal that your stomach is full ... All people who live their lives on a diet are suffering. If you can accept your natural body weight and not force it to beneath your body's natural, healthy weight, then you can live your life free of dieting, of restriction, of feeling guilty every time you eat a slice of your kid's birthday cake. — Portia De Rossi

I stumbled into acting and just loved it. I deferred law school-and I'm still deferred. — Portia De Rossi

I finally understood that by being on a perpetual diet, I had practiced a "disordered" form of eating my whole life. I restricted when I was hungry and in need of nutrition and binged when I was so grotesquely full I couldn't be comfortable in any position by lying down. Diets that tell people what to eat or when to eat are the practices inbetween. And dieting, I discovered, was another form of disordered eating, just as anorexia and bulimia similarly disrupt the natural order of eating. — Portia De Rossi

And I somehow always felt less lonely when I was completely alone. — Portia De Rossi

There's a reason they call it a private life, I'd often say to interviewers. But there's a fine line between being private and being ashamed. The — Portia De Rossi

Oh, I don't have any fans. Personally? I don't have any. — Portia De Rossi

I don't even like watching sex scenes in movies. I have a slight prudish side to me. — Portia De Rossi

You live with the fear people might find out. Then you actually have the courage to tell people and they go, I don't think you are gay. It's enough to drive you crazy. — Portia De Rossi

Thanks so much, everybody, for making gay marriage legal, thank you for everything you've done-I'm just going to walk through that door — Portia De Rossi

If you've looked at all the glamour magazines lately, all the covers are actresses. If they are on those covers, they are going to try to emulate models. That's just the way it is. — Portia De Rossi

I could tell by his expression that once he got over his anger at me for keeping this secret from him, there was nothing left to talk about. He wasn't confused. He didn't need questions answered. He didn't ask why or how or with whom or whether I thought maybe it might just be a phase. He didn't ask who knew and who didn't know or whether I thought it might ruin my career. I was his sister and he didn't care whether I was straight or gay; it simply didn't matter to him. — Portia De Rossi

I was very sexual from a very young age. — Portia De Rossi

People might find me attractive, but it's also my job to prove that I can be intelligent. — Portia De Rossi

I didn't choose the fact that I was gay, but I did choose whether to live my life as a gay woman-that was the terrifying thing for me. Especially being a gay actress. — Portia De Rossi

In a way, I loved him. But I loved the roles that we both played a lot more. I had assigned him the role of my protector. — Portia De Rossi

My sexuality is a part of me that I really like. But it's not the totality of me. — Portia De Rossi

You don't have to be emaciated or vomiting to be suffering. All people who live their lives on a diet are suffering. — Portia De Rossi

I did a lot of fast talking as a youth; I was pretty good at it. I was never talked into it - I was always the one doing the talking. — Portia De Rossi

It sounds so trite, but my private life is mine. — Portia De Rossi

I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it. — Portia De Rossi

I justified it in so many ways. I had a very, very long and difficult struggle with my sexuality. — Portia De Rossi

The first time I was paparazzi'd, I thought I was being investigated for an insurance claim. — Portia De Rossi

I wondered if that's what aging felt like. That desire and reality were dueling until the day you die, that nobody every got to a place of peace. I had always wanted to get old so I didn't have to care anymore, but I began to think that it would be best just to skip the getting older part and just die. — Portia De Rossi

Women in the postfeminist era, while supposedly strong and commanding and equal to men in every sense, looked weaker and smaller than ever before. — Portia De Rossi

I'm living by example by continuing on with my career and having a full, rich life, and I am incidentally gay. — Portia De Rossi

In high school I had sex with girls quite a few times. They were straight women who I convinced to jump in the sack with me. — Portia De Rossi

Normal isn't an adjective you wish to hear after putting that much effort into making sure it was spectacular. — Portia De Rossi

Even if I'm hormonal and I feel like I've got a couple pounds of water weight, I will never starve myself, I will never, ever go on a diet. — Portia De Rossi

My decision not to eat animals anymore was paramount to my growth as a spiritual person. It made me aware of greed and made me more sensitive to cruelty. It made me feel like I was contributing to making the world better and that I was connected to everything around me. I felt like I was part of the whole by respecting every living thing rather than using it and destroying it by living unconsciously. Healing comes from love. And loving every living thing in turn helps you love yourself. — Portia De Rossi

Life can take so many twists and turns. You can't ever count yourself out. Even if you're really afraid at some point, you can't think that there's no room for you to grow and do something good with your life. — Portia De Rossi

Effortlessness is an attractive thing. And it takes a lot of effort to achieve it. — Portia De Rossi

I want to exude strength and intelligence. — Portia De Rossi

Just look at all the awards shows now. It has turned into a catwalk. You have to be wearing a certain designer, a certain dress, and everyone's critiquing. — Portia De Rossi

At my high school graduation, I graduated from home school, so it was pregnant teens and gang members. But, when I got on stage, there were kids in the background who all screamed, "Marry me!," very loud. — Portia De Rossi

Every animal has its own intelligence and sensitivities. They're all lovely, worthwhile, and deserving of our respect. — Portia De Rossi

If your self esteem really does depend on how you look, you're always going to be insecure. There's no way you can get around it. Even if you get the perfect body, you're going to age. At some point, you have to take control, shift the focus, and decide that who you are, what you can contribute to the world, what you do and say is so much more important than how you look — Portia De Rossi

I love to work. I really enjoy getting up really early and driving downtown. I just really love the process of acting and being on a series. — Portia De Rossi

I was trying to find a reason for having had to escape from the place that was my home. To convince myself of my choices, I had to make it a place that everyone should want to escape from. — Portia De Rossi

By starving myself into society's beauty ideal, I had compromised my success, my independence, and my quality of life. Being overweight was really no different. It was just the "f - you" response to the same pressure. I was still responding to the pressure to comply to the fashion industry's standards of beauty, just in the negative sense. I was still answering to their demands when really I shouldn't have been listening to them at all. The images of stick-thin prepubescent girls never should have had power over me. I should've had my sights set on successful businesswomen and successful female artists, authors, and politicians to emulate. Instead I stupidly and pointlessly just wanted to be considered pretty. I squandered my brain and my talent to squeeze into a size 2 dress while my male counterparts went to work on making money, making policy, making a difference. — Portia De Rossi

I began to see myself as someone who can help others understand diversity rather than feeling like a social outcast. Ellen taught me to not care about other people's opinions. She taught me to be truthful. She taught me to be free. I began to live my life in love and complete acceptance. For the first time I had truly accepted myself. — Portia De Rossi

Most important, in order to find real happiness, you must learn to love yourself for the totality of who you are and not just what you look like. — Portia De Rossi

I thought, I'm out in my life, that doesn't involve my public life. — Portia De Rossi

Restriction generates yearning. You want what you cannot have. — Portia De Rossi

Supermodels are over, and the new picture girl has become the television actress. — Portia De Rossi

I had to find a relationship with someone who could simultaneously make me grow up and keep me forever young. — Portia De Rossi

The diet industry is making a lot of money selling us fad diets, nonfat foods full of chemicals, gym memberships, and pills while we lose a piece of our self-esteem every time we fail another diet or neglect to use the gym membership we could barely afford. — Portia De Rossi

We must be able to inspire. That's my goal in acting. — Portia De Rossi

I felt the weight fall away from me. I lost the weight that I'd been carrying around since I was a teenager. Shame weighs a lot more than flesh and bone. Within — Portia De Rossi

Everyone is their own kind of lesbian. To think there's a certain way to dress or present yourself in the world is just one more stereotype we have to fit into. — Portia De Rossi

I love being able to wear dresses and clothes that make me feel feminine and beautiful, and I love the fact that I don't have to all the time; I can wear a tank and jeans. — Portia De Rossi

When you have the paparazzi hiding in the bushes outside your home, the only thing you can control is how you respond publicly. — Portia De Rossi

Writing to her, I was no longer lonely ... I could tolerate anything as long as I had a notepad and a pen and could pour my heart out to her in these letters. — Portia De Rossi

The most important thing for me was to never, ever, ever deny it. But I didn't really have the courage to talk about it. I was thinking, The people who need to know I'm gay know. — Portia De Rossi

This ring means that I choose to spend the rest of my life with you. I promise to love you in the nurturing and selfless way that you love me. I've changed so much since I've known you. Your love has given me the strength to be softer. You've taught me kindness and compassion. You make me better. — Portia De Rossi

I want young people to see me and think you can be feminine and smart and successful, all at the same time. — Portia De Rossi

I contemplate the idea of being better and it brings to mind my favorite quote from Wayne Dyer, our friend and the man who is about to marry me to the woman of my dreams. "True nobility isn't about being better than anyone else; it's about being better than you used to be." "Yes, Ma. I am better." I am better than I used to be. — Portia De Rossi

The theory of objectivism claims that there are certain things that most
people in society can agree upon. A model is pretty. A lawyer is smart. Our society is based upon objectivism. It's how we make rules and why we obey
them. — Portia De Rossi

When I was 15, I changed my name legally. I think it was largely due to my struggle about being gay. Everything just didn't fit, and I was trying to find things I could identify myself with, and it started with my name. — Portia De Rossi

I have to be asked, I guess, but I love the idea of marriage. I think it's beautiful. I'm such a romantic, and I always have been. — Portia De Rossi

Even when I took first prize, topped the class, won the race, I never really won anything. I was merely avoiding the embarrassment of losing. — Portia De Rossi

I knew that I was gay, I knew it. I just couldn't see myself as a gay woman, even though that's where my heart was. — Portia De Rossi

I married him for a green card. We had a really great, caring relationship; it just obviously wasn't right for me. — Portia De Rossi

When I watched Ellen come out in '97, my jaw was on the floor. I thought, There are some people who break the doors down, hold them open, and some people who walk right through. — Portia De Rossi

She'd tell me how she'd handle the backhanded compliment by smiling and pretending she was receiving a genuine compliment all the while ignoring their attempt to be insulting. After all, it's the way an insult is received that makes it an insult. You can't really give offense unless someone takes it. — Portia De Rossi

There's a fine line between being private and being ashamed. — Portia De Rossi

When I was anorexic it just seemed like I literally wanted to disappear. And now I would like to reappear. — Portia De Rossi

The images of stick-thin prepubescent girls never should have had power over me. I should've had my sights set on successful businesswomen and successful female artists, authors, and politicians to emulate. Instead I stupidly and pointlessly just wanted to be considered pretty. I squandered my brain and my talent to squeeze into a size 2 dress while my male counterparts went to work on making money, making policy, making a difference. I — Portia De Rossi

I'm not quite as limber, but for my peers and my age group, I'm still top notch! — Portia De Rossi

I thought that if I accomplished enough, that somehow I would be let off the hook in the future. Like I didn't have to keep striving and achieving because I had done that already, and it would add up to being enough. — Portia De Rossi

You treat me better than I've ever treated myself. — Portia De Rossi

Average. It was the worst, most disgusting word in the English language. Nothing meaningful or worthwhile ever came from that word. — Portia De Rossi

I don't know where this pressure came from. I can't blame my parents because it has always felt internal. Like any other parent, my mother celebrated the A grades and the less-than-A grades she felt there was no need to tell anybody about. But not acknowledging the effort that ended in a less than perfect result impacted me as a child. If I didn't win, then we wouldn't tell anyone that I had even competed to save us the embarrassment of acknowledging that someone else was better. Keeping the secret made me think that losing was something to be ashamed of, and that unless I was sure I was going to be the champion there was no point in trying. And there was certainly no point to just having fun. — Portia De Rossi

My feelings for Ellen overrode all of my fear about being out as a lesbian. I had to be with her, and I just figured I'd deal with the other stuff later. — Portia De Rossi

I never, ever, restrict food, and I will never go on a diet ever again. — Portia De Rossi

I ran into Ellen at a photo shoot. She took my breath away. That had never happened to me in my life. — Portia De Rossi

Recovery feels like shit. It didn't feel like I was doing something good; it felt like I was giving up. It feels like having to learn how to walk all over again. — Portia De Rossi

If I was 14 and knew some gay people, I wouldn't nearly have had the struggle I had. Our world is definitely changing. — Portia De Rossi

You poor thing. I wish I could've been there to save you."
"You did save me. You save me every single day. — Portia De Rossi

Eating disorders are shrouded in secrecy, and there are so many things I felt very ashamed of that I could never talk about. Even though I have fully recovered, there were still things that I needed to go through again and work through. — Portia De Rossi

I highly recommend inviting the worst-case scenario into your life. — Portia De Rossi

I had a hell of a time convincing people I was gay - which was so annoying! — Portia De Rossi

I saw Ellen and my knees were weak. It was amazing. And it was very hard for me to get her out of my mind after that. Then when I saw her that night, we started talking, and that's that. — Portia De Rossi

Shame weighs a lot more than flesh and bone. — Portia De Rossi

I knew I wasn't attractive, and I was very happy about that. I didn't want to be attractive. I didn't want to attract. As long as no one wanted to be let in, I didn't have to shut anyone out. — Portia De Rossi

Being sick allows you to check out of life. Getting well again means you have to check back in. It is absolutely crucial that you feel ready to check back into life because you feel as though something has changed from the time before you were sick. Whatever it was that made you feel insecure, less than, or pressured to live in a way that was uncomfortable to you has to change before you want to go back there and start over. — Portia De Rossi