Paul Pearsall Quotes & Sayings

Lasting love is more a matter of learning to look outward at the world together than looking longingly eye-to-eye. Love Conditionally. Healthy, lasting love is conditional, not unconditional. No one, including you, is love-worthy if she or he does not behave lovingly. Love is something you earn, not something you deserve. Worry more about being love-worthy than about your own self-worth. — Paul Pearsall

Most of the problems we think we have stem from too much self-focus rather than too little. — Paul Pearsall

I began to fear that constant hoping might cause me to sacrifice today for the illusion of a better tomorrow. - The Last Self-Help Book You'll Ever Need — Paul Pearsall

Work addiction seems to be an addiction we are proud of. We almost seem to brag with mock displeasure that we are "overwhelmed" with busyness, sometimes as an excuse for not really being able to do what we really want to be doing. Work addiction is a symptom not of working your brains out but of your brain working you out. Why are you doing what you're doing for a career and how do you like doing it? Do you like your answer? — Paul Pearsall

True joy results when we become aware of our connectedness to everything. — Paul Pearsall

Have less; do less; say no. — Paul Pearsall

Research indicates that the longest-living people in the world were distinguishable by their pessimistic outlooks. — Paul Pearsall

The credo of Asclepian or brain-oriented healing is 'don't just sit there, do something.' [ ... ] The credo of Hygeian or heart-oriented healing is 'don't just do something, sit there. — Paul Pearsall

The word 'silly' derives from the Greek 'selig' meaning 'blessed.' There is something sacred in being able to be silly. — Paul Pearsall

What really drives us to seek help is an equally frightening sensation: that of being alive, yet not really living. — Paul Pearsall

Sharing laughter is a way of casting delight to the wind so it blows everywhere and to everyone. — Paul Pearsall

Don't Read Weight-Loss Books: Eat Them. They're a better source of fiber than information on permanent weight loss. If you eat them, they'll stay with you longer and be generally better for your bowels than the plans they offer. Ditch Your Diet. Research shows that no diet works for long, and constantly trying and failing at dieting is depressing, unhealthy, and ends up making you even fatter. Use the SWELMM system of Stop Worrying, Eat Less, Move More. — Paul Pearsall

The mind-closing danger of biased beliefs occurs when we don't know we hold them. Sometimes we have to swallow our pride and engage in clear-eyed analysis. — Paul Pearsall

And whenever he's busy trying to be all he can be, he forgets about trying to be all we can be. — Paul Pearsall

Addiction is not a fact of life but a description about how we are choosing to live. — Paul Pearsall

The objective of two lovers is almost always the same; to find meaning in their individual lives and in their life together. — Paul Pearsall

Shut up and listen. Research shows that people who interrupt are three times more likely to die of a heart attack than those who don't and that marital relationships usually fail because of too much communication, not too little. Couples who spend a lot of time being quiet together stay together. — Paul Pearsall

You can resent your bald spot or be glad you have a head. — Paul Pearsall

The five principles of aloha, when practiced together, awaken our awareness of our human potential and the sacredness of our life. — Paul Pearsall

All the pop psychologists are misleading people about things like guilt and conscience. Guilt is a noble emotion; the person without it is a monster.16 — Paul Pearsall

It is the mark of an educated man to be able to evaluate a thought without accepting it. ARISTOTLE — Paul Pearsall

Don't Expect What Goes Around to Come Around. Total jerks and evil people often get all the good breaks. Being nice guarantees nothing. Good things happen to bad people. Sometimes, things just don't "balance out" or "work out for the best. — Paul Pearsall

Marriage, families, all relationships are more a process of learning the dance rather than finding the right dancer — Paul Pearsall

Stop looking for love and start showing it. — Paul Pearsall

We come to feel as we behave. — Paul Pearsall

Our most basic instinct is not for survival but for family. Most of us would give our own life for the survival of a family member, yet we lead our daily life too often as if we take our family for granted. — Paul Pearsall