Kevin Leman Quotes & Sayings

Your child needs not only your attention but also a relationship with you. — Kevin Leman

If you give your people halfhearted leadership, you'll get a halfhearted following. But if you invest yourself in them, if you have a heart for them, your people will return your investment with a heartfelt following. — Kevin Leman

Love is a cognitive, willful act. Feelings have very little to do with it, particularly around three o'clock in the morning when the baby needs changing or somebody has "lost it" before getting to the bathroom to throw up. — Kevin Leman

Think about and meditate on things you are thankful for. More importantly, think about people you are thankful for and why. — Kevin Leman

A fulfilling sex life is one of the most powerful marital glues a couple can have. — Kevin Leman

Life is a pressure cooker and whether you remain serene or become stressed-out depends on how you handle that pressure. — Kevin Leman

Sex is all that it can and should be only when it is surrounded by and wrapped in love. — Kevin Leman

Within the heart of every boy is an adventurer. — Kevin Leman

Nobody's sex life is such that every experience is a ten. You may have to be satisfied with regular eights or sixes and even an occasional three. — Kevin Leman

Why does a dad matter so much to a daughter, in particular? A dad is the one who teaches a daughter what a male is all about. It's the first man in her life
the first man she loves, the first male she tries to please, the first man who says no to her, the first man to discipline her. In effect, he sets her up for success or failure with the opposite sex. Not only that, but she takes cues from how Dad treats Mom as she grows up about what to expect as a woman who is in a relationship with a man. So Dad sets up his daughter's marriage relationship too. — Kevin Leman

That's the way it is with firstborns. Mom and Dad may think they're in charge, but the firstborn knows better, and so does the youngest sibling. — Kevin Leman

Your home needs to be a place where your kids can fail - and learn from their failure. Surround them with love, show them how important they are to you, but don't try to undo their failures. It's not our job as parents to get our kids off the hook. — Kevin Leman

Everything is more effective when it's done in love rather than anger. Love really is a decision. — Kevin Leman

Moms are, in my opinion, the wonders of the universe. They can leap tall buildings in a single bound, they can go where no person has gone before, and they can somehow get toddlers to eat. The problem is that mothers are also some of the most stressed people on the planet. There's just so much to do and not enough of them. — Kevin Leman

Men's brains may be bigger, but women's contain more brain cells. Also, male and female brains work differently. When men and women perform identical tasks, different areas of their brains light up in response. In addition, females use both hemispheres, while male brain activity is restricted to one side. (21) — Kevin Leman

The problem with guilt is that it cements you to the past. — Kevin Leman

Men tend to focus on the present and the future, and they like to present possibilities wether they're realistic or not. They are often fast moving and risk takers. Contrast that with women, who tend to focus on the present and the past due to their relational abilities, and since they use both sides of their brain, they tend to think more realistically and in detail about tasks that need to be done. As a result, they are usually more cautious and less risk taking. Put the two together and it's easy to see why you and your son will sometimes disagree or even clash. (22) — Kevin Leman

How you handle peer pressure - the pressure your children feel as well as the pressure you feel - in the early years will play a significant role in how your children handle peer pressure when they become adolescents. — Kevin Leman

Every child lives up to the expectation you have for him. — Kevin Leman

How parents interact with each child as he or she enters the family circle determines in great part that child's final destiny. — Kevin Leman

The only way we can ever teach a child to say "I'm sorry" is for him to hear it from our lips first. — Kevin Leman

I believe the time we really look big in a child's eyes is when we go to them and apologize for our mistakes and we say, 'I was wrong. Will you forgive me?' — Kevin Leman

Because no one is perfect, we all desperately need forgiveness. By forgiving others you allow them to be human, and in doing so it makes you more aware of how human you really are. Think of all the people you've judged because of their behavior. Isn't it true that some of them behave in very similar ways to you? There isn't a person on the face of this earth who doesn't need grace. — Kevin Leman

The older your teenagers are, the more they will have their own ideas and opinions. If you take them seriously, rather than assuming your ideas are always best and the only ones, you will begin to grow a relationship that will extend beyond the hormone-group years. — Kevin Leman

Good sex is an all-day affair. You can't treat your wife like a servant and expect her to be eager to sleep with you at night. Your wife's sexual responsiveness will be determined by how willingly you help out with the dishes, the kids' homework, or that leaky faucet that drips throughout the night. — Kevin Leman

Most arguments with teenagers are setups. Your darling, simply stated, is manipulating you. — Kevin Leman

A sexually fulfilled husband will do anything for you. — Kevin Leman

If you want to improve your sex life as a couple, you need to examine your relationship outside the bedroom. What are you doing that is keeping you from sexual intimacy? — Kevin Leman

Big businesses are beginning to realize that the employee who puts his job before his home life is not as effective as the one who has a happy, fulfilling marriage. — Kevin Leman

I didn't have to be a slave to the worst tendencies of my personality. — Kevin Leman

Women are not for using. Women are for loving. — Kevin Leman

I believe that love takes time. I believe there is such a thing as infatuation at first sight, but not love at first sight. — Kevin Leman

Reality discipline steers a course between an authoritarian style and a permissive style, giving kids some choices but also holding them accountable. — Kevin Leman

Remember, you cannot be responsible for the happiness of other people. You can do your best to be sensitive to the needs and desires of others, but some people will not be happy no matter how much you do for them. If you decided you were responsible for their happiness, you could drive yourself completely up the nearest wall. — Kevin Leman