Kate Northrup Quotes & Sayings

I journaled: "Why do I feel like crap after being offered a book deal by one of the best publishers on the planet?" The answer that I came up with surprised me. I knew there were people who would have done anything to get their work out into the world this way. i knew there were people who had worked their butts off and still hadn't made it. I knew there were people who had amazing, life-changing things to say who didn't have the platforms to say it yet. I knew there were people who would have been doing cartwheels in the street if they were me right now. And I felt like because they wanted it more, they should have it instead of me. — Kate Northrup

When we sacrifice our own well-being in the hopes that our sacrifice will help someone else, we just get two people who are living sub-optimal lives. Here's the truth: Getting sick does not help those who are suffering of illness. Being sad does nothing to pull someone out of their own depression. And being hungry doesn't feed the starving. The universe simply doesn't work that way. — Kate Northrup

[T]he entire conversation was about how much money we needed to put away in order to have a certain income when we retired. The conversation boiled down to this (from my point of view): "Right now, restrict every pleasurable aspect of your life that costs money. Scrimp and save. For the next 30 years. Then--and only then--will you be able to live well once you retire." What I heard was this: Put your life on hold now. Live later. — Kate Northrup

Before you start feeling bad about yourself for your debt, this would be a good moment to remind yourself that money doesn't exist--it's just a system of value exchange. That's it. Pure and simple. So, if you have debt, you've received value and you've not given the equivalent value back to the particular party in the exchange yet. That's all it means. It doesn't mean you're a bad person. It doesn't mean you're a screwup. You're not hopeless. You're not a mess. You simply have more value to give. — Kate Northrup

Dedicating time to care for yourself shows you that you are worth caring for. You are worth working for. You are worth loving, and when you realize this, you are able to give more value, which in turn brings more value into your life. So, — Kate Northrup

If you really wanted it you would figure out a way to get it. If it were that VALUABLE to you, you would make it happen. So it's not that you can't afford it. It's just that you don't value it enough to do what it would take to get it. — Kate Northrup

our power in any moment lies in our ability to get into agreement with what's happening - to fall in love with your story. The more we push up against something, the more we find it wrong, and the more we wish it were different, the more powerless we are to create the reality that we desire. Conversely, — Kate Northrup

When you're tired and have put no focus on yourself, the value you give isn't that valuable. And that means that value doesn't come back to you. — Kate Northrup

Somewhere along the way we've gotten the message that the more we struggle and the more we suffer, the more valuable we will become and the more successful we'll eventually be. And so we overwork ourselves, overschedule ourselves, and become "busier than thou" because we think there's some sort of prize on the other side of the pain we cause ourselves. And you know what? There's no prize. All you get from suffering is more suffering. — Kate Northrup

Any relationship worth having is worth deepening by taking regular, loving actions. — Kate Northrup