Emily Giffin Quotes & Sayings

Even if we no longer have much in common, we would have always had the past, which, in some ways, is just as important as the present or future. It is where we come from, what makes us who we are. — Emily Giffin

But I have learned that you can't just create your own timetable and will it to come true. — Emily Giffin

I miss us, too. I always have, and probably always will — Emily Giffin

He who fails to plan, plans to fail. — Emily Giffin

So much of how we see the world is a matter of interpretation. A matter of wishing and wanting and hoping rather than really deep-down believing. — Emily Giffin

There is no better audience for someone in love than someone in love. — Emily Giffin

dangerous chemistry — Emily Giffin

It's amazing to me how few guys know their friends' birthdays. — Emily Giffin

I cheated with Rachel, but I'll never cheat on Rachel. — Emily Giffin

What every girl dreams of when she's dumped is - that the guy will someday feel regrest and come back and tell her all about it. And the beauty of it is you have no regrets whatsoever. — Emily Giffin

Things are what they are and there's no point dwelling in the past or wondering what could have been. — Emily Giffin

It's heartbreaking when you love a book that fails. And it always
seems to happen to the nicest authors. — Emily Giffin

I don't break up, I trade up — Emily Giffin

I close my eyes, wondering whether we are ever truly blindsided by misfortune. Or, somehow, somewhere, in the form of empathy or worry or a premonition deep within ourselves, do we feel it coming? — Emily Giffin

Because Marian was the love of my life. For a long time. And that's the kind of information you share when you're young and stupid and hoping that you're in something that is going to be even bigger and better than what you once lost. It's the kind of shit you waste your time thinking about. Lemme tell you
it does no good. — Emily Giffin

Really-nothing is unforgivable if you truly love someone. — Emily Giffin

I'll remind you of that someday , Maura says. when you're married to a man who once looked into your eyes and promised to forsake all others. I'll remind of that after you've just had his baby and you have postpartum depression and feel as fat as cow and you are pumping milk into a plastic containers in the middle of the night while he's running around with some twenty-two-years old named Lissette. I'll remind you of that.
Maura to Jess. — Emily Giffin

Why is a Christmas tree better than a man? Because it stays up, has cute balls, and looks good with the lights on! — Emily Giffin

I nod, thinking the whole concept of the path not taken is partly what has always troubled me. — Emily Giffin

I do not expect to get what I want, so I don't. And I don't even try. — Emily Giffin

A bit of a dirty fighter, quick with cutting words that he later regrets and doesn't really mean. Then again, I wonder if there isn't always a grain of truth in them, somewhere — Emily Giffin

I don't know. She was a sweet girl. As sweet as they come. I don't know why I didn't love her. It's something you can't really control. — Emily Giffin

He was uncomplicated and upbeat and easy. At one point, I might have thought these traits made him a simpleton, but now I think they just translate to happiness. — Emily Giffin

The surprise element of her betrayal was what burned me the most. The fact that I never saw it coming. — Emily Giffin

Even if he is my best friend in theory, I sometimes feel as if I share more of my life with Cate and April and even Rachel - at least when it comes to the everyday matters that comprise my life - from the alive of cheesecake I regret eating to the killer sunglasses I found on sale to the adorable thing Ruby said or Frank did. Eventually, I get around to telling Nick this stuff, too, if it's still relevant or pressing when were finally together at the end of the day. But more often, I mentally pare down the important issues and spare him the trivial ones - or at least the ones I think he would deem trivial. — Emily Giffin

You see yourself as very average, ordinary. And there is nothing ordinary about you, Rachel.
(Something Borrowed) — Emily Giffin

We are one of those couples i used to watch, thinking to myself that I'd never be on the inside of something so special. I remember reassuring myself that it probably looked nicer than it actually was, I am happy to be wrong about that. — Emily Giffin

Love is seldom - almost never - an even proposition. Someone always
loves more. — Emily Giffin

Every couple has two stories - the edited one to be shared from the couch and the unabridged version best left alone. — Emily Giffin

She says that everyone creates a version of her life that she wishes were true and tries to believe. — Emily Giffin

And without Dex in my life, I like to think I could have somehow found contentment. But the truth is, I feel freer with Dex than I ever did when I was single. I feel more myself with him than without. Maybe true love does that — Emily Giffin

The mind-blowing, ridiculous sex which was the stuff of both poetry and porn - so unlike anything else I had ever experienced before. — Emily Giffin

Yet here we are, two children and a broken promise later, standing before each other, just the way we stood that day at the alter, with equal parts love and hope. And once again, I close my eyes, ready to take a leap of faith, ready for the long, hard road ahead. I have no idea how it's going to turn out, but then again, I never really did. — Emily Giffin

But i am content to live in the moment, and allow myself the daily pleasure of obsessing. nothing lasts forever, i tell myself. especially the good stuff. although typically you aren't faced with a hard deadline — Emily Giffin

I think of how life takes unexpected twists and turns, sometimes through sheer happenstance, sometimes through calculated decisions. In the end, it can all be called fate, but to me, it is more a matter of faith. — Emily Giffin

You can love someone you mistrust. — Emily Giffin

Everyone has a messed-up family to one extent or another but we all have an obligation to rise above it. Live in the present and stop sniveling about the past. — Emily Giffin

Never had a good gut feeling. It wasn't so much that I didn't have faith in my team, but that I maintained the truest fans always reverted to a doomsday position — Emily Giffin

One way isn't better than the other; they're just different. — Emily Giffin

I close my eyes, inhale, and feel a rush of heat and energy that takes my breath away. It is the feeling of wanting something so much that it borders on an actual need, and the power and urgency of this need overwhelms me. — Emily Giffin

As I've said many times, the only way to stay trim is to eat bacon. — Emily Giffin

ONE MORE CHNCE. Words that my mother heard, more than once. Words that women debate. Whether you CAN forgive and whether you SHOULD trust. I think of all the judgment from society, friends, and family, the overwhelming consensus seeming to be that you should not grant someone who betrayed you a second chance. That you should do everything you can to keep the knife out of your back, and to protect your heart and pride. Cowards give second chances. Fools give second chances. And I am no coward, no fool. — Emily Giffin

In the end, you can slap a pretty label on it - like serendipity or fate. Or you can believe that it's just the random way life unfolds. — Emily Giffin

You'd do anything to get a soul mate back, right? ... I mean, that's the nature of soul mates. — Emily Giffin

I try to write about real women, real people - in other words flawed characters. — Emily Giffin

And although one broken heart doesn't make me an expert in the subject, I believe you need both things - time and an emotional replacement - to fully mend one. — Emily Giffin

I'm going to keep seeing him as much as I can. We'll see what happens," I say, realizing that just "seeing what happens" is my version of "going for it. — Emily Giffin

Evident in every small act of kindness, it was love as a verb. Love that made me feel more complete than I had ever felt in my glamorous, Jimmy Choo filled past. — Emily Giffin

It was the same night I gave myself to him completely, knowing that I would belong to him for as long as he wanted to keep me. And, as it turned out, even longer than that. — Emily Giffin

That's unfortunate, I say, choosing my words carefully and realizing that this might be the hallmark of a genuine friendship: how freely you speak. — Emily Giffin

I like to match what I wear to my book jacket - it's a little bit cheesy, but it's my thing. — Emily Giffin

Like the perfect beach vacation, where the routine is so blissfully uneventful that when you return home and friends ask how your trip was, you can't really recall what exactly you did to fill up so many hours. That's what being with Dex is like. — Emily Giffin

You can run but you can't hide — Emily Giffin

It's always a good feeling when you can produce just the right one-liner to prove your point so tidily. — Emily Giffin

It's a funny thing - when I'm crazed with work, spending time with my children relaxes me. Yet, at the end of a long weekend with them, the very thing I need to relax is a little work and time away from them! — Emily Giffin

Guys aren't so different from us, I think, which no matter how many times I think it will always seem like a remarkable revelation. — Emily Giffin

Throw in the intensity of emotions that come with that bittersweet summer sandwiched between high school graduation and the rest of your life ... — Emily Giffin

But certainly not everyday you can find someone who wants to have a monogamous relationship — Emily Giffin

I think of Josie's theory that it's all interrelated, that it all goes back to that night in December, all of our decisions and dreams and mistakes from the past inextricably linked. — Emily Giffin

Although too much time has gone by to miss her, I feel regret that I didn't maintain our friendship. Even if we no longer have much in common, we would have always had the past, which, in some ways, is just as important as the present or future. — Emily Giffin

Right - secrets and lies are really the same thing, — Emily Giffin

Someday being with Dex will be a distant memory. This fact makes me sad too. Its the initial stages of grief that seem to be worst but in some ways, Its sadder as time goes by and you consider how much they're missed in your life. — Emily Giffin

He threw in the towel before we were tested. Maybe because he didn't want to be tested. Maybe because he assumed we would fail. Maybe because, at the time, he just didn't love me enough. — Emily Giffin

The person who wants out of the relationship always gets her way. — Emily Giffin

She wonders what fool ever said that it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all - she has never disagreed with something so much. — Emily Giffin

His words are like the sound of a needle dragging across a record. A sinking, sickening feeling washes over me. This is why you should never, ever get your hopes up. This is why you should see the glass as half empty. So, when the whole things spills, you aren't as devastated. — Emily Giffin

Looking back, I question whether I really loved Nate, or just the security of our relationship. I wonder if my feelings for him didn't have a lot to do with hating my job. From the bar exam through that first hellish year as an associate, Nate was my escape. And sometimes that can feel an awful lot like love. — Emily Giffin

I think of how each person in a marriage owes it to the other to find individual happiness, even in a shared life. That this is the only way to grow together, instead of apart. — Emily Giffin

I wondered why I was so startled by the encounter when there was something that seemed utterly inevitable about the moment. Not in any grand, destined sense; just in the quiet, stubborn way that unfinished business has of imposing its will on the unwilling. — Emily Giffin

Life was good then, I though, as I started to cry. Not so much because I missed the good times, although I did. It was more that I knew I was turning into one of those girls who, upon looking at high school photos, feels wistful. — Emily Giffin

There are two kinds of sorry. There is the sorry imbued with regret. And a pure sorry. The kind that is merely asking for forgiveness, nothing more. — Emily Giffin

Did you always know you wanted to practice law?" She considers this - considers the truth - that she had no real passion for the law, but simply wanted to achieve for the sake of achievement ... But of course, she did not divulge any of this, and instead says, "No, not really. — Emily Giffin

Maybe that's what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all. — Emily Giffin

You know in your heart when you're doing the right thing and when you're not. And you just have to do everything you can to stay the course. — Emily Giffin

You'll be dancing once again and the pain will end, You'll have no time for grievin'. — Emily Giffin

I'm glad you were both here, I finally manage, thinking how strange it is to be standing with the two people who made you, something most kids take for granted every day of their lives. — Emily Giffin

After all, I think, isn't it always about a boy? — Emily Giffin

Grab his penis like this, and I guarantee, it's a done deal. — Emily Giffin

Reckless abandon and know that there will be someone — Emily Giffin

It is not what I had planned - this day, this moment, these unlikely relationships, both old and new. Yet I feel overcome with peace and certainty that, for once, I am exactly where I should be. — Emily Giffin

Did she ever regret her choices? Were her decisions more clear-cut than mine - or are there always shades of gray whe it comes to matters of the heart? — Emily Giffin

It was about grace, she decides, something that has been missing from her own life ... She wants to be the kind of person who can bestow unearned kindness on another, replace bitterness with empathy, forgive only for the sake of forgiving. — Emily Giffin

So I guess what I am trying to say is life is fast. And it keeps speeding up. Sometimes I lose track of the season
or even the year. And we just have to make the best of it all. Our choices. Our fleeting moments together. — Emily Giffin

It's the worst thing to fall in love with someone who will never stop disappointing you ... — Emily Giffin

Sure, we were friends who exchanged soulful glances, friends who slept in a bed filled with sexual tension, friends who found any excuse to touch, but I worried that we'd never take that perilous leap of faith toward becoming a real couple, a permanent team. — Emily Giffin

When you wanted to savor something, it would speed by in a blur. When you wanted to get past something, it would drag on forever. Elaine — Emily Giffin

This time, I whispered that I loved him too. Then, I silently listed all the reason: I loved him for his gentleness. I loved him for being an amazing catch yet still vulnerable enough to be insecure. But most of all, I loved him for loving me. — Emily Giffin

Nothing about my life is lucky - it's all about hard work, it is all an uphill struggle. — Emily Giffin

The world is not that black and white, Rachel. There are no moral absolutes. It is complex. — Emily Giffin

The whole "misery loves company"
thing never applies more than when you're breaking up. The thought that the
other person is doing fine is simply too much to bear. — Emily Giffin

Get a load of this one ... I heard that she actually thought paparazzi was the last name of one particular Italian photographer. Apparently she said something like, 'Who is this Paparazzi guy and why didn't they arrest him years ago after he killed Princess Diana? — Emily Giffin

As of that moment, we had a secret, and having a secret - even a little one - creates a bond between two people. — Emily Giffin

His loyalty, so fierce and unwavering, makes my eyes water and heart ache. — Emily Giffin

Would they retreat or move forward? Could they do this thing they were on the verge of doing? Did they have it in them to make a wrong decision just because it felt right? — Emily Giffin

I want to make it official, i want to make it forever — Emily Giffin

Did I ever stop loving him the way you're supposed to stop loving everyone but the one you're with? — Emily Giffin

People generally didn't cheat in good relationships. — Emily Giffin

let those surface issues go, to value content over form. — Emily Giffin

(mother) She used to tell me to get my nose out of my book and go get some fresh air. — Emily Giffin

I remember that my mother had once told me that the opposit of love isn't hate, it's indifference. — Emily Giffin