Bert Hellinger Quotes & Sayings

The specific weight of the soul is equal to the sum of what has been dared. — Bert Hellinger

When I lived in South Africa, someone told me what the longest road in Africa is. It's not the road from Cairo to Capetown, it's the way from your head to your heart, and from there to the here and now. — Bert Hellinger

When the family has been brought into its natural order, the individual can leave it behind him while still feeling the strength of his family supporting him. Only when the connection to his family is acknowledged, and the person's responsibility seen clearly and then distributed, can the individual feel unburdened and go about his personal affairs without anything from the past weighing him down or holding him back. — Bert Hellinger

The Greater Soul moves in only one direction, and that is to bring into union that which has been made separate. — Bert Hellinger

But feel what happens in the soul when you imagine children saying to their parents, "What you gave me, first of all, wasn't the right thing, and secondly, it wasn't enough. You still owe me." What do children have from their parents when they feel that way? Nothing. And what do the parents have from their children? Also nothing. Such children cannot separate from their parents. Their accusations and demands tie them to their parents so that, although they are bound to their parents, the children have no parents. They then feel empty, needy and weak.

This is the second Order of Love, that children take what their parents give in addition to life as it comes. — Bert Hellinger

In the beginning, I want to say something about human greatness. Some time ago, I was reading texts of Kungtse. When I read these texts, I understood something about human greatness. What I understood from his writings was: What is greatest in human beings is what makes them equal to everybody else. Everything else that deviates higher or lower from what is common to all human beings makes us less. If we know this, we can develop a deep respect for every human being. — Bert Hellinger

A person's greatness is that which makes him/her equal to others — Bert Hellinger

Some think they are seeking their own soul's truth but the
greater Soul is thinking and seeking through them — Bert Hellinger

The criterion for what is good is based on whether it relieves someone, brings joy, or soothes a distress. — Bert Hellinger