Anneli Rufus Quotes & Sayings
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Famous Quotes By Anneli Rufus
Is socializing all that great? Riots are socializing. Arguably, more damage is done and time wasted in company with others than alone. — Anneli Rufus
NONLONERS BORROW A term from Jung and call us introverts. They think it makes them sound intelligent to say so. — Anneli Rufus
Socializing is as exhausting as giving blood. People assume we loners are misanthropes, just sitting thinking, 'Oh, people are such a bunch of assholes,' but it's really not like that. We just have a smaller tolerance for what it takes to be with others. It means having to perform. I get so tired of communicating. — Anneli Rufus
What did they call you that you weren't? What did they never say about you that you were? — Anneli Rufus
They say isolation drives you crazy. Sure it does-when you can't get enough of it. — Anneli Rufus
Writing is done alone. People do not talk about the things they do alone. — Anneli Rufus
We do not require company. In varying degrees, it bores us, drains us, makes our eyes glaze over. Overcomes us like a steamroller. Of course, the rest of the world doesn't understand. — Anneli Rufus
Written works do not produce fast reactions as pictures and sculptures and music do. it takes no effort to see or hear. but to read - to grasp what the writer has done - requires commitment. engagement. as is the case with most art, the relationship between the maker and the audience is remote in time and space. the writer is nowhere to be seen when the reader takes up the book, or even dead. but most often, books go unread ... thus the writer, knowing this as writers do, is even more alone ... yet writers write. and knowing what they know makes their isolation almost a sacrament. — Anneli Rufus
Not that I was incapable of friendship. 'Don't be shy', the teachers coaxed. I was not shy, only extremely choosy. And Denise shone like a diamond. If you had to ask me to define paradise, I would have said a desert island which Denise could visit, on a boat. — Anneli Rufus
I don't hate my relatives or those whose names fill my address book. But I do not want to have lunch with any of them. It is not personal. I am not angry. Nor is this about being afraid. I am not shy. I do not have terrible manners.
Do birds hate lips? Do Fijians detest snowplows? Being a loner is not about hate, but need: We need what others dread. We dread what others need. — Anneli Rufus
Loners live among the mob, so the mob mistakes us for its own, presuming and assuming. When the mob gets too close, the truth is revealed. Running or walking away, chased or free, any which way, we tell the mob in effect I don't need you. — Anneli Rufus
We can change our brains, but it takes time and diligence, because the human brain has a built-in "negativity bias" whereby it stores and learns from negative experiences far more readily and lastingly than it stores and learns from positive ones. This is a natural survival strategy by which the body records danger signs for future reference. It is far more useful for an evolving creature to remember Hungry lions bite than to remember Flowers are pretty. Thus we are neurologically wired to remember more vividly and lastingly a bad experience - say, a public scolding - than to remember a good experience - say, hitting a home run - that occurred on the same day, even if both experiences carried exactly the same emotional intensity for us at the time. — Anneli Rufus
America trembles in fear of loners, yet Charles Manson is a social butterfly. — Anneli Rufus
We care. We feel. We think. We do not always miss the absent one. We cannot always come when called. Being friends with a loner requires patience and the wisdom that distance does not mean dislike. — Anneli Rufus
The whole world is a personality cult. — Anneli Rufus
The loner who looks fabulous is one of the most vulnerable loners of all. — Anneli Rufus
People say the desert is desolate. Yet for me it's very much alive, full of surprises. As soon as I see those wide-open spaces, I can breathe, — Anneli Rufus
And yet what has been learned can be unlearned. — Anneli Rufus
And as experienced as I am, it still summons an act of bravery from me, and I like that. I like the idea of setting an example - proving that it is acceptable to be alone in a public place where everyone else is in groups, and to just be sitting there eating, not having to be engrossed in anything else. — Anneli Rufus
We believe that whatever feels at first like joy is not. Or is, but will not last. Or should not last. We feel so sure of this that we will undermine our own inklings of joy, blunting the pain we think awaits. — Anneli Rufus
After what others would call a fun day out together, we feel as if we have been at the Red Cross, donating blood. — Anneli Rufus
To this day, I have a very unhealthy relationship with food. I have an eating disorder; not in that I am anorexic or bulimic - I'm not - but in the sense that I feel extremely guilty every time I eat anything that isn't water. Of course I have body issues. — Anneli Rufus