Ada Calhoun Quotes & Sayings

Wherever you go, there you are. You would just have different problems. Are the problems you have now so bad that any other problems would be better? — Ada Calhoun

The word "slut" has been invoked in the public discourse as an ugly slur. But Langella's book celebrates sluttiness as a worthy -- even noble -- way of life... When Bette Davis wants to have "racy phone conversations...rife with foreplay," he agrees because how could you not? When Elizabeth Taylor says, "Come on up, baby, and put me to sleep," who is he to resist? (He does make her chase him first.) By his cheerful debauchery, Langella reveals something certain ommmentators have obscured: sluts are the best---hungry for experience and generous wih themselves in its pursuit. — Ada Calhoun

As married people, we dwell on a spectrum between happy and unhappy, in love and out of love, and we move back and forth on that line decade by decade, year by year, week by week, even hour by hour. — Ada Calhoun

So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a secret to losing weight is to eat less. Be nice. Don't leave. That's all. — Ada Calhoun

By staying married, we give something to ourselves and to others: hope. Hope that in steadfastly loving someone, we ourselves, for all our faults, will be loved; that the broken world will be made whole. To hitch your rickety wagon to the flickering star of another fallible human being -- what an insane thing to do. What a burden, and what a gift. — Ada Calhoun

All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm. — Ada Calhoun

...even good marriages sometimes involve flinging a remote control at the wall. — Ada Calhoun

Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married. — Ada Calhoun

...there is so much beauty in the trying, and in the failing, and in the trying again. — Ada Calhoun

Forsaking all others means going deep with one person -- exhaustingly deep. — Ada Calhoun

The romantic fairy tales we grew up with -- where marriage is the happy ending rather than the opening scene -- are not useful for grown-ups. — Ada Calhoun

...that's part of what marriage means: sometimes hating this other person but staying together because you promised you would. — Ada Calhoun

(Personally, I have avoided many fights by going to bed angry and waking up to realize that I'd just been tired.) — Ada Calhoun

I want to say that at various points in your marriage, may it last forever, you will look at this person and feel only rage. — Ada Calhoun

People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards. — Ada Calhoun

Dating is poetry. Marriage is a novel. There are times, maybe years, that are all exposition. — Ada Calhoun

The boring parts don't last forever. In retrospect, they aren't even boring. — Ada Calhoun