Rosenberg Quotes & Sayings

I never joined the army for patriotic reasons. — Isaac Rosenberg

If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Well, I think one of the problems with 'Birds of Prey' was there were too many cooks in that kitchen. The studio, the producers, the network, all had very different visions of what that should be. They should have just let Laeta Kalogridis control that. Instead they decided to try to get their hands in the mix. — Melissa Rosenberg

In 'Twilight,' you're setting up the world. You're introducing the world, and I was also writing in a vacuum because I didn't know who the actors were going to be. Now you're going to 'New Moon' and 'Eclipse,' and I could write specifically to them in my mind. So it becomes a more comfortable world. — Melissa Rosenberg

If you think you have come to an unhappy ending, it is not the true end. Keep going awhile. — Liz Rosenberg

NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

No degree of dullness can safeguard a work against the determination of critics to find it fascinating. — Harold Rosenberg

Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

I am a vegan because I don't want to support the cruel industry that goes on on farms everyday. — Zoe Rosenberg

they kept moving all night, stopping only occasionally to scoop some water from a stream or listen to see if anyone was following them or near them at all. As dawn came, Jacob was exhausted. But the two men did not stop moving. They were not running now. They were walking, but Avi set a brisk and steady pace. Jacob wanted to stop. He wanted to ask Avi if they could rest, even for a little while. But he had been told not to say a word, and Jacob knew their very lives depended on his obeying. At least the pain in his feet and in his belly from lack of food and the fatigue permeating every fiber of his being kept his mind off the fact that he would never see his parents or his sister again. — Joel C. Rosenberg

People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

American time has stretched around the world. It has become the dominant tempo of modern history, especially of the history of Europe. — Harold Rosenberg

Jessica Jones is its own animal, I think each one of these series is its own animal. There is some connective tissue, in terms of referencing the Marvel Universe, but it glances off of the other stories. — Melissa Rosenberg

Lord Jesus, I need you. Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. Thank you for rising from the dead. I believe you are the Way, the Truth, and the Life. I believe you are the only way to heaven, the only way to the Father. And right now, as an act of the will, by faith, I open the door of my life and receive you as my Savior and Lord. Thank you for forgiving my sins. Thank you for giving me eternal life. Have mercy on me, Lord. Show me your will. Teach me your Word. Guide me by your Holy Spirit. Take the throne of my life, Lord Jesus, and make me the kind of person you want me to be. In your holy and precious Name I pray, amen. — Joel C. Rosenberg

They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Alongside the mythos of the eternal free soul stands the Myth, the religion of the blood. — Alfred Rosenberg

Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Empathy lies in our ability to be present without opinion. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

I wouldn't expect someone who's been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If you see the action as their need being expressed, then the message is within them, not you. Any interpretation you put onto another person's message (such as passive-aggressive, withholding, etc.), you will pay for because of how you took it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Not only were the minds of artists formed by the university; in the same mold were formed those of the art historians, the critics, the curators, and the collectors by whom their work was evaluated. With the rise of Conceptual art, the classroom announced its final triumph over the studio. — Harold Rosenberg

Dr. Rosenberg has brought the simplicity of successful communication into the foreground. No matter what issue you're facing, his strategies for communicating with others will set you up to win every time. — Tony Robbins

Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness is the perfect companion to Mindfulness in Plain English. Written with the thoroughness and the masterful simplicity so characteristic of his teaching, Bhante Gunaratana presents essential guidelines for turning the Buddha's teachings on the Eightfold Path into living wisdom. — Larry Rosenberg

Well, the medium of film is so different than a book that just by bringing it into visual storytelling is to change it up. I think in a book, in any book, you can have a reactive character. Some of the great novels of all time have had that, but in a film you can't do that. — Melissa Rosenberg

Jacob remembered it distinctly because it was his twenty-second birthday, and he was annoyed at being awakened by his uncle at 1:17 in the morning. But Avi had no time to be sentimental. He ordered Jacob to hightail it with him through a bone-chilling winter night to get to some safe house they'd never been to before and make it there by the top of the hour. Jacob had been hoping to sleep in a little and maybe eat a half-decent meal before sitting down to plan the sabotage of a radio tower near Antwerp, an operation scheduled for the coming weekend. But none of that was to be. — Joel C. Rosenberg

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

I despair of ever writing excellent poetry. — Isaac Rosenberg

It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

what need of wealth and riches when he could lead a simple, contented life — Peter Michael Rosenberg

The secret to those who write is that they come to the art simply because they cannot speak. — Liz Rosenberg

Everyone is given one gift, a reason for being, and it's our obligation to do something with it. Obviously, it's a challenge - but if you're not taking the bull by the horns, I have no patience for you. You're just taking up space. — Melissa Rosenberg

NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

People don't make us angry, how we think makes us angry. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

U.S. government infrastructure. I am concerned about the growing number of Americans who have been recruited to Islam. They are usually angry young men with a sense of hopelessness. Even if they are not suicidal, they may very well be genocidal as well as eager to seek revenge for what they see as injustice. — Joel C. Rosenberg

The purpose of education is to keep a culture from being drowned in senseless repetitions, each of which claims to offer a new insight. — Harold Rosenberg

Avant-gardism is an addiction that can be appeased only by a revolution in permanence. — Harold Rosenberg

We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

John 1:12 says, 'As many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name.' And the apostle Paul told us in Ephesians, 'By grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. — Joel C. Rosenberg

Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact one and the same. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

she saw all those who were in the pickup truck with her husband. Their clothes were torn. Their hands and faces were covered in blood and dust. They looked as shell-shocked as they felt. What's more, they were hungry and thirsty and exhausted and grieving their families and friends and the town they had left behind. "I heard, on the wireless," Claire said without missing a beat. "It's all anyone is talking about. Thank God you're okay. Come in. All of you, please come in. We will get you something to eat and give you a place to sleep and a hot bath. Come in; don't be shy. You're with friends here. — Joel C. Rosenberg

The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Empathize, rather than put your "but" in the face of an angry person. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

With empathy we don't direct, we follow. Don't just do something, be there. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Miscellaneous is always the largest category. — Joel Rosenberg

Public education for some time has been heavily focused on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students. Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the relationship between teachers and students, the relationships of students with one another, and the relationships of students to what they are learning are equally important in preparing students for the future. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

With empathy, I'm fully with them, and not full of them - that's sympathy. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Only conservatives believe that subversion is still being carried on in the arts and that society is being shaken by it. Advanced art today is no longer a cause -it contains no moral imperative. There is no virtue in clinging to principles and standards, no vice in selling or in selling out. — Harold Rosenberg

Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Women tend to be categorized as Madonnas or whores. — Melissa Rosenberg

Is there a point at which we hit a tipping point and all of this economic, cultural and moral trouble sends us into a death spiral we can't get out of? — Joel C. Rosenberg

The Lord may very well have removed His blessing from America the moment America stopped blessing us. — Joel C. Rosenberg

Use anger as a wake-up call to unmet needs. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Empathy allows us to re-perceive our world in a new way and move forward. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

With 'Darkly Dreaming Dexter,' we as a group of writers had to take a rather thin novel and spread it out over the course of 12 episodes, and not only 12 episodes, but lay in story for everyone that's going to take you through five years. — Melissa Rosenberg

Evil, unchecked, is the prelude to genocide. - Anonymous — Joel C. Rosenberg

When I was developing the [Daredevil] idea, we were really doing something closer to what was in the comic book. By that, I mean in terms of civilians in the street knew that superpowers were an everyday matter of fact. When it finally ended up at Netflix, they really decided to land it in the Marvel Universe that exists in the cinematic universe. That changes the story entirely. It was no longer about the other, which is what that metaphor was. It's really more about the character herself, which I love. — Melissa Rosenberg

Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

In matters of style, swim with the current. In matters of principle, stand like a rock. - Thomas Jefferson — Merrick Rosenberg

Always remember that we were innocent and could not wrong our conscience. -- Julius and Ethel Rosenberg, in their last letter to their sons, June 19, 1953. — Jillian Cantor

I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Kitsch is art that follows established rules in a time when all rules in art are put into question by each artist. — Harold Rosenberg

Not getting our needs fulfilled is painful - but it's a sweet pain, not suffering, which is what comes from life-alienated thinking and interpretation. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Today, each artist must undertake to invent himself, a lifelong act of creation that constitutes the essential content of the artist's work. — Harold Rosenberg

You will remember this number. you will memorize it. you will answer when it is called. you have no name any longer. just a number. any prisoner who forgets his number or doesn't respond when his number is called will be shot. do you understand? — Joel C. Rosenberg

If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

That's how I operate best. I just ignore feelings and jump right into the next thing. — Melissa Rosenberg

Bill Condon, I must say, may have been one of the best professional experiences of my life, collaborating with him. He, himself, is an Academy Award winning screenwriter. He is a storyteller first and foremost, so we speak the same language. We approach things always from the story. — Melissa Rosenberg

An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves-the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

The displacement of scripted series by reality programming continues to be a severe obstacle to a working actor's ability to earn a living. — Alan Rosenberg

Showrunning is not a one-man job; it's literally impossible to do for one person. I have learned the hard way now from two seasons, one with Red Widow, and this, I can't control everything. I certainly have tried, but having an incredibly strong team around you, surrounding yourself with incredibly talented people, that is the trick, and I certainly had that for the first season here of Jessica Jones. — Melissa Rosenberg

The difficult thing about practice isn't learning to sit for an hour, or sit for a weekend, or go on a three-month retreat, as hard as those things are. The difficult thing is to pay attention to what is happening right here and now. — Larry Rosenberg

When you have a show that's called Jessica Jones, if Jessica Jones isn't in a scene the rest of it become almost irrelevant until you earn other character storylines. You've got to flesh out those characters enough that you can travel. — Melissa Rosenberg

Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

in a more loving manner, and those two things you said provide the direction I was looking for. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Our goal is to create a quality of empathic connection that allows everyone's needs to be met. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

I have never been very good at trying to comfort people who are crying. Maybe I lack the gene for it. Usually, I just sit there and wait for it to stop. — Charles Rosenberg

Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

The film industry sees the writer as fungible: The thinking goes, As long as we have Brad Pitt and all this money, we have a great film! No, you need a writer with voice and an engaging story, or what you have is a bomb. — Melissa Rosenberg

Earth has waited for them, All the time of their growth Fretting for their decay: Now she has them at last. — Isaac Rosenberg

If you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off the board. You're into the future. Empathy requires staying with the energy that's here right now. Not using any technique. Just being present. When I have really connected to this energy, it's like I wasn't there. I call this "watching the magic show". In this presence, a very precious energy works through us that can heal anything, and this relieves me from my "fix-it" tendencies. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

I love that as a theme for women: Stop standing by! You've got to make stuff happen! You've got to create your own world because if you let other people do it, they're going to just screw you. — Melissa Rosenberg

Schools in which students and teachers relate as partners-where Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication is part of every interaction are communities of learning, rather than top-down, impersonal factories. Young people begin to see school as a safe and exciting place of exploration where they can share feelings and ideas, and where each child is recognized, valued and nurtured. — Riane Eisler

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

It is not logical for art to be logical. Art goes against the grain of the times as readily as it goes with it and at the very same moment. Instead of seeking the nearest exit, art responds to a new situation by uncovering a labyrinth of problems. — Harold Rosenberg

Being by the nature of my upbringing, all my energies having been directed to one channel of activity, crippled from other activities and made helpless even to live. — Isaac Rosenberg

An artist is a person who has invented an artist. — Harold Rosenberg

The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves. — Marshall B. Rosenberg

We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out. — Marshall B. Rosenberg