Mackler Quotes & Sayings

Josh is loving and kind, and he knows me better than anyone. He knows the real me, and he likes me for who I am. Josh is ... Josh. And now he's gone. I press my wet face into my pillow. This is what heartbreak feels like. — Carolyn Mackler

Everything you do to other people affects them, and how you treat people affects them. — Carolyn Mackler

When enough insane people scream in harmony that they really are healthy, they can actually start to believe themselves. Or put even more simply: people with overlapping delusions get along wonderfully. — Daniel Mackler

Have compassion for your humanity and your flaws. You're human and you're going to make mistakes. Look at yourself through the eyes of a loving parent ... — Lauren Mackler

I miss CDs. I miss listening to a whole album, even the lame songs that sometimes grow on you. — Carolyn Mackler

On Valentine's Day, the Spirit Club plastered the school with red streamersand pink balloons and red and pink hearts. It looked like Clifford the Big Red Dog ate a flock of flamigoes and then barfed his guts up. — Carolyn Mackler

It's like you wake up one morning, and decided that how you've been in the past doesn't have to define who you are in the future. Simple as that. — Carolyn Mackler

Never underestimate yourself — Carolyn Mackler

You know how I feel about love. It was invented to sell wedding cakes. And vacations to Waikiki. — Carolyn Mackler

Many people's unhappiness is rooted in the habitual role they play. While our family role may have made sense growing up, it often wreaks havoc in our adult lives. — Lauren Mackler

When you're living by default, you're automatically reacting to life in habitual ways, many of which may be limiting you and your life. In contrast, living deliberately means making more conscious and constructive life choices. When you're living deliberately, you're living from a position of responsibility; you're making choices with greater awareness. You're taken yourself off autopilot, so you're better prepared to align your actions with the results you want to achieve. — Lauren Mackler

I think that being bullied is a shameful experience. — Carolyn Mackler

Ted and I had history," Jake said. "We were in love. This hurts all the time. I never stop thinking about how much this hurts."
Zoe stretched out her arms and pretended to play a goddamn violin. — Carolyn Mackler

And also ... well ... i told them I want to get an apartment with him next year rather than live in the dorms."
What'd they say?"
Over their dead bodies."
What did you say?"
I asked whether they wanted to be burie or cremated. — Carolyn Mackler

Guys won't admit it, but we're all obsessed with our biceps. I did three sets of ten reps, thirty-five pounds on each side. I knew I was pushing it, especially since we have practice this afternoon, but what the fuck. That was going to be my motto today. What the fuck. — Carolyn Mackler

Truth is in our blood. It is the essennce of our being. It is the best part of us, the core of what makes us human. It is our soul, our fundamental genetic beauty, and our spirit. We were created perfect, and despite the inevitability that we loose some of that perfection when we mature and develop in the midst of others who are wounded, we always retain the capacity to become perfect once again. The soul may be buried deeply, but as long as our hearts beat there remains hope. — Daniel Mackler

People become discouraged when they listen to their 'inner critic' ... Whatever that voice is saying, articulate a response, drawing from the part of you that feels strong and confident. Be your own cheerleader. — Lauren Mackler

Mastering the art of aloneness doesn't mean living in isolation or never needing the love, support, and involvement of others. It means creating and living a life in which you feel whole and content as an individual on your own; a life in which you can take care of yourself emotionally and financially. — Lauren Mackler

Chronic self-doubt is a symptom of the core belief, 'I'm not good enough.' We adopt these types of limiting beliefs in response to our family and childhood experiences, and they become rooted in the subconscious ... we have the ability to take action to override it ... — Lauren Mackler

Does "doing exactly what I want" mean not thinking about other people's feelings? Because that's just not the kind of person I am.
Maybe it can mean whatever I want it to mean, like taking care of myselfand not letting people walk over me. — Carolyn Mackler

Your strategy is the road map for bringing your goals to fruition ... Ask yourself, 'What are the steps I need to take to achieve this goal?' Be careful not to overwhelm yourself by taking on too much at once. — Lauren Mackler

He had no idea there even was a before until he crashed hard into the after. — Carolyn Mackler

Being busy and being productive are not necessarily the same. Many people keep busy to avoid taking action on things they're afraid to pursue. — Lauren Mackler

Procrastination is a common reaction to feeling overwhelmed or fear of failure. Instead of taking on too much at once and overwhelming yourself, break things down and take one small action step at a time. — Lauren Mackler

I love being reminded that existence itself is all about the tangling of souls. — Carolyn Mackler

The reason books get banned, but movies can do almost anything is because the novel is more powerful than a movie. The reader is part of the creation of the story because they must imagine and envision it. There is creation in the act of reading. — Carolyn Mackler

Josh is ... Josh — Carolyn Mackler

Many people believe that making themselves the key person in their lives is a bad thing. It's simply good common sense. After all, you're the only person who's with you 24/7 until you draw your last breath. — Lauren Mackler

A critical key to achieving success lies in your ability to activate your potential to create the results you seek ... start by being aware of your self-sabotaging patterns. — Lauren Mackler

My own experience being bullied - it made me a more compassionate person. It made me more sympathetic to the adolescent experience. — Carolyn Mackler

The one thing I do remember is that as I retraced my steps through all the familiar streets of my life, Inow felt completely lost. — Carolyn Mackler

Prior to being bullied, I was a very footloose sixth-grader. You know, I was quirky, I was creative - I really felt good in my own body. And when I was bullied in seventh grade, my self-esteem tanked. — Carolyn Mackler

Positive action generates positive thinking, not the other way around. Positive action is a choice, one that can be challenging, especially for people who've experienced much suffering and pain in their lives - but it's still a choice. — Lauren Mackler

I've always protected myself when it comes to love. And maybe that's the problem. By not letting myself get hurt now, it ripples into much bigger pain later. — Carolyn Mackler

Sometimes we make decisions about our life and they feel like the right decision at the time. No, they are the right decision at the time. But that doesn't mean they'll be the right decision forever. — Carolyn Mackler

As we, the world, and the way we live have become more complex, we've moved further away from living in alignment with our human spirit and with the earth. — Lauren Mackler

Aligning what you do with who you are requires commitment, effort, and perseverance. But the rewards are well worth it. Not only will it enhance the quality of your life, it may even prolong it. — Lauren Mackler

While some rules are necessary and good for us, living a life based on others' rules, needs, and expectations can stifle your self-expression and creativity, and keep a lid on your potential. — Lauren Mackler

Remember what to do when you're at the bottom of a hole? You've got to stop digging. — Carolyn Mackler

It freaks me out to stare at myself, especially my eyes, and know all those things I've been thinking inside — Carolyn Mackler

Do work you love, in which you can excel: The smaller the gap between who you are in your personal life and who you are at work, the happier you will be. — Lauren Mackler

Whether it is clear or unclear to you the universe is folding as it should — Carolyn Mackler

The Fat Girl Code of Conduct:
1. Any sexual activity is a secret. No public displays of affection.
2. Don't discuss your weight with him.
3. Go further than skinny girls. If you can't sell him on your body, you'd better overcompensate with sexual perks.
4. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever push the relationship thing. — Carolyn Mackler

While most people had moved on from children's books, Jake still loved them. They felt cozy like hot chocolate with mini marshmallows or a new jumbo box of Crayola crayons. — Carolyn Mackler

Over time, you'll find that the more you trust your intuition and allow it to set your direction, the more you build that trust. Develop a habit of continually checking in with your intuition by asking yourself: Does this feel right to me? — Lauren Mackler

I'm not saying you didn't deserve it, O." Dakota laughed. "But I'm restocking the karma bank and you're at the top of my list. — Carolyn Mackler

When you study the wrongs you have committed before you study the wrongs done to you, you have no choice but to label yourself inherently evil, and be forced to dissociate emotionally to avoid the horrible pain in this lie. — Daniel Mackler

Hiding our true thoughts and feelings is just one example of how we give our power away. — Lauren Mackler

Untraumatized people have a natural instinct to make healthy decisions in the best interest of their true selves. They are only limited by their immaturity and the brokenness of their external world. — Daniel Mackler

But it there's anything I've learned in the past few months, it's that the only thing that's certain in life is that nothing in life is certain. — Carolyn Mackler

It's all a lie. I said to myself. Romance. This notion that some guy is going to swoop and fall madly in love with me and change my life and make everything perfect. It's one big, horrible lie and I bought it. Hook, line, and a ten thousand-pound sinker. Or I guess I should say it's a lie for a girl like me. For Skye, that's another story. The first time Dakota kissed me, down at the hot tub, I remember thinking, this is too good to be true. But if something feels too good to be true, maybe it's not true. Maybe the truth is that Skye deserves him. She'll always be the winner. And I, pathetically, will always be me. — Carolyn Mackler

There isn't a definite right and wrong anyway. Sometimes we do what seems wrong, but we have good reasons for doing it, so it's not wrong after all. — Carolyn Mackler

When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the universe. — Carolyn Mackler

Most fears are not even based on our current reality. They are the product of imagined fears conjured up in our minds - the product of our own fantasies. — Lauren Mackler

If you're living life from a place of fear, you're not free to take risks or pursue your dreams. If your energy is expended in avoiding failure or rejection, then that energy is used to stay safe, instead of being available to create the life you envision. — Lauren Mackler

If you feel overwhelmed, you may be trying to achieve too much at once. Step back and look at your goals. If you're doing too much, it's time to reprioritize. — Lauren Mackler

I need to acknowledge that she may have controlled my past, but she doesn't have to dominate my present and my future, too — Carolyn Mackler

You're more likely to slip up when you're trying to accomplish your goals by yourself. It may be that you don't have an outer support system in place to help you maintain focus and provide the external encouragement everyone needs. — Lauren Mackler

People who are not fully enlightened have no business becoming parents. This contradicts the conventionally accepted notion that people have an inherent "right" to have children. They do not. People who have a compulsion to traumatize a child, even in the mildest forms, are breaking the child's human rights, though of course the parental compulsion to find false pleasure through procreation obliterates their awareness of these rights. But interestingly, many parents would agree that convicted pedophiles and child murderers have no right to procreate, because of the dynamics in which they are so likely to engage. — Daniel Mackler

The best antidote to stress is resilience ... having the ability to respond to change or adversity proactively and resourcefully. — Lauren Mackler

I like the flaws best," Sam said. "They make her real. — Carolyn Mackler

I guess quotes make me feel more connected. — Carolyn Mackler

Life's a car ride ... Sometimes it's cruise control down smooth highways. Other times it's potholes on rural roads. — Carolyn Mackler

If you're eating poorly, neglecting your health, or living a high-stress lifestyle, you're depleting your inner resources. That will make it difficult to maintain the energy you need to participate fully and actively in your life. — Lauren Mackler

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Chronic negative thinking and the emotions it invokes is, like many destructive behaviors, a form of addiction ... it may not be very pleasant, but it's familiar. — Lauren Mackler

The people who ultimately reach their goals are those who don't give up. Instead of wallowing in self-pity or frustration - or throwing in the towel altogether - they explore what didn't work and course-correct. — Lauren Mackler

If you want to be a good parent please heal your own wounds, heal all of them and be confident that you've done so before you seriously consider having children. The unresolved child within you is the real child you need to embrace and heal and raise. — Daniel Mackler

Hey, I wish we hung out more in high school. Why didn't we?"
"I was hiding," Jake said thoughtfully.
"Me too."
"You?"
"In my own way."
Hearing that made Jake wonder if they'd all been in hiding, if he hadn't been the only one who'd felt alone for so much of high school.""Hey, I wish we hung out more in high school. Why didn't we?"
"I was hiding," Jake said thoughtfully.
"Me too."
"You?"
"In my own way."
Hearing that made Jake wonder if they'd all been in hiding, if he hadn't been the only one who'd felt alone for so much of high school."
Excerpt From: Carolyn Mackler. "Infinite in Between." iBooks. — Carolyn Mackler