Kacvinsky Quotes & Sayings

People can't offer you a piece; they need to offer themselves whole, or you will always be asking for more, wishing for more. A piece is never enough. — Katie Kacvinsky

I'd rather fail miserably pursuing my dreams than succeed at something I have to settle for — Katie Kacvinsky

It's temporary, Maddie. This is all very temporary.
Great, I thought. My life will suck, temporarily. For the time being, my life is going to be claustrophobic and awful and lonely and desolate and depressing. Temporarily. — Katie Kacvinsky

I crossed a line by making his family's personal business my own. But isn't that what friendship is? Isn't that what love is? It's more than caring and laughing and inspiring. It's about taking hurt and anger off people's shoulders and helping to carry the weight. It's more important to love people on the worst days than their best. — Katie Kacvinsky

I would never hit Dylan. I would never hurt her. But I just beat her up with words. — Katie Kacvinsky

Comedy and tragedy are basically the same thing. Comedy is just the art of making light of life's sufferings. Turning all your pain into a joke. — Katie Kacvinsky

What's the fun in always knowing where things will take you? — Katie Kacvinsky

I thought I was going to be the first person to die from gum build up clogging my stomach cavity — Katie Kacvinsky

By the way, the other reason I agreed to help you is because I love your eyes. You have the most beautiful eyes. It's my weakness. — Katie Kacvinsky

In my baggy jeans and messy hair, I know I don't fit into this plastic palace. But I don't want to fit in. That's when no one notices you. You leave a longer impression when you're brave enough to stand out. — Katie Kacvinsky

<> he asks. I sit down and think about it. I could list a million reasons. Gray sits next to me.
<> I say. <> I stop rambling and look over at Gray. He's smiling. <> he says. <> I say, stunned. It's the greatest compliment he could ever give me. — Katie Kacvinsky

People become pieces inside of you. They can fill you up and make you a whole. — Katie Kacvinsky

When everything comes easily to you, it never challenges you to change. — Katie Kacvinsky

But how can you be there for someone who doesn't need you? It's like trying to scale a wall without anyone on the top throwing you a rope. You just keep sliding down and eventually your muscles give out, and your energy and your will and your heart. — Katie Kacvinsky

You are the strangest girl I've ever met," he said, like he thought I was joking. He picked up his water bottle and gave me a sideways glance. "Have you ever kissed anybody?" he asked, and took a sip.
I smirked. "There aren't a whole lot of opportunities in the digital world. I did practice on my hand once. It didn't do anything for me."
Justin coughed on the water he was swallowing and I slapped my hand over my mouth.
"Did I just say that out loud?" I mumbled.
He was half coughing, half laughing. "Yes, you did," he managed to say.
"Delete, delete, delete," I said, and pushed an imaginary button in the air. "I really miss that feature."
"No, that's the good stuff. People always want to delete the good stuff." His eyes lit up. "That's a cool idea, though. What would you say, right now, if you could immediately delete it, so no one read it? — Katie Kacvinsky

There's only one certainty in life: how you come into the world. Where you go from there is up to you. — Katie Kacvinsky

Apparently food encourages not only fat cells, but thinking - two things models seem to be missing. — Katie Kacvinsky

I don't want to use Amber, I can't. It's not fair to her. I am not looking for someone to fill my heart or my mind or my bed, because when you are lucky enough to know exactly what you want then fuck the rehearsal. No one else will ever compare. — Katie Kacvinsky

Trust comes by earning it, not expecting it. — Katie Kacvinsky

Love is more like an accident than a plan. It's more of a question than an answer. — Katie Kacvinsky

So why sit around wasting time dwelling on what could have gone wrong? Shouldn't we be celebrating all the things that went right? — Katie Kacvinsky

You let me be who I am. So many people ask me why I need to take pictures all the time. Why I'm staring at something they can't see. It's like I have to apologize for having eyes. But you've never rushed me. I'm at my best around you. You're my nova. You light me up. — Katie Kacvinsky

So many people are full of talk, Maddie. But nothing happens unless someone steps up and takes action. — Katie Kacvinsky

But pain's like water. It finds a way to push through any seal. There's no way to stop it. Sometimes you have to let yourself sink inside of it before you can learn how to swim to the surface. — Katie Kacvinsky

Writing is a window into our souls. — Katie Kacvinsky

Justin: "Say hi to Paul Thompson for me," he added.
Madeline: "Garrlgh," I gagged. The corner of his lips curled up.
Justin: "What was that?"
Madeline: "That was vomit creeping up the back of my mouth when you mentioned Paul's name. — Katie Kacvinsky

We're all meant to lean on something. Or someone.' I smile. He frowns. He surprises me and grabs the pen out of my hand. He starts writing something down in his neat block letters. He slides the journal back to me. 'I build walls around myself. I lean on those.' I don't need to ask him why. Everybody builds walls - it's for protection. I scribble quickly. 'Maybe you should break the walls down once in a while.' 'I'll just build them up again', he writes. 'But maybe you'll add a few windows the next time around. Or a door? — Katie Kacvinsky

You're an abnormality. People get scared when they come across something that doesn't behave the way they expect it to. People like labels and categories and things that they can predict. When people can't explain something, they assume it's because there's something wrong with it. They try to fix it or change it. They mess with it until it's translatable and they bring it down to their level. Trying to change someone is easier than trying to accept them. It's how they were programmed — Katie Kacvinsky

Even small voices can ripple change along. — Katie Kacvinsky

I had everything I wanted in my hand. If I had to choose my eternity, I'd choose this moment, right now, with him. Because there's no place else I'd rather be. — Katie Kacvinsky

Sometimes all you can do is react (Kevin Freeman) — Katie Kacvinsky

Letting go is easy. Anyone can do that. Love is fighting for someone to stay. That's what takes work. — Katie Kacvinsky

You can't tie water down. Watern can be difficult to love too, because it moves around anything trying to contain it. It can overflow its banks and lose its sense of home. — Katie Kacvinsky

Intuition works closely alongside fate, like they're business partners working together to alter the course of your life. — Katie Kacvinsky

What about us? He looks at me. Was there ever really an us? He asks. Or just a me, and a you, and these random moments when our lives accidently collide? Maybe that's it for us. — Katie Kacvinsky

I also like to escape inside their world,
tucked behind their colorful spines. It forces me to fully invest
my mind into what I'm doing, not just my ears or my eyes. — Katie Kacvinsky

Look around you. The earth wouldn't exist without the sun. Plants would die without rain. We're all meant to lean on something. Or someone. — Katie Kacvinsky

I don't know for sure where I'm going to end up.
But I know who I love. And I'm figuring out that might be enough to live for. — Katie Kacvinsky

What a forced lifestyle our technology, our inventions imposed on our lives when we tried to live synonymously with computers; when we stepped inside their world, we left the natural one behind. — Katie Kacvinsky

I think people are nuts to shut themselves inside all day. We're cutting ourselves off from each other and it's only going to get worse. — Katie Kacvinsky

Who's that?" I asked him.
"Probably Noah's latest groupie," Clare offered.
"Don't talk about your mom that way," Pat responded. — Katie Kacvinsky

I love you," she says. "But that doesn't mean I'm ready to give up my life for you. I don't want to pull over and park right now. I want to see places, Gray. I want to live my life. You're asking me to give up who I am. If I move with you, I'll just be living your life. Your dream. I'll regret the things you're going to hold me back from doing, and then I'll probably blame you. And that's not fair to either of us. — Katie Kacvinsky

Anyone can see what's right in front of them, but it's subtle beauty, the kind that takes time to discover, that you have to uncover and dust off, that catches my eye. I find things with cracks and flaws and textures so much more interesting than something polished and perfect and pristine. It's the same way with people. — Katie Kacvinsky

First I thought she was crazy. Now I'm crazy about her. — Katie Kacvinsky

All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control. — Katie Kacvinsky

How am I?"
[ ... ]
"Sometimes it's a rush, like skydiving and other times it's just a smooth ride, like floating in the middle of a calm lake. It's like standing next to a hot fire that's shooting sparks, or walking on the sun and then rolling in the snow. It's like plate tectonics and hailstorms and lighting and earthquakes and hurricane-force winds all happening at once but then everything suddenly stops moving and your mind draws a blank and everything's really peaceful. It's like your mind explodes and all that's left inside your body is heat. — Katie Kacvinsky

It's just sewing words together. Random words in any order. It doesn't even have to mean anything. It just has to mean something to you. — Katie Kacvinsky

Most people were motivated not by what they want but what they want to avoid. — Katie Kacvinsky

I'd rather invest my time collecting memories and friends and love and all the things money can't buy. — Katie Kacvinsky

I crave space. It charges my batteries. It helps me breathe. Being around people can be so exhausting, because most of them love to take and barely know how to give. Except for a rare few. — Katie Kacvinsky

What do you want to see?" he asks. What I always want to see. "A place I'll never forget. — Katie Kacvinsky

My lips crash into hers and my body follows and then my heart. — Katie Kacvinsky

I do the "I just got laid," walk for days after our trip to Los Angeles. It's more like a strut. It's pretty obvious when you're doing it. Your mind is clouded in an euphoric high. Your head held at an angle twenty degrees higher than normal. There's a continual smart-ass grin on your face. Your eyes twinkle, literally, as if stardust fell inside them. You walk taller. Prouder. Your back is held straighter. Shoulders wider. You know you're hot. It's been proven. You had sex. — Katie Kacvinsky

When your time is up, what are your last thoughts going to be?' I asked. 'All of your miserable memories? When you were lonely or scared or heartbroken? The things that almost kill you don't make you stronger. If anything, they make you bitter and closed off and broken.
( ... )
I think what you have to live for makes you stronger — Katie Kacvinsky

You don't have to choose sides," he said. "Make
up your own mind and believe that. — Katie Kacvinsky

But I'm learning it's human nature to want the things you can't have. What changes is how you go about pursuing the things you want. When you're a little kid and you're told no, you scream and throw a temper tantrum. When you're a teenager and your parents tell you no, you're old enough to internalize your temper tantrum. But you're smarter and you're sneakier this time around. So you nod and act like you care when they say no, when they tell you who you can be friends with, when they say the know what's best.
But then you go behind their backs to do it anyway.
Because at some point, you need to start calling the shots. At some point, you need to start believing you know whats best. Or, I thought with a smile, you just stop asking for their permission in the first place. — Katie Kacvinsky

Closure. That's probably the most unrealistic word in the English vocabulary. It's up there with heartbreak, pain, loss, and abandonment, all these things that you're supposed to get over and mend and heal but really, do you ever get over those moments? — Katie Kacvinsky

But almost every story begins with another story's end. — Katie Kacvinsky

Thoughts are circular, they don't take you anywhere. They don't have feet-they can't gain any ground. They can trap you if you don't eventually stand up and make a move. — Katie Kacvinsky

When you get too excited about the possibilities, you don't stop to consider the consequences. Just when you get too cocky, life has a way of putting you in your place. — Katie Kacvinsky

I think music is seasonal. In the summer my taste changes. — Katie Kacvinsky

What does agonizical mean?" she asks. I hold up my hands like it's obvious. "To be consumed with shock and denial at unrequited love from the man who is supposed to be your soul mate, — Katie Kacvinsky

Life is supposed to be a risk. It's written everywhere around us. We are meant to take chances. We are meant to explode and shatter and spiral. Even if we break, we'll come back to a still point. We are made that way, just another natural element, if we remember to stay natural. — Katie Kacvinsky

more important to love people on their worst days than their best. — Katie Kacvinsky

We'll never realize our potential if we always live inside the boundaries of what we fear. Teaching society to be afraid and stay tucked safely behind their locked doors is not the answer to human problems. It only conceals the problem, like a bandage. It doesn't fix it. Giving the problem open air and room to breathe, to mix with other elements, is what helps it heal. — Katie Kacvinsky

If you never leave where you come from, I don't think you'll ever figure out who you are, because how much is forced on you? How much of your personality is imposed instead of created? That's why I left. I think people need to leave in order to find their potential. — Katie Kacvinsky

I'm not your only love, Gray," She insisted. "I'm just your first love. — Katie Kacvinsky

Dylan doesn't make plans. She unmakes plans. She has planaphobia. The fear of plans. — Katie Kacvinsky

It's hard to accept that you've missed out on a person, that all you'll ever know of them are pieced-together stories. It's not like missing out on a party or a concert-those are temporary experiences, and you'll have other opportunities. But this is permanent. It's like being robbed of something valuable you never had the privilege to own. — Katie Kacvinsky

Have you ever tried doing nothing? It's actually really hard. There are so many distractions. But it's the best feeling in the world. If I could prescribe a bottle of nothing to people, it would make life so much better. — Katie Kacvinsky

You need to be able to fill that space on your own, Maddie. You should never have to rely on another person to make you feel whole. That life is dangerous. — Katie Kacvinsky

I wouldn't want to be that smart" Clare added. "Sometimes the more you know, the harder it is to enjoy life. It's like you lose curiosity or something. — Katie Kacvinsky

Life is three-dimensional, but there are other dimensions we can't see, can only feel, and those are the ones I want to explore. — Katie Kacvinsky

The happiest people aren't necessarily the most successful, or the most popular, or the most talented. They're the ones who are interested in the people around them. — Katie Kacvinsky

The water stretched out into the distance until it held hands with the sky. — Katie Kacvinsky

Don't be afraid to fall. Your wings will catch you. — Katie Kacvinsky

Hope works like that. It hinds and blends in, only to pop out when you least expect it. It's always a surprise, something you step on, trip over, or stumble on by accident. It hides in the divots of our lives. in the loneliest valleys. It's like a child, always playing hide and seek to keep our lives unpredictable. Just when we're about to give up, hope turns on, like light, to guide out way. — Katie Kacvinsky

I hated how my parents would talk about me like i wasnt watching. — Katie Kacvinsky

We're taught to love only a few people. We think it's this sacred resource, like we'll run out of it at some point. But the more you love, the more it's returned to you. Hands down. You can't argue with that."
"Maybe," I say. "Or maybe you stop giving it so freely because one day it's taken away and it hurts so much, you need to protect yourself."
She know what I'm referring to. "Until you realize love's the only think worth living for in the first place. — Katie Kacvinsky

We are shaped so much by the events in our lives, but even more than that, we're shaped by the people that come in and out of our lives. — Katie Kacvinsky

You can't stop people from being
human. We're creative, we're social. People are like water. If you
try to contain them, they find a way to break free. — Katie Kacvinsky

He acted as solid as stone but when it comes to emotions, we're all made out of glass — Katie Kacvinsky

A single kiss can be one of the craziest things you ever do. — Katie Kacvinsky

We're all looking for a rhythm, a movement that isn't forced, that feels right. I wanted to be more surefooted. I was still searching for the perfect pace. — Katie Kacvinsky

Change happens slowly. And it only happens one person at a time, one day at a time. — Katie Kacvinsky

What do you say when you're not enough to make someone stay? — Katie Kacvinsky

Her mom showed her that when life hands you tragedy, you can do two things with it. You can let it kick you down and make you weak and turn you into a victim. Or you can have hope that you'll get through it and there's still something amazing to live for.
Dylan tells me victims don't make it very far in life. — Katie Kacvinsky

What kind of parents willingly name their kid Spud? They should be arrested for douchebaggery. — Katie Kacvinsky

People are like their own ecosystems, little planets made up of islands and climates and forecasts. Some of us carry jagged mountain peaks, and some of us carry lakes. — Katie Kacvinsky

I wasn't rebellious. Maybe I was just more human than the average person. — Katie Kacvinsky

I love you and fried eggs and you more. — Katie Kacvinsky

It's easy to be far away from people you love when you think everyone's happy. But when you find out someone needs you and you can't be there, it makes the distance grow claws and teeth and start to gnaw at your heart. — Katie Kacvinsky

Hey, God, did I do something to piss you off? Because I'm starting to think you enjoy twisting the knife in my heart every chance you get. If too much happiness dares to encroach on my life, does some siren go off up there? Uh-oh, Gray's too happy right now. We can't have that. Time to shit all over his life again. — Katie Kacvinsky

You can use power for good or bad, for control or freedom. You grew up watching your dad abuse it one way and it made you take the opposite direction. That's what we all think. Everything's about balance. That's what sustains life. Maybe your role is to keep your dad in check? — Katie Kacvinsky

I'm used to the security of living behind my online profiles and the clip art advertisdements I create to define me. I can be whoever I want to be in that world. I can be funny, deep, pensive, eccentric. I can be the best version of myself. I can make all the right decisions. I can delete my flaws by pressing a button.
In the real world anything can happen. It's like stepping onto an icy surface
you have to adjust your footing or you'll slip and fall. Your movements become rigid and unsure because behind all the fancy gadgets and all that digital armor, you realize you're just flesh and bones. — Katie Kacvinsky

If we could only see internal beauty, what would people look like? Who would the supermodels be? — Katie Kacvinsky

I can't believe she tricked me into spending another day with her. I have a life, I want to tell her. I have four episodes of Myth Busters to catch up on. Okay, I don't have a life. — Katie Kacvinsky

When we sat down in the plane, Clare took something out of her pocket and handed it to me. It looked like a tube of lipstick.
I frowned at her. 'Is this really the time to swap make-up?' I asked.
She grinned. 'It's a hand taser. My parents make me carry one.' She took the cap off and pointed to the metal edge. 'If someone attacks you, you press the tip against their skin and it shoots out a charge.'
I looked down at it. 'Does it last long?'
She shook her head. 'It's pretty harmless. Noah and Pat used to play taser tag around the house when I was growing up. — Katie Kacvinsky

What would you call your decorating style?" I asked. "Boring-bachelor? Or messy-loner? He looked over at me. "More like distracted-about-my-detainee-girlfriend," he said. — Katie Kacvinsky

You are perfect. Your fingernails drive me crazy. — Katie Kacvinsky