Deschene Quotes & Sayings

But for the first time, I had a religious identity. I had come home. And so I called myself a Zen Buddhist at the age of 18. — M. Scott Peck

I wanted to wrap her in my arms and brush my eyelashes against hers in butterfly kisses. — Viet Thanh Nguyen

Thinking isn't just an activity; it manifests as a state of being. — Lori Deschene

You don't have to be positive all the time. It's perfectly okay to feel sad, angry, annoyed, frustrated, scared, or anxious. Having feelings doesn't make you a 'negative person.' It makes you human. — Lori Deschene

We can sabotage our days by imagining tomorrow will be better; or we can seize our moments by forgiving ourselves when we struggle and doing the best we can right now. — Lori Deschene

I think Hillary Clinton is terrific. — Elizabeth Warren

The reality is that tomorrow is most certainly uncertain and no matter how many expectations we form, tomorrow will come, tomorrow will go and it will all be what it will be. — Lori Deschene

So do I, Mrs. Hardy. Six o'clock, then. — Linda Howard

They say bachelors have all the fun. Not so. You just get old and full of sand, nasty. — Stephen King

You don't have to like something to accept it. — Lori Deschene

We can't hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love. — Lori Deschene

Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you're about to react harshly and you'll avoid doing and saying things you'll later regret. — Lori Deschene

The art world can be very intimidating because it's just so vast. You talk to people who are really clued in to all the young artists and coming into it you're never going to be able to catch up immediately, even though there's pressure to. — Daniel Radcliffe

Regardless of our circumstances, we always have a choice. We can choose more of the same; or we can recognize this moment is different and that we can be different, too. — Lori Deschene

If we can observe and understand how our thoughts are impacting us, we can change who we're being and how we're experiencing the world. — Lori Deschene

As you work toward your goals today, tune into your underlying motivations and ask yourself: Am I focusing all my energy on a happy tomorrow to the detriment of today? — Lori Deschene

At the end of the day, remind yourself that you did the best you could today, and that is good enough. — Lori Deschene

Another chunk of my childhood dreams had just run down the reality drain in the form of a horny unicorn, no less. — Allison Pang

The moment we decide things don't have to be a certain way, we create the possibility that they could be better than we know to imagine them. — Lori Deschene

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. - UNKNOWN I — Lori Deschene

We don't need to identify concrete solutions to all our problems. We don't need to create the illusion of control amid uncertain circumstances. We need to accept that our biggest problem is fighting the way things are, and then consciously choose to stop battling ourselves. We have to choose to be in this moment instead of scheming toward something better. This moment is a new opportunity to let go of everything that's stressing us. This moment is a new chance to take a deep breath so that we don't feel so overwhelmed. This moment is a tiny lifetime, all in itself, and we have the choice to live it. — Lori Deschene

We can't fully appreciate a picturesque sunset if we're wishing it would never rain again. We can't fully enjoy a moment of true connection if we're wishing we'd never feel alone again. We can't fully savor a relaxing day if we're wishing we'd never be busy again. The key to happiness is to focus less on making moments last and more on making the moments count. — Lori Deschene

If we choose to learn and grow from the things that happen to us, is it even necessary to guess at why they happened? What's a more productive use of our energy - searching for meaning outside ourselves or creating meaning within ourselves? — Lori Deschene

This habit starts awfully early. Social psychologist Marilynn Brewer, who has been studying the nature of stereotypes for many years, once reported that her daughter returned from kindergarten complaining that "boys are crybabies."25 The child's evidence was that she had seen two boys crying on their first day away from home. Brewer, ever the scientist, asked whether there hadn't also been little girls who cried. "Oh yes," said her daughter. "But only some girls cry. I didn't cry." Brewer's little girl was already dividing the world, as everyone does, into us and them. Us is the most fundamental social category in the brain's organizing system, and it's hardwired. — Carol Tavris