Debora Quotes & Sayings

If we don't find a way to keep women in the workforce, keep them productive, keep them happy, we are literally just throwing our investment down the drain, and we can't afford to do that. — Debora Spar

If you look at television shows, which of course are fictional so you don't expect them to be real, but they're constantly showing career women who are also successful mothers and also look gorgeous. And we fall into believing that these fictional lives are somehow accurate depictions of what our real lives should be about. — Debora Spar

Speed made things happen faster than her brain could process them. — Debora Geary

Rather than seeing the opportunities that feminism created they very easy morph into expectations. — Debora Spar

Don't take too much credit for your children - or too much blame! — Debora Spar

We need to have honest conversations among women and men to say how do we stop blaming each other? Because I'm not saying that every woman wants to be a corporate CEO. We need so that the women who are corporate CEOs get supported and they're not looking askance or down at women who make other choices in life. — Debora Spar

[She] discovered what feminism intended to be about, or at least a piece of what it promised to the generations who followed blindly in its wake. The freedom to live one's life apart from any prescribed pathway. The ability to love men and children and jobs but not lose one's self to them. The opportunity to embrace choices rather than just have them. — Debora L. Spar

I wanted a bath, even if it were dust. A strigil to scrape the skin that I couldn't crawl out of. — Debora Greger

"I'm pretty sure if it weren't for you, I'd have spent the rest of my life terrified of crowded places. I can't thank you enough. — Debora Geary

I'm pretty good at most things where immaturity is an asset. — Debora Geary

Sometimes truth was the most brutal weapon of all. And the greatest gift. — Debora Geary

I think what women are doing to themselves is that they're seeing these different images of perfection - the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect career person, the perfect movie star - and they're somehow thinking that they should be all of these things, and that's the problem. — Debora Spar

For the rest of her life, hope was going to smell a little bit like bacon. — Debora Geary

You might go, but you won't go far! — Debora Hooper

Words have power. And when you put them out there, it makes them real for other people, and maybe it changes the world a little." He shrugged. "Or maybe it changes you." — Debora Geary

Anyone who is a sinner in the human race ... is a candidate for salvation. — Debora Hooper

I certainly want to be ambitious for women. I'm ambitious for myself. I think women can definitely find areas in which they want to excel. — Debora Spar

I think what we need to do is to step back as a society and say okay, we've kind of turned things upside-down. We have moved away from the nuclear family, in which the man always works and the woman stays home. How are we going to rearrange things now? We've done the first part of the revolution, we've turned everything on its head, but we haven't figured out what structures will actually work in this new world. — Debora Spar

Uncle Marcus was going to help with training? Elorie looked around for flying pigs. — Debora Geary

Vero collapsed in a chair, overtaken with delicious giggles. The child had bought underwear to match a plastic frog. An act of perfect silliness. — Debora Geary

Only two bags, huh?" Helga was eighty, feisty, and the fastest knitter Elsie had ever seen. "We'll have to work on that. It's not a respectable stash until it has its own room. — Debora Geary

You have to learn to say no not just to things you don't want to do, you have to say no to things that you want to do, things that are good to do. You have to realize that every time you say yes to one thing you've got to take something else off the plate. Critically, I think you have to realize that it's easier to say no than to say maybe. — Debora Spar

It's oppressive ... It's food, it's clothing, it's all the magazines that come under the heading of things looking simple. Men's magazines don't seem to do this. They seem to be about things that are fun, not things you have to spend lots of hours on and then fail at. — Debora Spar

I think one thing that women can do is to just be more honest, with themselves and with their friends, and be more willing to say I'm really excited about this part of my life, but I'm screwing up over here, or this is a mistake I've made, or this is something I've given up on. — Debora Spar

Sometimes, the hardest thing of all is being tossed on the winds. — Debora Geary

As a result, ostensibly liberated women often found themselves struggling with three full-time jobs: working inside the home, working outside the home, and trying to be thin. — Debora L. Spar

We've reached the point where the demand for rules is about to replace the demand for chaos. — Debora Spar

'Maybe' is what gets us into trouble, because I think constantly women are saying I'll try to do it, maybe I'll do it, I'll do it if I can, and then they're feeling guilty when inevitably they can't do everything. — Debora Spar

The desert lay in wait, more infinite than God, no less remote. — Debora Greger

Roses are red, violets are blue,
This room's a psycho shopping zoo.
The fashion's a disaster, the mirrors are large,
And somebody left a crazy lady with needles in charge. — Debora Geary

I was in a book group in 1973," she recounted. "We read The Feminine Mystique one week, and the next week everyone went out and got a job. The book group never met again. — Debora L. Spar

I think sometimes by portraying our lives as being too perfect, as being too balanced, we're actually selling younger women a bill of goods that's not true. — Debora Spar

I really don't see any men sitting in the corner office plotting to keep women out. All the men I know are actively trying to promote women, to get more women involved. These men have wives they care about; they have daughters they desperately care about. So I don't think it's fair to blame men - or I don't think it's accurate to blame men anymore. — Debora Spar

Clearly i Bible times, women were used in ministry leadership roles, and still are today. — Debora Hooper

Honestly...this is why I write.
I write to get the happy ending I sometimes feel is eluding me.
I write for my sanity. — Debora Dennis

Women are racing all the time to try to have a perfect house and perfect kids and be a perfect cook. Men, somehow, for whatever reason, seem to be better able to pick and choose, to focus on things they like and that are important to them, and let the other things go. — Debora Spar

Women should feel more liberated to say you know what? I can't bake the cookies for the school bake sale because I just don't have the time. Or I'm really sorry, but I can't do this at work because I've got too much else going on this week. We have to be more up front in saying no, for lack of a better word, and then modeling that for others. — Debora Spar

The greatest impediment to women's liberation is dumb commercials. — Debora Geary

They never used three words where one would do. — Debora Geary

They're coming out of high school exhausted. The pressure in high school is killing these kids. By the time they get to college, they have been fighting for three or four years to get the perfect SAT scores and get into A.P. classes. — Debora Spar

Strive not for perfection..but for lives and loves that matter. — Debora Spar

I rode Caro's bike down a hill with no hands, and then I went sock shopping because I was sad to say goodbye to Alfred, and the socks were cute, but there was this purple lace bra." She ground to a halt, cheeks steaming. "It was the same color as Alfred. — Debora Geary

Winter comes to balance the warm glow of summer and to teach us to cherish it. A few minutes outside in the cold helps me to remember that. — Debora Geary

If two people have a couple of kids, somebody does have to take care of the kids. Somebody does have to cook dinner; somebody does have to do garbage duty. We need to take some time and give some thought, without being angry, to just thinking about what these new structures are going to look like. — Debora Spar

It was feminism that made it possible for women to go to the Ivy League and women to be astronauts and women to have their own TV shows. What happened, though, was that the generation after feminism, which is my generation, misunderstood what feminism was saying. — Debora Spar

To be a minister of the Word in any capacity, one MUST experience a call. — Debora Hooper

The point is to learn to live with roots inside yourself, instead of a thousand stupid rules to guide your day. Who are you without your rules, Elsie? Who would you find if you had the guts to just lie still and let go? — Debora Geary

Toddlers are germ-warfare machines in a cute package
- Debora Geary — Debora Geary

It's like parenting. The hardest, most intensive time comes at the very beginning. We still love those babies as they grow into daredevil children, recalcitrant teens, and parents setting eyes on their own babes for the first time. We just get a little more sleep while we do it. — Debora Geary

Feminism wasn't supposed to make us miserable. It was supposed to make us free; to give women the power to shape their fortunes and work for a more just world. Today, women have choices that their grandmothers could not have imagined. The challenge lies in recognizing that having choices carries the responsibility to make them wisely, striving not for perfection or the ephemeral all, but for lives and loves that matter. — Debora Spar

I believe that if you feel you are in love, you are in love. By — Debora Phillips

Fear is passion in a negative direction. — Debora M. Coty

We must ... forge partnerships with those around us, and begin to dismantle the myth of solitary perfection. — Debora Spar

... honor must precede honorariums. — Debora Hooper

Youngest Brother, swan's wing,
where one arm should be, yours the shirt
of nettles short a sleeve
and me with no time left to finish --
I didn't mend you all the way back into man
though I managed for your brothers;
they flit again from court to playing-courts
to courting, while you station yourself,
wing folded from sight, avian eye
to the outside, no rebuke meant but love's.
Was it better then, the living on the water,
the taking to air...?

("Ever After," from the book 'The Poets' Grimm') — Debora Greger

To walk at the side of an amazing woman is a journey all its own, — Debora Geary

I certainly wouldn't go back and blame feminism, because all that feminism was really trying to do, which was huge, was to create a new set of expectations, a new set of opportunities for women, and they did. — Debora Spar

Magic would always have a place in the world as long as those hints of reverence continued to exist. — Debora Geary