Shannon L. Alder Quotes & Sayings

Sometimes, it will never make sense until you find the right path that makes sense to you and no one else. — Shannon L. Alder

The people meant to be in your life will look inside, not just stare at the pretty bow on the box. — Shannon L. Alder

The problem with people that ignore people they dislike is they can't ignore them. Anger carries a person in your mind forever, whether you choose to speak to them or not. Therefore, don't mistake prosperity or accomplishments as resolution. You can't escape what you will not deal with. The day you can stand in the room with someone and not be affected is the day you truly moved on. — Shannon L. Alder

Insanity is starting over a million times, expecting to feel the spark you never did the first time. — Shannon L. Alder

If you walk in any direction walk in the direction toward your greatest dream. — Shannon L. Alder

Introspective souls are often tormented by their passionate visions. This is because visionaries see what shall be and wake up to what is. However, if you couldn't see a glimpse of the city lights while stranded in the forest, how would you ever know to walk in that direction? Sometimes, your vision can't be put into action, until you gather the learning experiences, along your journey first. — Shannon L. Alder

Your expectations of other people should never be greater than what you expect of God. Why is it that you can patiently wait for him to make your life better, but you won't consider he is patiently waiting for you to be better? — Shannon L. Alder

You will never be able to see clearly when people around you distort your view of truth with their own clouded version. You will begin to read into everything incorrectly and find yourself lost in a delusional story stitched together from the crumbs of over analyzed words once spoken, misunderstandings or speculation. Life should not be wasted by collecting clues or piecing together a puzzle about how someone feels. Love is straightforward and it is clearly seen on the cloudiest days of your life. If someone loves you it will be obvious. They won't let you go, until you ask them to. — Shannon L. Alder

You can change the place you live, your clothes, your interests, your friends, your religion and even your partner. However, if you forgot to change your mind, attitude, beliefs about the world, how you treat people and how you plan to be different this time around, why did you even bother? — Shannon L. Alder

There is no end to the things you don't understand. The mind will search for a lie to give it an answer you can understand, but one song at the right time will challenge what you accept. — Shannon L. Alder

Be the hero of your children's story. Never let them believe for a minute that honor, courage and doing what is right is only reserved for other fathers and mothers. — Shannon L. Alder

Don't waste your time being what someone wants you to become, in order to feed their list of rules, boundaries and insecurities. Find your tribe. They will allow you to be you, while you dance in the rain. — Shannon L. Alder

Forgiveness is not an invitation to become a doormat for other people's hypocrisy. — Shannon L. Alder

Being a good person doesn't mean you fit the life of every person you meet. — Shannon L. Alder

I use to think being a warning was not meant to be apart of anyone's life purpose. However, how could you teach anything in life, without the deepest understanding of what not to do? Personally, I don't want someone offering advice, unless they have been to hell and back with a map and a compass. — Shannon L. Alder

If they truly loved you they won't devalue you. — Shannon L. Alder

Control doesn't validate love; it validates the nonexistence of trust and the painful unwillingness to accept the truth. — Shannon L. Alder

Maybe, if you can't get someone out of your head they were never meant to leave. Perhaps, they were meant to help change you into the person you have been waiting to become. — Shannon L. Alder

The person who says it can't be done is almost always interrupted by the person who is doing it. — Shannon L. Alder

Your heart's strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self worth and faith is measured by finally letting go. However, your peace is measured by how long you don't look back. — Shannon L. Alder

The problem was never my mind; it was a heart that could never hold all that it felt. — Shannon L. Alder

You can rationalize anything, but that is not total honesty, only your version of it based on your upbringing and experiences outside of everyone else's reality. — Shannon L. Alder

Never keep your brain so full that people's opinions take up every pew in your mind, and truth has to be "born again" before it is believed. — Shannon L. Alder

If you want someone to help you heal then you don't go to the enemy; you go to the one person that fears a bad reputation if they don't help you. — Shannon L. Alder

All things come to an end, but when you open your eyes after a long sleep a new journey begins. — Shannon L. Alder

You know your testimony is strong when your roots are so deep that other people's storms will never knock you over. — Shannon L. Alder

The best plot twists are the ones you didn't expect. — Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes we can spend too much time trying to fix our life that we forget to live. — Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes, you have to go through a bunch of life lessons before God unites you with the person you were meant to be with. — Shannon L. Alder

Music is the beat of a drum that keeps time with our emotions. — Shannon L. Alder

There is no amount of bad karma that can compete with a contrite spirit and God's forgiveness. — Shannon L. Alder

Marriage is the beginning of love for your spouse, not the result of it. — Shannon L. Alder

The question isn't who will be with me in life, rather how will I create the ending I am proud of? — Shannon L. Alder

Kindness is as simple as being grateful for the love anyone has shown you, by not destroying them because it isn't on your terms. — Shannon L. Alder

The God I believe in believes in me and won't silence my heart or others based on a paycheck at the end of the day. — Shannon L. Alder

The people that understand you the most are not always the people you call family. Often, it is the person that has traveled a parallel road because they have seen the same scenery in life and can comment on the view. — Shannon L. Alder

Always remember that you have been called worse things by better people. — Shannon L. Alder

Sometimes, the scariest thing you will ever have to do is trust God to fight the battles you can no longer fight. — Shannon L. Alder

The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow. — Shannon L. Alder

Anyone can have a friend, but the one that would walk in a storm to find you is all you will ever need. — Shannon L. Alder

A brilliant mind was first a listener that observed the actions of the people that loved and hated them, then found a way to express their feelings, when real communication was lost. — Shannon L. Alder

If you are hurting because they hurt then they are the ONE. — Shannon L. Alder

Apathetic people sit back and wait for things to get better before they move. Radical people make things get better, by how they move. — Shannon L. Alder

God never uses one approach to the get his job done in the world. Each soul has its own way of being reached. He has put inside of each of us an unique song, that only another heart can hear clearly. To wish you were someone else robs another human being of the special blessings, talents and gifts God meant for you to share. — Shannon L. Alder

When you find love you will know. It will be the one thing worth waiting for. — Shannon L. Alder

You will always feel insignificant if you never do anything to change the world or another person's life, other than your own. — Shannon L. Alder

Your heart will always go where your mind wanders. — Shannon L. Alder

Nobody knows what God's plan is for your life, but a whole lot of people will guess for you if you let them. — Shannon L. Alder

People seldom change. Only their masks do. It is only our perception of them and the perception they have of themselves that actually change. — Shannon L. Alder

Every talent you have is not wasted. It is there because of a reason and God will open that door when the right time comes along to use it. — Shannon L. Alder

The greatest heroes in life are those that never give up on someone. They stick it out and make it work. They sacrifice things in their life, in order to help others grow. They give up what they want because someone needs it more. They work hard and overcome adversity. They fail for a moment, but get back up on their feet to show others they don't have to stay down. They show their loved ones that love is not "proved" by conformity. They teach others that having a voice is a sign of courage, and they will not stay silent to make people feel comfortable. They are fearless and will do whatever it takes to bring about the greatness in the ones they love because doing so brings them peace. Their name is
MOM. — Shannon L. Alder

It is better to be alone then to be in a relationship, while you are trying to figure out what love means to you. — Shannon L. Alder

Your tears are never invisible
there is always an insecure woman that lights up when you point them out. — Shannon L. Alder

If you have never met a woman that would never give up, then you have never met a woman that has seen miracles. — Shannon L. Alder

Your tears for others will float you closer toward God. — Shannon L. Alder

The most glorious moment you will ever experience in your life is when you look back and see how God was protecting you all this time. — Shannon L. Alder

No one can change a person, but a person can be the reason someone changes. — Shannon L. Alder

There really is nothing normal about being in love with someone. It's a million emotions with a million excuses. — Shannon L. Alder

We are not at the bargaining table in agreement to end abuse to our world. We are on the battlefield deciding everyday if we will let this world die or live, by how we contribute to its treatment. — Shannon L. Alder

When you can identify the insecurities inside the person that is hurting you then you can begin to heal. It isn't about you. It is about their past. — Shannon L. Alder

When words don't add up in love, it is because of six possible reasons:
1. They are afraid to tell you the truth because you will leave them.
2. They enjoy being a liar or playing people because of ego reasons and/or control.
3. They don't know the truth themselves.
4. They are undecided.
5. They refuse to let their guard down and be vulnerable because you or someone else have hurt them tremendously.
6. You are not being told all the information because of a break down in communication. — Shannon L. Alder

There is nothing spiritual about a marriage that uses guilt, blame, shame or religious manipulations to keep a relationship together. — Shannon L. Alder

Every thought leads me back to crossroads of patience, forgiveness and love. — Shannon L. Alder

There are so many things to regret in your lifetime, but loving someone is not one of them. You gave the purest part of your soul to someone else. It takes courage to risk your heart in a world where very few people take risks. The lesson of lost love is not found in regret. It is found in understanding how much love you truly are capable of. One day, the right person will comes along and you will recognize real love because their love will resemble something you once gave away. — Shannon L. Alder

Stop expecting the world to affirm you as a person. Half of the world will like you and the other half will hate you, despite what you say or do. Christ knew this truth, but he did his life mission anyways. — Shannon L. Alder

We are all children coming inside from recess with varying degrees of dirt on us. — Shannon L. Alder

God has witnessed everything done to you. Those that love God will feel shame for what they did. Those that don't ....do not know God or have a concept of repentance or forgiveness. — Shannon L. Alder

Peace can only be found in what your extraordinary imagination has defined as an ordinary life. — Shannon L. Alder

I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. — Shannon L. Alder

Surviving isn't around us, but in us. — Shannon L. Alder

Hope has a way of casting shadows on the truth. — Shannon L. Alder

Being cryptic is an art unto itself. — Shannon L. Alder

You will know it is love when the need can't be met by yourself or God. — Shannon L. Alder

We were meant to rescue each other, not cut down the forest to rescue one. — Shannon L. Alder

I don't even pretend to believe I know everything; I just believe in arguments God told me I had a pretty good chance of winning, while I was traveling through hell. — Shannon L. Alder

There are always a million words behind the silence. — Shannon L. Alder

The best of who you are is not from who you have in your life, rather who they helped you become because they loved you. — Shannon L. Alder

What are words without the melody? — Shannon L. Alder

Every romantic knows that love was never a noun; it is a verb. — Shannon L. Alder

A wise woman protects her kids. A wiser woman hangs out with police officers, retired FBI agents and private investigators. — Shannon L. Alder

Worry is like a roller coaster ride that you think will take you somewhere, but it never does. — Shannon L. Alder

I am quite scandalous, you see. I come packaged with unpredictable moments, brutal honesty, calamitous outbursts, the ghastly need for love, a fiendish lack of filter, the horrific need to question everything, nauseating affection, offensive kindness, indecent spirituality, obscene beauty, monstrous creativity, barbaric embellishments, contemptuous passion, sinful childhood traumas, unscrupulous hobbies, vexatious caring, abominable sensitivity, reprehensible humor, hideous sarcasm, displeasing feelings, unpalatable confidence, offensive compassion, villainous inspiration and a devilish wit. I am quite grotesque in my imperfectness and I am not ashamed to admit it. — Shannon L. Alder

The most important journey you will take in your life will usually be the one of self transformation. Often, this is the scariest because it requires the greatest changes, in your life. — Shannon L. Alder

Fear is the glue that keeps you stuck. Faith is the solvent that sets you free. — Shannon L. Alder

When you heart knows it doesn't belong there, it will continue to self sabotage your future, until you make the choice you wanted, but found a million excuses not to pursue. — Shannon L. Alder

It is the apathetic person that sees the cause while the charitable person sees the need. — Shannon L. Alder

If you hold onto a man hoping someone else won't get them you have learned how to be desperate, not wise. — Shannon L. Alder

If you have to make a daily choice to be in a relationship then you are married to the past, not the person. — Shannon L. Alder

When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self acceptance opened. — Shannon L. Alder

Buried emotions are caged nighthawks that have fallen in love with the moon. They don't understand the sun because they were born with the darkness of shadows in their soul. — Shannon L. Alder

The empty spaces of your soul are the ones you search for, pray for and want so desperately to be filled. They are also the spaces that will never be filled, until you are ready to do something you have never done. — Shannon L. Alder

Often romantic relationships fail because you are trying to get someone to fall in love with the YOU that you never discovered. — Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: Confident women know the difference between being a meal ticket and being the meal. — Shannon L. Alder

You can't turn love off like a light switch. If you could it wouldn't be love. It is something that you keep on, until the bulb burns out or someone replaces it. — Shannon L. Alder

A fantasy is nothing more than a dream you were too scared to chase. — Shannon L. Alder

When you judge other people without wanting to know the true story behind their actions, is usually when there is something inside of you that is so broken that if you found out what you believed about them was a lie, you wouldn't want to accept it or make amends. — Shannon L. Alder

You don't go to church to find God; you bring him with you - attitude. — Shannon L. Alder

The definition of hell is two people in a relationship that is starved for love and unable to fulfill that need. — Shannon L. Alder

Empowered Women 101: A confident woman doesn't have to talk a man into loving her. He either loves her completely, not enough or not at all. Regardless, she doesn't settle for less than she deserves. — Shannon L. Alder

God has a plan and guess what? The plan is to stop waiting for him to do everything for you. The person you want in your life is not a sign. Not a clue. Not a wish. Not a prayer. Not a tarot card or a matter of timing. It is work. It is devotion, and like any dream if you want it then God will open doors for you to obtain it. You just have to stop setting the bar so low that everything below is a sign from God and everything above is asking too much. — Shannon L. Alder