Patrick Califia Quotes & Sayings

If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication. — Patrick Califia

When it comes to your inner critic, my advice is to not take advice from someone who doesn't like you. That's like returning to the perpetrator for healing after you've been abused. — Patrick Califia

As an activist, you gotta pick something that's particularly interesting to you and go for it - because there's no shortage of things to do. And it's sort of a long-term commitment. Activism is for life. — Patrick Califia

Boy lovers and the lesbians who have young lovers ... are not child molesters. The child abusers are priests, teachers, therapists, cops and parents who force their staid morality onto the young people in their custody. — Patrick Califia

The scars are a way of reminding me that the past is real. They are honorable. — Patrick Califia

This is one of the reasons we need to transition: people can't validate an identity they can't see. — Patrick Califia

Prejudice usually can't survive close contact with the people who are supposed to be so despicable, which is why the propagandists for hate always preach separation. — Patrick Califia

When you're hurting another person, past a certain point you're cracking them open and whatever's inside them gets all over you. So you should kinda check out whether you want that to happen. — Patrick Califia

A lot of people who are depressed, I think, are suffering from blocked creativity. — Patrick Califia

Responsibility without power is a really bad deal. — Patrick Califia

By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden. — Patrick Califia