Jane Lotter Quotes & Sayings

The Bette Davis Club," she said. "You've joined, you're a member. It's my metaphor for any female - and there've been zillions - who gets a crush on a gay fellow, dates a gay fellow, or heaven help us, marries a gay fellow. — Jane Lotter

But nothing's really free, is it? People always make you pay one way or another. — Jane Lotter

It might interest you to know," Tully says, "that there's a reason people build miniatures. Doesn't matter if it's guys laying out model railroads or women decorating dollhouses. It's about control. It's about reinventing reality." [...] "Some people get a lot of satisfaction in creating a little world they can escape to. In making things turn out the way they want, at least in their dreams. — Jane Lotter

We're half siblings, after all. We share the same DNA - and in our family, DNA stands for Denial Now and Always. — Jane Lotter

But most of all, remember that marriage is about much more than mere carnal desire. It's about being good to each other. It's about being kind. It's about seeking the very best within your own soul and sharing that very best, that goodness, with your partner. Only then will you truly start your new life together. Only then will you truly be married. — Jane Lotter

I cannot deny that Vera, in her own way--in the way of all human beings who are kind and not cruel--really is lovely. — Jane Lotter

I don't know if you're hip to this, but aside from genetics, the number one requirement for being a drunk is self-pity. — Jane Lotter

Still, they must have got a few things right," Malcolm says. His green eyes sparkle. "You turned out beautifully, if I may say so."
"Oh, you can say it," I reply, taking a drag off my cigarette. "Whether or not I'll believe you is something else entirely. — Jane Lotter

I was thinking how most people don't make you feel much of anything at all. Don't make you feel like time spent with them has grace, like every moment in their company is a gift. But Finn did. Finn, my midsummer night's dream. — Jane Lotter

And may you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path. — Jane Lotter

I believe in giving as honest an answer as I can. Because perhaps if people spent more time being honest with each other, especially with children, there would be less unhappiness in the world. — Jane Lotter

idea. But if you look at her early films, the best ones are all about Bette wanting a male she can't have: Dangerous. All This, and Heaven Too. Jezebel. The Letter. Now, Voyager. They're all about the unattainable. They're all about a woman desiring a man she can never possess. — Jane Lotter

Tully starts in again. 'See, the hidden value can go way deeper than sentimental attachment. Sometimes you feel it down to your soul. Like maybe you're the one person who appreciates a work of art that everybody else hates. [...] This thing you treasure, this thing nobody else wants, could also be what you'd call organic. It could be alive. [...] That's what falling in love is, isn't it? Discovering the hidden value in someone. — Jane Lotter

I take in his smooth cheeks, his rough chin and jaw, the developing wrinkles at the corners of his eyes.
'We fall in love with somebody who maybe seems like a bad match,' Tully says, 'and our friends run around saying 'What does he see in her?' What he sees in her is what's hidden from everyone else. He's fallen in love with something invisible.'
'Or possibly he's made a common mistake,' I say, gazing at Tully. 'He was needy. He fell for outward appearances. He projected onto this person whatever it was he'd always longed for in a relationship, whatever he hungered for in life. He fell in love with the idea of love.'
'That's a pretty cynical point of view,' Tully says. — Jane Lotter

Myself, I knew a writer - not your father - who once told me his worst day writing was better than his best day not writing. — Jane Lotter

It was because I would ask myself, What is the point? I would stay away for a while. But I always came back. — Jane Lotter

But Finn was like no one else. He could be funny, teasing, informative all at once. I was discovering that smart, engaged dialogue with a man is extremely erotic. Cleverness is an aphrodisiac. — Jane Lotter